Did you have support?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

She needs recommendations.

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

[ree-Xi]

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

[MaggieXi]

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

Nope. I graduated last year.

And, sadly, no. None of my friends are interested in going Greek. They think its silly and all the nasty rumors about greek life is true. ]:

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

That is true (so far, haven't contacted everyone yet). But either way, someone might have a family member or a co-worker or something. You never know where you'll find someone.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

Right now, they are all I have. I'm not at home, all my friends are a two+ hour drive from me. These people are my only form of support right now so it makes it a little difficult to talk to my family/friends about this.

[ree-Xi]

Then don't bring it up if you don't need to. It's not like you're hiding it or keeping it secret, but your worlds don't all have to intersect. Why give them the power to disapprove? Unless you are asking for their opinions, in which case, they are entitled to think what they want. Doesn't mean you don't have to listen (unless it's a parent forbidding it and withholding your tuition money).

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Then don't bring it up if you don't need to. It's not like you're hiding it or keeping it secret, but your worlds don't all have to intersect. Why give them the power to disapprove? Unless you are asking for their opinions, in which case, they are entitled to think what they want. Doesn't mean you don't have to listen (unless it's a parent forbidding it and withholding your tuition money).

Then who do you suggest I talk to about this? If I can't talk to my mother (who is my best friend) or my friends about this, and my boyfriend isn't a girl (obviously) and doesn't really care other than it'll make me happy, then who should I talk to about it?

[DrPhil]

Who needs brains and the ability to research and network when GCers will outline life for you?

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Who needs brains and the ability to research and network when GCers will outline life for you?

GC outlines on NPC sorority recruitment procedures is really helpful to high school seniors and their parents who don't have access to Area Alumnae Panhellenics' information sessions.

A good example of the above is this recent sticky on schools where a PNM needs recs.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

GC outlines on NPC sorority recruitment procedures is really helpful to high school seniors and their parents who don't have access to Area Alumnae Panhellenics' information sessions.

A good example of the above is this recent sticky on schools where a PNM needs recs.

That sucks.

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

GC outlines on NPC sorority recruitment procedures is really helpful to high school seniors and their parents who don't have access to Area Alumnae Panhellenics' information sessions.

A good example of the above is this recent sticky on schools where a PNM needs recs.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That sucks.

LOL. It probably does suck for legacy girls and others who haven't done anything noteworthy during their high school years.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Who needs brains and the ability to research and network when GCers will outline life for you?

What?