what's your biggest flaw? - Page 2

Ideal08 · #1 10-31-2001, 03:11 PM

I hate these threads that make me look at myself. But oh well, we all have to do it.

I have no patience. I'm trying to get better.

I tend to speak loudly, I need to handle that, lol.

When I'm speaking about something that I'm passionate about (God, Greek life, my peeps, my fam...) I might sound like I'm angry and yelling, but I'm not. It is intimidating, and I'm trying to figure out a way to tone it down. I, personally, don't see it as a flaw, but at the same time, I don't like being intimidating.

I'm learning that I may not be the most dependable person. I think that I still have Yes-syndrome. I KNOW that I have too much on my plate right now, but since my life seemed fairly empty, I committed to stuff I ended up not being able to do, and it makes me feel really bad. I don't want to be the person that people say, "Oh, don't ask her, she never follows through."

I have no money sense. None. I can't save, budget, nothing. This is something that is killing me softly. But I'm determined to get better.

That's enough for now, lol.

Little32 · #2 10-31-2001, 06:51 PM

First off, Happy Birhday Korkscru from a fellow Scorpio!!

My Birthday is tomorrow girl.

Let's see, biggest flaw, biggest flaw. Well people are always telling me that I am full of crap. Sometimes, I recognize that this is true.

I am not happy about it and I am actively striving to be less full of crap.

#1 Leading Lady · #3 11-01-2001, 10:28 AM

Patience......I hate to wait. It is so bad when I pick somebody up for a ride I use the 2 honk system. 1-honk lets you know I'm there 2nd honk let's you know your a$$ just got left. If you know I coming be READY!!!

When I get upset/angry I cry!

Temper- which has gotten much much better. People always tell me I am the smallest one but have the hottest temper.

But other than that I am

#4 11-01-2001, 12:45 PM

Patience----I hate waiting also. That's why I make a point of arriving anywhere at least 15 minutes before time to make sure I don't make others wait.

Temper---I really need help with this. Many times I tend to get people straight with a temper/attitude. Most times you can make people aware of their foolish mistakes by speaking in a calm voice. I need to try that instead of going off on folks. I'm working on it because one day it could possibly get me in trouble....especially with the type of guys that say, what yo name is shawty boo, where yo man

and that's when I go off.

Trusting people----I have a tendency to feel that people deal with situations the same as I do, which is wrong. If I tell you I promise I will do something, then it's done. If there is a possibility, then I say I will try. If I can't then I will tell you no. I have a habit of believing people when they tell me that they are gonna do something. When they don't, especially if they promise, I get disappointed like a hurt child. I have to remind myself of my mother's words, "Never put all your trust in man, man will let you down, only God fulfills all promises."
(Note: Regarding my quote, I meant man in the context of being a human being not a male. I don't want you all to think it was a typo and I'm male bashing up in hea

)

Last word----If something is up for debate I have to have the last word.

Prejudging people by appearance---I have a habit of doing this and I know plenty others, but we're scared to admit it. True story...Picture it, the south, July 2000, hot as hell. I was driving home from a job interview. I had on a black suit in July

and all of a sudden my radio went dead, ok you know I went into shock. Then I tried to put my turning signal on and it didn't come on. Ok a sista is rushing because I wasn't too far from mom's. My car stopped and I didn't have my cell phone. Several cars passed me by, nicely dressed men and women driving, you know the ones you thought would stop for you

. Well all of a sudden a burgundy Chevy Caprice Classic with rims pulled up. The guy (Richard) got out looking like a friend of Master P. He had the hat, several gold teeth, a Versace shirt, and a large gold necklace. He let me use his cell phone, so I called my mom. He asked if I wanted him to give me a ride home, and I said no thank you. He said I'm not gonna kill you. I told him I didn't want to leave my car, which was true. Well he said he had to take his sister to the doctor and when he was done he would get his truck and pull my car wherever I wanted it taken. He rode back through with his sister in the car and said I will be back. Shortly, a friend of the family came with his tow truck. While I was at my mom's the phone rang, it was Richard. The number was left in his cell phone when I called her. He didn't try to make more out of it by asking me out or anything. All Richard said was, "I was calling to make sure you made it home safely."

It's so hard to do, but I'm learning to never judge a book by it's cover.

BLUTANG · #5 11-02-2001, 01:16 PM

Hi all... as a newbie to the board, I have to echo many of you on the flaws: at times I’m impatient, I have a lil' bit of a temper, I am SUPER forgetful, I procrastinate (occasionally) and I try to please others while neglecting myself. However, my biggest flaw is my ability to dismiss people. I have been dubbed an "ice princess" b/c people think I’m that cold. I have a policy: you get ONE GOOD TIME (OGT) to mess up. After that, I'm through. This goes for boyfriends, professional relationships, my girls - whatever. I guess it's because I'm so willing to give to others, when they let me down (especially when I feel I’ve been disrespected) - it's OVER. I give no second chances and since I’m forgetful anyway, we don't have to worry about me remembering your name/phone #/e-mail or whatnot. If you use up that OGT, you cease to exist in my world. I know that's a horrible habit, but it's my flaw and I’m working on it. I am just so glad that others have been able to look past MY mistakes, and that I serve a good (and forgiving) God.

AKA2D '91 · #6 11-02-2001, 05:35 PM

1. I'm impatient
2. I blow chit out of proportion
3. I hold grudges, therefore I cannot forgive and forget

That's enough.

librasoul22 · #7 11-03-2001, 04:20 AM

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Originally posted by #1 Leading Lady
Patience......I hate to wait. It is so bad when I pick somebody up for a ride I use the 2 honk system. 1-honk lets you know I'm there 2nd honk let's you know your a$$ just got left. If you know I coming be READY!!!

L.........O..........L

Oh my goodness this is too hilarious for words! I love it! LOL!

I guess my biggest flaw is that I am too laid back. I very rarely show any emotion at all. I have my game face on at all times because I hate for people to know what I am thinking. I am very observant because I want to be aware of every circumstance possible in a given situation. Actually, I personally see this as a flaw YET but I feel that with time, I will probably realize that it's okay to show more emotion and open up a little bit.

MS.REVLON · #8 11-03-2001, 11:02 PM

Looking in my mirror!!

1.I hate my thighs.(family inheritance)
2.I can't stand ignorant people. No patience with them.
3. I talk loud sometimes. Can't stand people to ask me to repeat myself so I take care of it the first time.
4. Hold grudges for along time.
5. I have a habit of speaking my mind and soul b/4 I think first.

Soulful Soror · #9 11-04-2001, 11:12 PM

one of my biggest flaws is that I have stretch marks around my butt & hip area...I hate that b/c I feel insecure about wearing swimsuits! ACK!

Sugar_N_Spice · #10 11-05-2001, 02:05 AM

I feel My Biggest Faults are:

*Being VERY (and I do mean very) forgetful...if it doesn't get written down it won't get done...
*Chronic Late Sydrome (b/c I don't care enough to be on time)
*Not loving myself enough
*Not knowing how to function during the bad times...
*Not being able to take a compliment
*Taking on way too many tasks
*Neglecting myself (not getting enough "Me" time)
*Procrastination
*Having a smart mouth
*Not being able to communicate my feelings to others
*Feeling sorry for myself & wallowing in my self-pity
*Living my life for other people
*Not realizing, no matter how many times I tell myself, that happiness comes from within
*Not being able to always take my own advice
*Settling for less than I deserve from others
*Can't say "No", esp. to a friend
*Being too nice to people
*Not always thinking before I speak

WOW!!! I have a lot of work to do

...

#11 11-05-2001, 02:33 AM

Sugar you need a hug....((((((((((Sugar)))))))))) woo woo woo

Learn to love YOU because there's no other person that will do it for you. YOU should be YOUR biggest fan. When you begin to love you, other things will begin to fall in place and you will be so much happier. Can't you tell I love me some me?

Start loving you some you and see how much better you will feel.

Sugar_N_Spice · #12 11-05-2001, 03:05 AM

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Originally posted by Total Elegance
Sugar you need a hug....((((((((((Sugar)))))))))) woo woo woo

Learn to love YOU because there's no other person that will do it for you. YOU should be YOUR biggest fan. When you begin to love you, other things will begin to fall in place and you will be so much happier. Can't you tell I love me some me? Start loving you some you and see how much better you will feel.

Thank you, TE
I really needed that!! I'd been having a bad day up until now!!
Thank You, again!!

#1 Leading Lady · #13 11-05-2001, 11:48 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sugar_N_Spice
I feel My Biggest Faults are:

*Being VERY (and I do mean very) forgetful...if it doesn't get written down it won't get done...
*Chronic Late Sydrome (b/c I don't care enough to be on time)
*Not loving myself enough
*Not knowing how to function during the bad times...
*Not being able to take a compliment
*Taking on way too many tasks
*Neglecting myself (not getting enough "Me" time)
*Procrastination
*Having a smart mouth
*Not being able to communicate my feelings to others
*Feeling sorry for myself & wallowing in my self-pity
*Living my life for other people
*Not realizing, no matter how many times I tell myself, that happiness comes from within
*Not being able to always take my own advice
*Settling for less than I deserve from others
*Can't say "No", esp. to a friend
*Being too nice to people
*Not always thinking before I speak

WOW!!! I have a lot of work to do ...

Yeah, I am with you on having a Smart Mouth and it is hard for me to say no to favors.

lil_sunshine · #14 11-05-2001, 03:20 PM

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Originally posted by Soulful Soror
one of my biggest flaws is that I have stretch marks around my butt & hip area...I hate that b/c I feel insecure about wearing swimsuits! ACK!

Soulful Soror, I'm feeling you on this one. I, too, have these qualities, but I always wear a t-shirt to cover them and my swinsuit is black, just the way I like it!!! Although I strongly dislike the stretchmarks, I like my butt and I choose to keep it.

JayAnn0513 · #15 11-05-2001, 04:00 PM

Here it goes...