Apology

[xomanadaxo]

Now that's dedication!

[KadeeBug]

I know, i was just super excited i got into my moms alma mater. i cant wait to be apart of something she was apart of, and hope to fulfill her dream of being a kd. if i cant thats okay too, i just really want to surprise her with a kd bid card someday!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KadeeBug

i cant wait to be apart of something she was apart of

"Apart" actually works in this instance. Funny.

[DrPhil]

You've provided more than enough details to get yourself blacklisted should someone care enough in a year or so. Congrats.

[AZTheta]

shhh.

please stop, for more reasons than anyone has time to list.

(to the OP, not to DrPhil!)

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

(to the OP, not to DrPhil!)

I know.

Sound the alarm for a freshman named "Kadee" who is nicknamed "Kadeebug" and has an affinity for "KD."

[SydneyK]

Aaaaaaaaaaaand it's times like these I wish weren't modless.
Thanks to the mod who took care of the other thread, btw.

[KadeeBug]

im really sorry everyone. i dont know how i ruined my chances to go kd (or any other house!!!!!) since i dont even kno where im going next year! i tried reeeeeally hard not to tell anyone anything revealing about myself. plus, kadee isnt the name on my birth certificate, its the nickname everyone calls me (like some people call ppl named michael mike, you know?) what did i say that was too much detail? can they really stop me from rushing now?

[Leslie Anne]

Please stop posting!

You've come back for a second day of the same thing. You've apologized. Please leave it at that.

[AnotherKD]

Originally Posted by KadeeBug

im really sorry everyone. i dont know how i ruined my chances to go kd (or any other house!!!!!) since i dont even kno where im going next year! i tried reeeeeally hard not to tell anyone anything revealing about myself. plus, kadee isnt the name on my birth certificate, its the nickname everyone calls me (like some people call ppl named michael mike, you know?) what did i say that was too much detail? can they really stop me from rushing now?

Nope, you can still rush. But I really wish I could be a fly on the wall during your chats with the sisters.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by KadeeBug

im really sorry everyone. i dont know how i ruined my chances to go kd (or any other house!!!!!) since i dont even kno where im going next year! i tried reeeeeally hard not to tell anyone anything revealing about myself. plus, kadee isnt the name on my birth certificate, its the nickname everyone calls me (like some people call ppl named michael mike, you know?) what did i say that was too much detail? can they really stop me from rushing now?

Sound the alarm for a freshman whose real name isn't "kadee" but people call her "kadee" and her nickname is "kadeebug."

Thanks for clarifying that. Coming to a college near youuuuuuu! *echo echo*

[lovespink88]

I can see it now...come next fall an active KD posts a story in the "weird rush stories" thread about a girl who's mom wanted to be a KD and thinks that only the schools with KD chapters are the best ones and was named Katie or Kadee...

[Senusret I]

I know an Alpha named Asa!

[APhiAnna]

PLEASE don't tell any of the chapter members this story when you rush. If a girl named Ivy came through and said her mom always lovedAlpha Phi and wanted to join, and that she wanted to join Alpha Phi because of her mom and only went to school with Alpha Phi chapters...well all I can say is that it would be a legendary story in my chapter and there is no way "Ivy" would be at our house on bid day. It is a well meaning story, but it is just way too forward to be shared at recruitment.

The other thing I have to say is this: you may be putting way too much pressure on yourself to appease one chapter during recruitment. Think about it from this perspective...if you idealize a person too much (a boy, a celebrity, a professor, etc) when it comes time to meet them you are likely to stutter, say stupid things, shut down or maybe even get that "crazy cat lady" look in your eyes. It doesn't matter that you can get along with any other person, because you haven't idealized those people and they are therefore approachable.

I worry that you have idealized KD to the extent that you will be far too nervous to make a good impression...the anxiety shows, and it doesn't go over well. Remember that the KDs are just people...if you pardon my vulgarity, they fart just like the rest of us. If you view them as deities it will NOT go over well, and will only make you look "beneath" them.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

PLEASE don't tell any of the chapter members this story when you rush. If a girl named Ivy came through and said her mom always lovedAlpha Phi and wanted to join, and that she wanted to join Alpha Phi because of her mom and only went to school with Alpha Phi chapters...well all I can say is that it would be a legendary story in my chapter and there is no way "Ivy" would be at our house on bid day. It is a well meaning story, but it is just way too forward to be shared at recruitment.

The other thing I have to say is this: you may be putting way too much pressure on yourself to appease one chapter during recruitment. Think about it from this perspective...if you idealize a person too much (a boy, a celebrity, a professor, etc) when it comes time to meet them you are likely to stutter, say stupid things, shut down or maybe even get that "crazy cat lady" look in your eyes. It doesn't matter that you can get along with any other person, because you haven't idealized those people and they are therefore approachable.

I worry that you have idealized KD to the extent that you will be far too nervous to make a good impression...the anxiety shows, and it doesn't go over well. Remember that the KDs are just people...if you pardon my vulgarity, they fart just like the rest of us. If you view them as deities it will NOT go over well, and will only make you look "beneath" them.

Wow, I always wanted the KD forum to pick up a little, but not sure this is what I had in mind.....

AphiAnna, this is a wonderful post, and I echo everything you said. I completely understand how a high school girl with little experience of greek life might not understand how this comes across to others.

But now, Kaydeebug, you need to take the advice you have been given--while some of it may be painful to hear, it is all helpful and realistic. This story will NOT help you, and your mother's attitude (on this particular issue) is not healthy.

Go to school, meet people, go through recruitment with an open mind, and DO NOT share this story. No need to apologize, just accept (even if you don't yet understand) that this situation/story will not help you in any way. With anything.

As a mom myself, I am wishing you a great college experience. Have fun and create and live your own dreams!