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I did not see your other thread, so I apologize if this has already been said. Actually, I only apologize to other GCers. The OP needs to hear this over and over and over again.
First, agree with everyone who says to Stop Posting Now. You have no idea how presumptious, creepy, elitest, obnoxious and stalkerish that your posts (and mom's story) are coming across.
That being said, it sounds like that while you are (vaguely) familiar with Kappa Delta, you clearly are not familiar with recruitment, greek systems, etc.
Things to consider:
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you love, love, love the women that are in a different sorority than Kappa Delta. It happens. Frequently. Different chapters of different organizations on different campuses all have different personalities.
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you do not like the women that are in the Kappa Delta chapter at your school. Again, not all Kappa Deltas are cookie cutters of each other. They can be vastly different at different schools.
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and- gasp- the women of Kappa Delta may not feel a connection to you and you may get cut. This also happens. Frequently. Just because you want to be a part of a certain group does NOT mean that it is going to happen. The women in the chapter have to want you too. Sororities must make big cuts during the recruitment process to whiddle the PNM pool down to a pledge class size group of women.
-- your mom has put an insane amount of pressure on you, whether you realize it or not. You speak of the joy of being able to tell her that you are part of a group that she wanted to be in. What if you decide that you like another group better? Or, what if you do get released by KD? How will that phone call go? What will her reaction be? Would you be afraid to tell your mom these things? This is a convo that you need to have with your mom before recruitment even starts, as chances are high that one of these scenarios could play out.
-- if you do get cut by KD, will you continue with recruitment? Is your mindset an all-or-nothing one?
We see it happen all the time that PNMs get their hearts set on one chapter, and when that chapter cuts them the PNM drops out of recruitment. Later they realize the errors in their judgment, but it is too late for them. You really, really, really need to think through all of these scenarios because you could find yourself in those situations.
To be very blunt, you have set yourself up for immense disapointment. Your focus on setting your sights on just one group are wrong, wrong, wrong. Recruitment is a pressure filled situation. Why put a gazillion times more pressure on yourself by just focusing on one group? Relax, get into a college, sign up for recruitment, and just enjoy the process of meeting (ALL) sorority women and other PNMs. What comes will come. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy any of the chapters on your campus. Allow yourself the freedom to choose the chapter that you love, not the one that your mom does. Allow yourself the opportunity to chart your own course. These things can bring you even more happiness.
(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)
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