A unique and kind of sad recruit story

[Stanleypeep]

Before I continue I just wanna respond to some of the questions...

What? Really? Is that normal? Even so, rather "formal/Pref-y" for the first day.

To be honest I had the same reaction. I didn't know if this was normal or not. It was kinda cool, but the content of the prayer seemed a bit too religious. For the record that didn't happen in any other house.

* Only 3 of 9 houses on Day 1. For instance, my school (with 12 sororities) does all chapters on Day 1..... While this is not the only way to do it, I've never heard of a school spacing it out this much and am curious to know the reasoning behind it. Especially as this is a Saturday, I would think you'd have time....

I'm not sure why Panhel did it that way. But it was 3 days, 3 houses, then we filled out a pref card 2 days after the last day of round 1...(Wednesday)...I'll get into that later. I'll tell you my school at the end of the story, because I just don't want to give it all away right off the bat.

* Do you rank every day? Or was this just how you were doing it?

That was just me

* Did you really get to go in all the chapter rooms? That (from my experiences, which granted, is a blur from four years ago) seems odd.

I did actually...all the formal rooms and the chapter rooms.

How odd it is that someone who has never met you before recruitment rolls her eyes at you and hates your guts.

I completely agree with this. Yes it did strike me as not only odd, but rude, unprofessional, and downright petty. To me it seems like there are only 2 logical reasons, the first is more likely 1) maybe she was tired or some inside issue was going on or 2) my weight? it could just be me being self-conscious, I tend to think its the former, because I overanalyze things WAY too much. Part of the sad part of this story....you'll understand when i finish it.

I feel that most of the time that "rude" girl (if she exists) isn't actually being rude, the PNM is putting their nervousness or insecurity onto the active's actions and viewing it as rude when it wasn't intended to be.

This is probably true for me. I more willing to admit it because I know myself well enough now, but keep in my this is also a long time ago and these are memories I have.

Dinner time...Day 2 coming TONIGHT!!!

[AOEforme]

Where do/did you go to school? I'm curious....

There are several things your campus does interesting with recruitment such as:

* Only 3 of 9 houses on Day 1. For instance, my school (with 12 sororities) does all chapters on Day 1..... While this is not the only way to do it, I've never heard of a school spacing it out this much and am curious to know the reasoning behind it. Especially as this is a Saturday, I would think you'd have time....

* Do you rank every day? Or was this just how you were doing it?

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

* Did you really get to go in all the chapter rooms? That (from my experiences, which granted, is a blur from four years ago) seems odd.

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter)!

*The dining at A Walk to Remember also seems odd, but maybe your school doesn't have no frills recruitment...... or maybe they like to stand out?

Finally, I'm perplexed by the odd name to your story and that

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

To be honest, I'm not sure why I'm sharing this. Perhaps I just feel the need to get it all off my chest. Or perhaps I'm seeking something I'm not sure how to describe or name.

[phi.sig.love]

more please :-)

[chickenoodle]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

When I was a Freshman in college, my parents discouraged me greatly from joining a GLO. They had so many negative perceptions from their own college experience back in the early 70's and very liberal mindset. Which is ironic because it seems as liberal as they are they still discouraged me from formulating my own opinions.

Her parents were in college in the 70's.

ETA: Never mind. I was responding to a post that seems to no longer be a part of this thread. Sorry...

[APhiAnna]

A prayer during recruitment? Only three out of nine houses in one day? The token overly bitchy "pretty girl" who rolls her eyes when she sees you?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

A prayer during recruitment? Only three out of nine houses in one day? The token overly bitchy "pretty girl" who rolls her eyes when she sees you?

I know, right?

How odd it is that someone who has never met you before recruitment rolls her eyes at you and hates your guts.

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I know, right?

How odd it is that someone who has never met you before recruitment rolls her eyes at you and hates your guts.

Also too, when is anybody that overtly rude during recruitment? I once had to rush a girl who I knew prior to rush and did NOT get along with (and that's a bit of an understatement). You can bet I was as sweet as sunshine to her during recruitment, simply because we might have wanted her roommate, best friend, etc. I'm not saying it never happens, but I feel that most of the time that "rude" girl (if she exists) isn't actually being rude, the PNM is putting their nervousness or insecurity onto the active's actions and viewing it as rude when it wasn't intended to be.

[Stanleypeep]

Okay, Day 2 WEE!!!

[COLOR="Lime"]Beaches[/COLOR]: This house truly looked like a beach house too!!! The girl I met first was probably one of the "realist" girls I've ever met. She was so sweet. We just could NOT stop talking, we had SO much in common and she was so nice. We got into a discussion about boys, and gay boyfriends and fashion. It was so fun. She and I just hit it off right away. She even hugged me before I left, I knew we'd be friends. I really knew I belonged here. I couldn't WAIT to get invited back.

My Best Friend's Wedding: The girl rushing me went to my High School!!! Awesome! We actually had no idea until halfway into conversation, but we had SO much to talk about. She was really sweet and really chill. We talked about places we know and I told her how I don't know anyone and it was refreshing to see someone who knows where I come from. She encouraged me about the girls in the house and that the whole campus was fabulous. She didn't live in the house she lived "down the line" (hint to those wondering about the school) by the beach like a lot of Seniors. So we talked about that and beachy stuff. Loved it. Couldn't wait to go back!!

The Godfather: The girls here much like in Legally Blonde didn't click with me. I took my tour with very forced conversation. She had short answers for my questions, kinda curt. Then we went into the Chapter Room where we watched a slide show. The chapter room was really barren to me. And I was the only girl left not talking to anyone. After we got into the chapter room, the girl rushing me walked away with little explanation and I felt as though I were struggling to find someone to talk to or even make eye contact. Everyone just seemed well occupied, perhaps the other girls in my rush group really clicked with them. I just didn't.

I left Day 2 feeling FABULOUS. If nothing else, I knew I found 2 fabulous houses and 2 fabulous potential new friends. LOVE IT!

I was so excited and proud of myself. And proud to be a part of Greek life. It was turning out to be nothing like I expected on both the positive and negative ends of the spectrum. It was a huge boost to my confidence!

Day 3....stay tuned...

[FSUZeta]

at my daughter's school there are 5 sororities and for the first two days of recruitment, pnms attend events at two or three sororities on one night and if they attend 3 parties the first night attend 2 parties and have a break the 2nd night-if they attend 2 parties the first night with a break, they attend 3 the 2nd night. i think they do it this way due to fire safety codes.

in addition, the parties are held in the chapter rooms-the university owns the buildings that each sorority is housed in while the sororities own the formal parlor, guest bathrooms, kitchen and chapter room. the chapter rooms are the biggest rooms with several different seating areas, a grand piano and a dining table with chairs. it usually includes an entertainment area with a tv and stereo at one end of the room. all the seating is moved out during formal recruitment and during rituals.

none of the sororities served any type of refreshments for any parties.

[33girl]

My RA had mentioned two horrible nicknames of the sororities, I won't say the organizations, but I'm sure you'll figure it out, one included Cow and the other Piggy.

Nice. I won't mention it, but I'll be sure to say the nicknames so you can go through all 26 groups and figure it out.

Ditto the SRSLY? on the prayer. Unless it's a very churchy church related school I can't imagine a group this day & age that would do that at pref, let alone open house day. (Unless the Achtung Juden sign didn't get finished early enough.)

I can't wait till she gets to the Godfather pref party and finds a dead horse head in the cheesecake.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Ditto the SRSLY? on the prayer. Unless it's a very churchy church related school I can't imagine a group this day & age that would do that at pref, let alone open house day.

Could be Alpha Delta Chi, the Christian sorority. Do they participate in open house rounds? And many of their chapters are in SoCal so the beach thing might make sense...

Just a thought...

[ellebud]

TriDeltaSallie: You are totally correct. My friend's daughter went through recruitment that included a Christian house. They did, in fact said grace (or a prayer) during the party. Daughter is Jewish, knew this wasn't for her. But I am sure that there were some pnms who knew that this was for them.

I also know that, depending on what time of day/where the school is the idea of spreading houses over more days can help the pnm. My older daughter had to miss (or chose to miss) recruitment on the first night due to class conflict. She informed Panhellenic and her Rho Chis far in advance of the start of recruitment. This class met once a week and was given once every 4 years. (If any of you doubt this I will be delighted to give the class name/school/reasoning.) My daughter was summarily dropped from every house of the five on the first night. No do overs. This may give pnms the opportunity to go to class and to have a full recruitment.

Comment: Can't read the yellow...old eyes you know.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ellebud

This class met once a week and was given once every 4 years. (If any of you doubt this I will be delighted to give the class name/school/reasoning.)

This isn't too unheard of.

[VandalSquirrel]

I say east coast school (due to the OP saying she lived in Massachusetts and worked in Rhode Island), and that the school is URI.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I say east coast school (due to the OP saying she lived in Massachusetts and worked in Rhode Island), and that the school is URI.

Well she did say she only lived in MA for 2 years.


I'm leaning more towards west coast, only cause she mentioned a beach (and yes, i do know that there are beaches on the east coast. But when I hear 'beach' I think west coast, more specifically CA).