Does anyone else have regrets joining?

[DGTerp06]

I never regretted my decision, but rather, I would start to think, "What if I had put Alpha Phi 1 and DG 2?" Alpha Phi and DG were neighbors at my school, and while girls got along and had friends in each chapter, as a whole, DG and Alpha Phi were perceived as very different. I realized, before I ranked, that I only really loved Alpha Phi for one specific woman; DG, I was drawn to so many different women. I am glad I chose DG - the Alpha Phi woman I so admired dropped a semester later.

I loved my collegiate years and have DG to thank for that. I've only been out of school less than 5 years, but I've gotten active in the area as an alumna. Delta Gamma has given me so much more than I ever would have thought I could get from an organization made up of women my age. I have seen and know how DG works, from the very top women on our Cabinet to the new members joining my collegiate chapter and the chapters I advise at. I am so proud to be apart of an organization that is bigger than I could ever dream, but that can also give me a home on a huge campus.

No regrets. I'm Delta Gam born and Delta Gam bred and when I die, I'll be Delta Gam dead

[ThetaPrincess24]

I have never regretted my decision, but that doesnt mean that sometimes when things get hard that I dont have a "what if" moment from time to time.

I think enjoying membership in a sorority both as a collegian and alumnae member is mostly about effort. How much effort are you willing/currently putting in to make the most out of your experience? I personally put in a lot of time as a collegian and currently put a lot more time in as an alumnae member (and I am not a recent graduate). Therefore I got/get a lot out of my experiences. Both have their own set of trials/frustrations/bumps in the road. How you deal with those trials/frustrations is your own choice. Are you willing to make the most of it to the best of your ability? Are you willing to take notes and learn from the experiences both positive & negative? Are you going to throw your hands up and quit when the going gets tough or stick it out and be stronger?

[honeychile]

^One of the best pieces advice I've ever heard was "You Gotta Wanna". If you want something badly enough to work hard at it, or change something about yourself or attitude, you should be able to receive it.

[33girl]

I sometimes wonder what/where/how my life would have been different if I'd put a different group first, but that doesn't mean I'm not glad where I ended up. I don't think I would have been able to be me. Some girls from my chapter are STILL regretting they joined us (and it takes about 2.5 seconds to figure it out on Facebook, let me tell you). I think that they think if they would have been in a group with more "prestige" their lives would have turned out differently. Maybe yes, but they also might not have the friends that they do.

There was a girl during our active years who hung out all the time with another group. It was because there were people in the sorority who didn't approve of her and weren't shy about it. Now, it's all water under the bridge.

I know this isn't really what you asked, but in a nutshell no, you're not alone at all.

[Psi U MC Vito]

I'll be honest, there have been times where I wonder if I had joined another fraternity if it would be better. Then I found out they have some of the same internal BS we do and my doubts vanish.

[astroAPhi]

There was a point in college where I was pretty grouchy with my chapter, but loved the organization as a whole, but I never wished I had joined another sorority. There was only two sororities on my campus when I was there, so that probably makes the decision a little easier. I realized that my issues were with a few members with negative attitudes who would be graduating soon, so I sucked it up and did my best to keep that negativity out of the chapter. I think having to deal with that adversity was a good learning experience for me.

My husband and I's best college memories are from our respective orgs. I guess we both made the right choices.