Does anyone else have regrets joining?

[ThetaDancer]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

This may have been asked already, but I am curious...

Is there anyone else out there that has regrets about joining their chapter? I joined a chapter and stuck with it throughout college, but I never felt like it was really the house for me. I always thought that I made the wrong choice during pref and should have been in a different house. Yes, they may not have chosen me (I guess I'll never know), but I always wonder "what if". After graduating and up until now (twelve years on), there is only one person from the house I would consider a true friend. Once I got a big, she decided to drop me and it was hard to find another that would allow me into her "family". I tried to stay involved through being a chapter officer for three of the years and it still just did not feel like home. I am glad I'm part of the greek system as a whole, but I still have regrets that I chose that specific chapter almost thirteen years later. Anyone else feel this way?

I never had regrets or experienced what you're experiencing, but I'm wondering if you have gotten involved in an alum group (if there is one in your area). Alumnae chapters can offer quite different experiences than collegiate chapters so if you're not already involved,you may want to look into that. You'll have the opportunity to meet women from all different colleges, of various ages and with diverse life experiences. Just a thought!

[kddani]

Originally Posted by ThetaDancer

wondering if you have gotten involved in an alum group (if there is one in your area).

I believe there is a very active DC area KD alumnae association!

Originally Posted by kddani

I believe there is a very active DC area KD alumnae association!

KDAngel's a member of that group, isn't she?

[honeychile]

I think that anyone who hasn't wondered "what if..." is probably lying - either consciously or subconsciously. I may seem to be the #1 ADPi cheerleader around here, but by the last term of my senior year, I used the back door almost exclusively.

Yet, once you become an alumna, it's a different story completely. You hear how other chapters work, what they did, and their fun times. You relearn the value of sisterhood, and, when you move to a different town, you can be assured that you don't have to be alone.

FWIW, I've seen regrets or wondering about the If a lot much more often with women who didn't pledge their legacy chapter. When her mother or grandmother talks about her Alumnae Association meetings all excited, and yours was basically Boot Camp, well, it's rough.

Hang in there - the AA experience is worth any nonsense that your chapter may dole out.