MTV's 16 and Pregnant - Page 2

Xidelt · #16 06-19-2009, 04:03 AM

I caught the end of farrah's episode. What a spoiled brat! I wanted to smack her more than once!

KSUViolet06 · #17 06-19-2009, 12:18 PM

Farrah is annoying. It's like she doesn't really "get" that she is her baby's mom.

I coud tell when she got into a fight with her mom over which CAR to get that she really is just a KID with a BABY. Sad but true.

Also, I love how she's like "All my friends get to go out without me, not fair!" Well gee, that's because you have an INFANT and they DO NOT.

My fave is when she asks her mom something like "Can you help me at night when she wakes up?"

Her mom is like "Not really, I need to get my sleep." HA. While it's nice that moms like to help out, I think it's good for them to know that it's NOT GRANDMA'S JOB to help you with YOUR baby.

I also wonder what she'll tell her kid about her dad ("oh honey I got a new phone and never have him the # because he annoyed me").

rhoyaltempest · #18 06-19-2009, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Farrah is annoying. It's like she doesn't really "get" that she is her baby's mom.

I coud tell when she got into a fight with her mom over which CAR to get that she really is just a KID with a BABY. Sad but true.

Also, I love how she's like "All my friends get to go out without me, not fair!" Well gee, that's because you have an INFANT and they DO NOT.

My fave is when she asks her mom something like "Can you help me at night when she wakes up?"

Her mom is like "Not really, I need to get my sleep." HA. While it's nice that moms like to help out, I think it's good for them to know that it's NOT GRANDMA'S JOB to help you with YOUR baby.

I also wonder what she'll tell her kid about her dad ("oh honey I got a new phone and never have him the # because he annoyed me").

We must not forget that these are children. Having a baby doesn't change that although SOME will mature faster since having children.

KSUViolet06 · #19 06-19-2009, 12:50 PM

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We must not forget that these are children. Having a baby doesn't change that although SOME will mature faster since having children.

Agreed. Hence why I said I could tell that she really is just a KID with a baby.

That's really what all these girls are.

Unfortunatey, they did an "adult" thing and that results in some very adult consequences.

xi_pinkrose · #20 06-19-2009, 01:09 PM

Ok, so I saw a piece of Farrah's episode last night. I like the show and I think it is a big wake up to the younger generation. Funny how she didn't understand why the girls on the cheer squad treated her differently. Her reason for quitting. Also, that she got stood up. I mumbled "what guy in their right mind would go out with someone 6 months preganant..." Mom came back with, "because than I guy could have sex and know she is not going to get pregnant." And I had my 'ahha' moment. duh!

So, mom turned it into a sex talk. I am 29 and lived with a guy for 4 years. I still got the sex talk.

I don't think I would have sat with mom to watch the show when I was 15. I hope there are some parents that will use the show to open lines of communication.

Even at 29 I would never want to put myself in the position to sit my parents down and say I am pregnant.

minDyG · #21 06-19-2009, 01:31 PM

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Even at 29 I would never want to put myself in the position to sit my parents down and say I am pregnant.

It's not fun! I don't think I'm planning to have more kids, but if I change my mind, I look forward to being able to call people and cry happy tears while sharing my great news...instead of being terrified to tell them because I don't know how they'll react!

KSUViolet06 · #22 06-25-2009, 11:01 PM

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It's not fun! I don't think I'm planning to have more kids, but if I change my mind, I look forward to being able to call people and cry happy tears while sharing my great news..

Do you have personal experience with this?

Yeah, I'm 24 and I'd still be pretty scared to tell my parents I was pregnant, just because I'm in grad school and such. They probably wouldn't be happy campers about it.

I just caught the last episode. I think it's funny that babydaddy bought Guitar Hero. I think it shows that these are KIDS with babies. I mean, he has no priorities because he's like 16 (so sad)!

I love how all these girls are like "You don't care about me!" No, he doesn't, he's most likely only living with you because he knocked you up, hun.

I loved her mom's reaction to the proposal, like "seriously?"

I also really wonder what kinds of parents these girls have who suggest that they MOVE IN with these boys since they're pregnant. That generally leads to um, more babies (before they're old enough to drink).

minDyG · #23 06-25-2009, 11:22 PM

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Do you have personal experience with this?

Yep! I was 19 when I got pregnant with my now 2 and a half year old. She was born after I turned 20, though, so I was never a teen mother!

But yeah, telling the parents is quite the bittersweet experience. After you've come to terms with the fact that you're pregnant and gone through all the options in your mind, then faced up to the reality that you're going to be a parent, you have to sit down and tell them this news that is going to immediately disappoint and ultimately delight them. But the night I told my parents was the night I got engaged to my husband, and thinking back on it, I wouldn't have changed a thing about that night!

KSUViolet06 · #24 06-25-2009, 11:31 PM

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Yep! I was 19 when I got pregnant with my now 2 and a half year old. She was born after I turned 20, though, so I was never a teen mother!

But yeah, telling the parents is quite the bittersweet experience. After you've come to terms with the fact that you're pregnant and gone through all the options in your mind, then faced up to the reality that you're going to be a parent, you have to sit down and tell them this news that is going to immediately disappoint and ultimately delight them. But the night I told my parents was the night I got engaged to my husband, and thinking back on it, I wouldn't have changed a thing about that night!

Oh wow. So you were a college freshman/sophomore?

Yep, totally couldn't imagine.

Sidenote: It annoys me when the girls ask for help from the babydaddies, and they say "Well, I work everyday and all you do is stay home with the baby."

Last I checked, that wasn't exactly a walk in the park. Heck, when I babysit, by the end of the day I am shoving the kids out the door.

DrPhil · #25 06-25-2009, 11:33 PM

Even being 19 (legally an adult) is different than being a high schooler.

I don't think any parent is truly prepared for children and they all learn as they go through it. But, being more mature and having your life more in order definitely helps.

DrPhil · #26 06-25-2009, 11:36 PM

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Oh wow. So you were a college freshman/sophomore?

Yep, totally couldn't imagine.

Sidenote: It annoys me when the girls ask for help from the babydaddies, and they say "Well, I work everyday and all you do is stay home with the baby."

Last I checked, that wasn't exactly a walk in the park. Heck, when I babysit, by the end of the day I am shoving the kids out the door.

Right! Being a stay at home parent is the equivalent of 2-3 jobs.

On that note: Being a working parent who is also the primary caregiver is the equivalent of 3 jobs. You get off of your paid fulltime job and go home to your unpaid (overworked and underappreciated) fulltime job.

KSUViolet06 · #27 06-25-2009, 11:39 PM

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Even being 19 (legally an adult) is different than being a high schooler.

Yeah, even still at 19, I was in no shape to be a parent.

Like, my #1 priority was what I was going to wear to the mixer that weekend or which flavor of ramen I was going to microwave.

Maybe whether I was going to class or whether I was going to skip and go have smoothies with my sisters.

It was definitely not being a mom.

I suppose when you have no choice but to grow up, you do.

DrPhil · #28 06-25-2009, 11:41 PM

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Yeah, even still at 19, I was in no shape to be a parent.

I say the same for when I was 30.

Still better than being a high schooler.

minDyG · #29 06-25-2009, 11:47 PM

It was at the end of my sophomore year of college. Thus, I am an alumna with no degree!

I don't think anyone can ever be *truly* prepared for parenthood, but there is definitely something to be said for being of legal age and able to actually take care of yourself (I've supported myself since I was 17, or been supported by my husband) financially and emotionally.

ComradesTrue · #30 06-25-2009, 11:53 PM

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I don't think any parent is truly prepared for children and they all learn as they go through it. But, being more mature and having your life more in order definitely helps.

Yep.

I turned 34 the week after my first kid was born. My life was in order, my finances were in order, and my marriage was in order. This was a child that we had wanted, planned for, and read everything we could prior to his arrival.

And then.... this helpless human being who expected me to feed him, change him, and figure out why he was crying ALL THE FRIGGIN TIME showed up. I turned into a complete mess. I have a master's degree and my husband is a physician, and we felt like the two stupidest people on the planet. Those advanced degrees and all that reading got us nowhere with knowing how to make that kid stop crying! It was hard as hell.

We often commented to each other that if life became that hard for the two of us, that it really put into perspective how difficult it would be for young parents who lack maturation, a helpful babydaddy, and enough money in the bank to not have to worry where the next meal will come from.