Is this too much interest too soon?

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I mean that I like his coloring. That the coloring falls within my preferred type range, even though his height and build are not.

So as long as the dude is not darker (or lighter) than you "prefer," then screw everything else?

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by epchick

So as long as the dude is not darker (or lighter) than you "prefer," then screw everything else?

If I can recall correctly, she's a Latina who has really strong preference for men with blond hair and blue eyes.

Having color preferences is OK, but going by her past GC posts and posts on other sites, it seems to be close to an obsession.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I mean that I like his coloring. That the coloring falls within my preferred type range, even though his height and build are not.

What in the world? LOL

[kddani]

Is there such thing as a remedial dating class? Because from all of your posts on GC with these such random requests for advice make you seem to know zero about dating and just general interpersonal interaction. You're stressing over something so minor... this isn't like some big dramatic dating question.

Seriously, there has to be some sort of class for people who don't have the first clue. If not, there's a great business idea...

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by kddani

Is there such thing as a remedial dating class? Because from all of your posts on GC with these such random requests for advice make you seem to know zero about dating and just general interpersonal interaction. You're stressing over something so minor... this isn't like some big dramatic dating question.

Seriously, there has to be some sort of class for people who don't have the first clue. If not, there's a great business idea...

I've actually "shadowed" friends when they go on internet dates, for safety and for entertainment as well. I should get a graduate degree in Psychology and do this as a business. Hire actors to help people learn about dates and give them makeovers. I should make it a tv show and have people from GC as guest commentators.

I seriously think my cohost should be 'Shid so we can cater to 'mos and 'ros.

[Scandia]

Yup, when they handed out luck and skills for romance, I was totally behind the door.

If they offered classes like these, whoever taught them would be a millionaire.

Anyhow, I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest. I have met someone else on POF who seems to have more in common with me anyway.

[KSUViolet06]

Not so much just the romance part of things. It seems like you need to get out more and hone your social interaction skills a little bit before you date.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by kddani

Seriously, there has to be some sort of class for people who don't have the first clue. If not, there's a great business idea...

It's decently written and gives the basics for those without a clue. Yes, I know this firsthand.

[Scandia]

I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest.

That, and this weekend would not be a good one for it anyway.

Still haven't replied to him.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I have realized that if I were to go out with him, it would be out of gratitude and not true interest.

That, and this weekend would not be a good one for it anyway.

Still haven't replied to him.

Um, then don't go. This whole thread is quite odd.

[PrettyInPink777]

Just because you aren't noticing any 'deal-breakers' doesn't mean that you have to go out with him and give him a chance. That logic appears to imply that he meets your lowest standards. I am a firm believer in intuition -- If you are feeling hesitant, keep it movin' ... You don't know this joker...and there are definitely 'plenty of fish' in the sea. Surely there is someone outstanding out there for you .... not just some one who just barely meets your standards.

[Munchkin03]

I don't know, I don't have a ton of experience with online dating, but for the month that I tried it, any guy who just messaged me being pushy quickly ended up on my "ignore" list. I really trust my intuition, and if anyone does something that gives me a bad vibe, I'm done with that person.

It sounds like you need a lot of experience dating, or at least interacting with more people.

[PrettyInPink777]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I don't know, I don't have a ton of experience with online dating, but for the month that I tried it, any guy who just messaged me being pushy quickly ended up on my "ignore" list. I really trust my intuition, and if anyone does something that gives me a bad vibe, I'm done with that person.

It sounds like you need a lot of experience dating, or at least interacting with more people.

Amen.

[Sister Havana]

Originally Posted by PrettyInPink777

Just because you aren't noticing any 'deal-breakers' doesn't mean that you have to go out with him and give him a chance. That logic appears to imply that he meets your lowest standards. I am a firm believer in intuition -- If you are feeling hesitant, keep it movin' ... You don't know this joker...and there are definitely 'plenty of fish' in the sea. Surely there is someone outstanding out there for you .... not just some one who just barely meets your standards.

Totally agreed. The pushier someone gets with me, especially right at the beginning, the less likely I am going to want to meet him. If I get a bad vibe from him - forget it.
I'm on Plentyoffish too and I have met several people from there - including my current boyfriend, who is awesome. I have been pretty good at weeding out the crazies before we get anywhere close to meeting. I do like to exchange messages/IM a few times at least before we meet. If someone pushes to meet right away - HUGE red flag.

[navane]

Wait...he's a paramedic who is tall and strong? Send him my way! Thanks!


.....Kelly