Not getting along with a sister- help!!

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, but this is obviously someone you have already said doesn't like you and is mean to you.

Surely you didn't expect her to be like "Oh let's invite crissy1 to go see a movie?"

Some girls might be the kind of girls who invite people they don't like to go see movies with all the other girls. This girl is not.

But obviously this is not a girl who gets along with a lot of people. Do you really think she likes every other girl except for me? Regardless of how whinny posts may make me appear, I am a well-liked girl for the most part. That is why I'm so bothered by this: it's new to me.
The point is, she's on the social committee. When planning events and calling them SISTERHOOD activities, it is inappropriate to leave out sisters.
I really didn't want sympathy, I promise. I just am curious to see how other people in this situation may have handled it, and were successful. I don't neccessarily want to be friends with the girl, but I don't see why we have to be blatantly rude to each other?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by crissy1

But obviously this is not a girl who gets along with a lot of people. Do you really think she likes every other girl except for me? Regardless of how whinny posts may make me appear, I am a well-liked girl for the most part. That is why I'm so bothered by this: it's new to me.
The point is, she's on the social committee. When planning events and calling them SISTERHOOD activities, it is inappropriate to leave out sisters.
I really didn't want sympathy, I promise. I just am curious to see how other people in this situation may have handled it, and were successful. I don't neccessarily want to be friends with the girl, but I don't see why we have to be blatantly rude to each other?

In ANY group of women there is bound to be drama--choir, cheerleading, softball, ANYTHING. There are going to be girls who don't get along.

I'm assuming that if something is an OFFICIAL sisterhood, you don't need a Facebook invite to tell you that you can go. Just go, and have fun. You're part of the sorority and are entitled to be able to attend them. She can't tell you that you can't go to a sisterhood. Also, going to a sisterhood doesn't mean you need to talk to her. Hang out with your friends in the sorority.

[nittanyalum]

Why aren't other sisters or officers noticing this and calling her on it?

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Why aren't other sisters or officers noticing this and calling her on it?

There are a couple of us who have been offended by her, or have experienced her rude behavior firsthand, but we've all just kind of shrugged it off. What are we going to do, tattle to the judicial board? That seems a little silly.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by crissy1

There are a couple of us who have been offended by her, or have experienced her rude behavior firsthand, but we've all just kind of shrugged it off. What are we going to do, tattle to the judicial board? That seems a little silly.

You said that official sisterhood events have been planned that you have not been invited to, so my question was whether other sisters or officers have noticed those situations, because that would seem pretty anti-sistery to me.

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

You said that official sisterhood events have been planned that you have not been invited to, so my question was whether other sisters or officers have noticed those situations, because that would seem pretty anti-sistery to me.

Oh I see. I doubt anyone has really noticed because usually no more than 10ish girls show up, and I'm sure i'm the only one looking at who all got invited (due to my lack of invite). Also, I AM an officer so I guess I could bring it up but I'd rather not.


Also KSUViolet06, I agree with that statement (I dont know how to double quote whoops). I'm sure we'll have a mixer and someone will wear a color she doesn't like and she will decide to hate them too.

Also, remember how I said she wasn't active before? (she spent the last year on probation) She just got a tattoo of our symbol :O She's Susie sisterhood now I guess.
ok that was tacky of me, but I had to say it.

[VandalSquirrel]

You said she's defriended people on Facebook, does that include you? Maybe that's why you didn't get an invite?

Also look at it this way, would you go to the event if you were invited, if someone else planned it? You're upset by her treatment of you, but if you wouldn't go anyway, what is the point in wasting your time being upset? If it isn't an official on the schedule/calendar event, then move on. As my sister nittanyalum pointed out if it is official and you were left out, especially more than once then it is an issue that may be worth mentioning. I highly doubt it is official since it is off campus, alumnae aren't involved, and you said it wasn't coming out of dues.

If she's such a miserable beeyotch, why do you care so much? You say you have other sisters you want to be with, you have a boyfriend, and she is going to move on to a new target. Get off her radar and quit making yourself crazy. If you're not around her and don't appear to give a flying fart, she won't get off on your reaction and she'll be on to the next victim.

[agzg]

Just keep trying to steer clear of her - honestly I wouldn't go the kill her with kindness route because if she's rude to you after saying something nice to her it's just going to hurt more.

Just keep holding on - she'll find someone else to hate soon enough.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

Just keep trying to steer clear of her - honestly I wouldn't go the kill her with kindness route because if she's rude to you after saying something nice to her it's just going to hurt more.

Just keep holding on - she'll find someone else to hate soon enough.

Hold on for one more day...break free from the chains!

[crissy1]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Hold on for one more day...break free from the chains!

I mean, if I start singing this in my head every time I see her...I'd probably never be sad again.

"no one can change your life expect for you.......don't ever let anyone step all over you..." Carnie Wilson is so inspirational.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Hold on for one more day...break free from the chains!

I was thinking of another song.

If you told me you sent a letter to Casey Casem I'd start listing to the American Top 20 on Sunday mornings again.

ETA: Is it sad that I think I have that CD?