looking younger

[amycat412]

yes I think how well your same-sex parent ages has something to do w it.

my mom looks freakishly young for her 54 years. I can live with that! lol

[bruinaphi]

I am 27 and have 18 and a 16 year old sisters. When we were out for mother's day last year they poured wine for my sisters and carded me! I was so annoyed!

I think that how well your parents age definitely has something to do with it. In college my dad took my roomie and I out for a movie and dinner one night. We went to the Brewing Co. and they carded my dad. He was so excited! He was 50 and it had been two years since he was last carded. At first he thought the bouncer was joking, but he wasn't. I hope I get carded at his age!

[lifesaver]

I was cooking dinner last week for my friend Katie, and we went to the store to get a few things I dint have on hand, bellpeppers, onion, butter, etc. And we decide to make it a wine night. So I pick my favorite, and the FREAK checker was all about the ID (I took the cap off to age myself). Katie is only 20, so she was NO help. She (Freak checker) called her supervisor and he was a Keanu wanna be and gave me the "Sorry buuud. Not gonna happen." Like he had saved me from myself. UGH. The guy in me wanted to go home, get the ID and come back. Katie woulda kicked my ass tho. So I just cooked and forgot about it.

[aephi alum]

I've got the opposite problem - I look older than I am. I was rarely carded once I turned 18 and everyone at work thinks I'm around 30 when I'm actually in my mid-20's.

It's all in how you carry yourself. If you order a drink or buy some booze like it's no big deal, you won't get carded. If you dress well (nice shirt and slacks/skirt, no jeans) you'll look older. If you wear your hair short or up in a bun, you'll look older. If you stand/sit up straight, you'll look older; if you slouch, you'll look like a kid.

[lovelyivy84]

I always find it amusing-

when I was 14, people always thought I was older, like 18 or so.

But now that I am 22, people really think that I'm 16! It kills me! The other day on the way home from work, some grown man asked me how school was. I was CTHU! (My fault though, I had one of those one-strap backpacks).

I reaaaally wondered why this grown ass man would be trying to flirt with someone who he thought was young enough to be his kid! Eww!

It's probably my fault though. I think I probably dressed older when I was in high school than I do now (I like to be comfortable, something that I would sacrifice in a heartbeat for fashion when I was in high school- I still remember the debacle with the thigh highs, lol). I was never allowed to dress scandulously or anything, but I wore skirts more and tighter shirts.

It's all good though. I see how my Mom is- she does not remotely look her age, and that makes me quite happy, lol. She has beeeoooootiiiful skin. The only thing I'm afraid of inheriting from my Mom is her chest size! I will be #1 in line for a reduction if I get that big post-kids!

[prospectiverushee]

I can relate to everybody one this board. I am 29,but everybody swears up and down that I look about 21.

It use to bother me,but now I sort of get a kick out of shocking people when I tell them my age.

About 4 years ago,I was meeting at friend at the movies. Since I lived closer to the movie theather,I was going to buy both our tickets. Anyway, for some reason I had left my drivers liecense in the car. So I go to purchase the tickets(we were going to see Romy and Michelle's HS reunion which is rated R) and the clerk is all "Do you have any id"? I was all "I left it in the car." She's all I can't sell you the tickets cause you're underage."

So I go out to my car to get my driver's liecense,and get back in line. Imagine the cahsier's surprise when she saw that I was 25 and not 17 like she thought. She could not apologize enough.

Then another time,I was riding the Greyhound and I was sitting in the very last row next to a couple of guys. Well I don't how we got arounnd talking about age,but when one guy found out that I was 21(at the time),he didn't believe me. I had to pull out my id to prove to him that I was not lying about my age.

The good thing about looking younger then I am is that when I'm 90,I'll look 60. My mom will be 52 on Thursday and she doesn't look a day over 35 So I say enjoy looking young while it lasts

[KSig RC]

I got carded for an R-rated movie over christmas - that was freaking awesome.

I love looking young - it's great. My demeanor (diction, composure, etc) often forces people to think I'm 25, but I look 15. That's the trick - only half of it is how you look, the rest is how you act. Bouncers never question my ID - but they always ask for it. Fantastic.

If you really feel that self-conscious about looking young, seek therapy, because it's the greatest gift in the world - you'll reap the rewards 1000fold. Listen to Amycat and James - those parables are key examples of why I embrace my looking fifteen-ness.

[juniorgrrl]

When I went to a dressmaker for my cotillion dress, the dressmaker first said "This isn't a wedding dress, is it?" and I said "no." She replied "Good - how old are you? 13, 14?" I was 18.

I always feel like I look young in comparison to lots of girls - like they have a more sophistocated look. But then I realize that they're willing to sacrifice their comfort to wear black pants and one-shoulder tops to the grocery store on Saturday night, when I can be happy in jeans and a dressy sweater

I started looking older when I cut my hair to above shoulder length, got rid of my straight cut bangs, and got highlights. I also find that wearing "bigger" earrings helps too. Not giant doorknockers, but I have a pair of CZ studs that are about 1 ct each. Not huge, but big enough to look like something a college student would wear.

[James]

The same sex parent is true.

In male folklore there is a saying: Look at the Mother!

Because that is what your GF will turn into later in life.

That is supposed to encompass both looks and personality.

So if the mom is heavy . . run.

If the mom is evil . . . run.


I have actually known guys to mentally erase their GF's as marriageable after meeting the Mom.

[Shawndalynn]

Hey bucutie I know exactly what you are talking about. Over the christmas break I went to get a new cell phone service and when I was in there the guy asked me are you 18? Cause you obviously have to be unless your parents are sigining the contract. I was like yes I am 21. And he was shocked he thought I was like 16. I know its not as bad as yours but its pretty bad. But when we left my little sister who is 18 and looks older than me said you will be happy that you look younger than everyone once you get older. So I think about that and smile. We are going to look a lot younger when we get older than the other people we are with. :-)

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by bucutie02
I also feel that maybe if i looked older, i'd get the attention of more guys. I guess maybe thats why i get more"you are so cute" instead of the "you are so pretty"

anyone else have this problem, or a solution?

to most guys cute=pretty Just a less sappy way to say it.

[XO_Princess]

Ahhh, I can totally relate. I'm 23 but I look like I'm 12. All my patients at work are like, are you old enough to work here? I get carded for everything-beer, lottery tickets-you name it. But the worst ever-I'm still mad about this -my mom and I were boarding a plane, and we were handing the stewardess our tickets, and she takes mine, looks at me, and says "How old are you?". I told her I was 23, and she's like, oh...nevermind. I looked all confused and she was like, I'll tell you why I asked when we get on the plane. So, my mom and I are trying to figure out why on earth she would ask, and she comes up, and she's like, here's why I asked how old you are-that seat your sitting in? You have to be at least 15 years old to sit there (it was the seat with the emergency exit next to it). My mom burst out laughing, but I was pissed. Ever since I've turned 23 people either think I'm 15 or 18-19. And then I see girls who are my age or younger and they look older than me! And I just want to look my age!!

[ErikaXO]

It's weird for me because when I was younger everyone thought I looked much older than my age....getting into bars and getting served was never a problem for me even in high school. But then, somewhere in my early to mid twenties it reversed. Now everyone thinks I am much younger than I really am. I love it because I will be 30 in May and I am not exactly thrilled about that. In fact, one day a salesman came to the door when I had my hair in a ponytail, no makeup, and sweats on. I was holding my son when I opened the door and he just kind of looked at me. Then he asked if I was the babysitter!!!! I said no and he said "well then is your mom or dad here?" I just laughed and told him if he was trying to make a sale he was well on his way. He was really embarrassed when I told him how old I was because I was a lot older than him!!!!

If I go out alone I get carded most of the time, except like at the grocery store. But whenever I am with Brent I never get it and I know it is because he looks so much older. He is only 31 but he could pass for 41 easily. Not that this is a bad thing. I like cute young men just like anyone else but I have always been so turned on by older men. Brent broke his finger and had to go to the hospital so his brother took him. Mind you, they are twins but Dave is a lot heavier....the nurse thought Dave was Brent's DAD!!!!!! We will never let him live that one down!!!!!

[Steeltrap]

I'm 37, turning 38 in October.

Some believe that I look like I'm in my mid- to-late 20s. I have very few wrinkles and little damage in my skin. Constantly wear 15 SPF sunscreen.

When I get older, I would love to age on the order of Diahann Carroll or Lena Horne, the most glamorous 80-something woman on the planet.

[Siobhan]

I know how you all feel: I'm 23 but apparently don't look at day over 16, grrr. My mum keeps telling me however, I will greatly appreciate it a few years from.