What do you feel like saying, right now?

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Yep. But he was my boyfriend for like 5 days? Then, I broke up with him. 🫤

Lol!!! Wtf? You dumped that dude in 5 days? Why? Why’d you even get in a relationship with him if you knew you were going to dump him? CG, I can tell you were the girl a lot of dudes wanted to be with, and when some dude got in a relationship with you, you’d dump him because you could. I hated chicks like you in high school and college Lol! You were that girl who never knew what she wanted - wishy washy as hell.

What’d he say when you did that shit after 5 days? You are a trip, CG. Lol

[PrettyBoy]

I was pretty much forced to go to my high school prom. That was a “why?” moment for me. Being there made zero sense, to me. Didn’t even ask the girl to dance.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I was pretty much forced to go to my high school prom. That was a “why?” moment for me. Being there made zero sense, to me. Didn’t even ask the girl to dance.

Lol! This prom topic has got me over here cracking up. How can anybody force you to go to prom? Why didn’t you want to go? I hear you on the dancing. Unless it’s a slow cut, I’m not dancing.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lol! This prom topic has got me over here cracking up. How can anybody force you to go to prom? Why didn’t you want to go? I hear you on the dancing. Unless it’s a slow cut, I’m not dancing.

My parents kept nagging me about going, so I asked somebody and went. I didn’t want to go because it wasn’t my thing. We didn’t dance because the DJ was terrible. It was 99.9% country music. Country music is the worst music on the planet, to me. Hate it. She went to a different high school but we knew the same people at my school. We sat at the table with people we knew or walked around and socialized. Complete waste of time. At the time, I could think of a million other/better/more entertaining things I could have been doing.

Man, when she’d get up to go to the bathroom, I’d start sketching cars on table napkins. Goes to show how excited I was to be there.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

My parents kept nagging me about going, so I asked somebody and went. I didn’t want to go because it wasn’t my thing. We didn’t dance because the DJ was terrible. It was 99.9% country music. Country music is the worst music on the planet, to me. Hate it. She went to a different high school but we knew the same people at my school. We sat at the table with people we knew or walked around and socialized. Complete waste of time. At the time, I could think of a million other/better/more entertaining things I could have been doing.

Man, when she’d get up to go to the bathroom, I’d start sketching cars on table napkins. Goes to show how excited I was to be there.

Lol @ you drawing cars on napkins at prom. Wow.

I've seen your cars from that school you went to in Detroit, but what did they look like in high school? Those ones you did that you posted on here were amazing. Mad talent.

Country music sucks donkey balls. Who the hell headed up y’all’s prom committee? Damn!

Btw - I’m digging your siggy change, PB. Elaborate on that.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lol!!! Wtf? You dumped that dude in 5 days? Why? Why’d you even get in a relationship with him if you knew you were going to dump him? CG, I can tell you were the girl a lot of dudes wanted to be with, and when some dude got in a relationship with you, you’d dump him because you could. I hated chicks like you in high school and college Lol! You were that girl who never knew what she wanted - wishy washy as hell.

What’d he say when you did that shit after 5 days? You are a trip, CG. Lol

lol
Omg, that was like 25 years ago! I was like 15/16 then? So, I don’t remember what he said.

[cheerfulgreek]

WIFLSRN: So, going back to the conversation you guys were having about P Diddy on here, there’s a really good documentary about him on Tubi. I’m watching it now. It’s SO good. They’re making it seem like so many powerful people were involved in his shenanigans.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
Omg, that was like 25 years ago! I was like 15/16 then? So, I don’t remember what he said.

Yeah, ok wishy washy. Whatever Lol

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

WIFLSRN: So, going back to the conversation you guys were having about P Diddy on here, there’s a really good documentary about him on Tubi. I’m watching it now. It’s SO good. They’re making it seem like so many powerful people were involved in his shenanigans.

I’m about to watch it now.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

That’s an interesting story. I thought you were hollering at a new dude? Unless that’s the same dude.

Not the same dude- this other guy is in Atlanta and we're talking daily but there are barriers to overcome. We've been talking about how we would manage things - summers in Michigan, winters in the warm place of his choice, if we end up together. We just spent 3 hours on the phone this morning. I could talk to him forever. It's always hard to hang up the phone. We are texting late into the night too- both of us having a hard time saying goodnight. We met 24 years ago. He's the only person who really knows me to my core- good, bad, ugly. He's everything I've ever wanted in a partner. A fit cognitively, spiritually and physically. I'll be connected to him in a very deep way whether we ever end up truly together or not. For the first 14 years, I thought we'd end up together at this stage of life. Then for the last 10 years, I thought there was no way it would happen. Very soon, we will both be in a position where we can possibly be together. We've been waiting a long time.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What was his reason for breaking up with you?

He’s only a couple of hours away? You should go for it, Dee! Do it! Do it! Do it! lol.

I was pretty insecure, clingy and jealous back then. I was so afraid of losing him. I think he felt too young to be that tied down too. He wanted to date other people and he dated someone else and then came back. Then a month later he wanted to date other people again. I was 19 and he was 20 so I get it. He will talk about how head over heels he was for me and how he has never been in a longa distance thing again because of how difficult it was for us to be apart during the summers. I might suggest we meet for lunch sometime when I'm on that side of the state again and see how it goes. He's close to Lake Michigan, where my future daughter in law is from. He lives in the town where she went to high school.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lol @ you drawing cars on napkins at prom. Wow.

I've seen your cars from that school you went to in Detroit, but what did they look like in high school? Those ones you did that you posted on here were amazing. Mad talent.

Country music sucks donkey balls. Who the hell headed up y’all’s prom committee? Damn!

Btw - I’m digging your siggy change, PB. Elaborate on that.

Thanks, Phroze. In high school they were all sketched from a profile view. I didn’t know how to sketch them from different views/angles or interior sketches back then. I learned all that at CCS.

My auto-sig just means that the world system is a system that is built on selfishness, which is why the devil is in control of it. It’s predicated on appetites, desires, and mind-sets that contradict what the kingdom of God stands for. Everything this world system has to offer is based on greed, lust and pride, man.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Not the same dude- this other guy is in Atlanta and we're talking daily but there are barriers to overcome. We've been talking about how we would manage things - summers in Michigan, winters in the warm place of his choice, if we end up together. We just spent 3 hours on the phone this morning. I could talk to him forever. It's always hard to hang up the phone. We are texting late into the night too- both of us having a hard time saying goodnight. We met 24 years ago. He's the only person who really knows me to my core- good, bad, ugly. He's everything I've ever wanted in a partner. A fit cognitively, spiritually and physically. I'll be connected to him in a very deep way whether we ever end up truly together or not. For the first 14 years, I thought we'd end up together at this stage of life. Then for the last 10 years, I thought there was no way it would happen. Very soon, we will both be in a position where we can possibly be together. We've been waiting a long time.



I was pretty insecure, clingy and jealous back then. I was so afraid of losing him. I think he felt too young to be that tied down too. He wanted to date other people and he dated someone else and then came back. Then a month later he wanted to date other people again. I was 19 and he was 20 so I get it. He will talk about how head over heels he was for me and how he has never been in a longa distance thing again because of how difficult it was for us to be apart during the summers. I might suggest we meet for lunch sometime when I'm on that side of the state again and see how it goes. He's close to Lake Michigan, where my future daughter in law is from. He lives in the town where she went to high school.

That’s great to hear you’re trying to establish something with a dude who knows you like that. What I don’t understand is what stopped y’all from getting together 24 years ago? Sounds like you’re creating boundaries that either aren’t there or boundaries that are easily torn down.

What’s wrong with being jealous? I think we all are to a degree. My girl is both clingy as hell and jealous, but I’ve gotten used to it. But jealousy is natural I think. Being clingy is one thing, but jealousy is normal, as long as it’s not being possessive.

Any of y’all the jealous type?

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Thanks, Phroze. In high school they were all sketched from a profile view. I didn’t know how to sketch them from different views/angles or interior sketches back then. I learned all that at CCS.

My auto-sig just means that the world system is a system that is built on selfishness, which is why the devil is in control of it. It’s predicated on appetites, desires, and mind-sets that contradict what the kingdom of God stands for. Everything this world system has to offer is based on greed, lust and pride, man.

Yeah, I feel you. I see it in how folks dress now and how social media has gone flat out mad. But you still gotta live in this world, PB.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Yeah, I feel you. I see it in how folks dress now and how social media has gone flat out mad. But you still gotta live in this world, PB.

Well yeah, Phroze, but if you read 2 Timothy 3, you’ll get a better understanding of what I mean. I’m not disagreeing with you at all, you’re actually right. Yeah, it’s so easy to become caught up in that, along with the norms and values of society, which are governed by the world. There are so many ideas about what is right and wrong swirling around us every day — images and words are constantly sent through the media that are designed to get our focus off the Word of God and on what the world says is acceptable.

Right, you’re correct. But, you can be in the world, but not of it, which means that while we live on this earth, we are always going to be surrounded by the corrupt influences of this system of thought that opposes God. I can’t do anything about being surrounded by it. However, I can control whether I’m OF it or not.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

That’s great to hear you’re trying to establish something with a dude who knows you like that. What I don’t understand is what stopped y’all from getting together 24 years ago? Sounds like you’re creating boundaries that either aren’t there or boundaries that are easily torn down.

What’s wrong with being jealous? I think we all are to a degree. My girl is both clingy as hell and jealous, but I’ve gotten used to it. But jealousy is natural I think. Being clingy is one thing, but jealousy is normal, as long as it’s not being possessive.

Any of y’all the jealous type?

So here’s the story of ATL Guy. He lives in Atlanta- the biggest barrier.
Back in days before, when the Internet was first easily accessible to civilians, we had Prodigy, CompuServe and America Online. One of the big features of those was live chat rooms. When I was on maternity leave after having my daughter, my (now ex) husband brought home a floppy disk from CompuServe and suggested I learn how to use our computer and figure out the Internet (which ultimately led to me working in cybersecurity!).

CompuServe had CB Chat and there were channels where “regulars” hung out and chatted. I met people from all over the country on that service and met a few and made some really good friends. Around the time my son was born, I met ATL Guy in one of the channels where we were both regulars. We chatted privately a lot. I was working full time, married, and had a 2 year old and a newborn. He was newly retired from the Army and newly divorced. He had a new high paying job in Atlanta. He was playing a lot then, with his new freedom and I was very tied down. We chatted privately a lot though, talking about all kinds of things.

A group of people from the channel used to get together regularly for some wild parties. I never went because I was married with two babies. I gave him relationship advice and we talked about all kinds of things- politics, interests, hobbies, music, movies, etc. He became one of my best friends and he considered me one of his best friends also.

Summer of 2000, I got divorced. After four years of typing to each other, we started talking on the phone. He was giving ME dating advice as I was venturing into that world. Then one day he told me that he was going to be travelling to Ohio for business and wondered how far it was and if I could meet him for dinner because he wanted to meet his friend. He was going to be near Columbus so I drove down. When we met in person he gave me a huge hug and we both realized that there was more than just friendship there. We had very intense chemistry too. But he had a very high paying job in Georgia and I had 50-50 custody with my ex in Michigan. I couldn’t go anywhere and neither could he. We agreed to prioritize our friendship always because it was really important to us.

We helped each other write our profiles for online dating sites and talked on the phone and emailed and chatted online. We each had more serious relationships during which time we would limit communication to occasional email. When we were both single, we would see each other. There were a few summers that we saw each other quite a bit, including 2009. I don’t know if I posted anything about him then. I haven’t gone back to look. I might have though. We also saw each other a few times in 2011. And before that- like 2000, 2001, 2005 maybe. We agreed that if we were both single when we retired and were free to move, we would be together then. We always respected the boundaries when one of us was in a relationship though.

We talked on the phone a couple times in 2015 but he met someone around then and got involved pretty quickly after his last breakup. He married her in 2016 and I wrote it off, assuming it was done for good and I’d just get occasional emails from then on. But, his marriage is ending now. And now I don’t have kids at home and he’s retired so it is possible. But he has to finish his business first. And he needs some time after everything is settled. So we’ll see. It might not happen. It might happen. He will always be my best friend either way.

As for jealousy? It's insecurity and it's not healthy. You should be confident in your partner and know that they are committed to you.

[PrettyBoy]

My brother just text me some pictures of my nephew’s prom tonight. He and his date look sharp. I text my brother back telling him that I can tell my nephew’s prom date REALLY likes him based on how she’s smiling at him. 😂😂😂

My sister-in-law told me my nephew didn’t ask her to prom, SHE asked him. He looks extremely nervous in those pics. I wish uncle PB could be a fly on the wall at his prom. 🤣🤣

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Not the same dude- this other guy is in Atlanta and we're talking daily but there are barriers to overcome. We've been talking about how we would manage things - summers in Michigan, winters in the warm place of his choice, if we end up together. We just spent 3 hours on the phone this morning. I could talk to him forever. It's always hard to hang up the phone. We are texting late into the night too- both of us having a hard time saying goodnight. We met 24 years ago. He's the only person who really knows me to my core- good, bad, ugly. He's everything I've ever wanted in a partner. A fit cognitively, spiritually and physically. I'll be connected to him in a very deep way whether we ever end up truly together or not. For the first 14 years, I thought we'd end up together at this stage of life. Then for the last 10 years, I thought there was no way it would happen. Very soon, we will both be in a position where we can possibly be together. We've been waiting a long time.

Ohhhhh, he could be that guy.

I honestly believe that people could meet the right person at the wrong time. Timing is everything in relationships. It’s like the ones that last happen when you least expect it. Know what I mean?

Originally Posted by AGDee

I was pretty insecure, clingy and jealous back then. I was so afraid of losing him. I think he felt too young to be that tied down too. He wanted to date other people and he dated someone else and then came back. Then a month later he wanted to date other people again. I was 19 and he was 20 so I get it. He will talk about how head over heels he was for me and how he has never been in a longa distance thing again because of how difficult it was for us to be apart during the summers. I might suggest we meet for lunch sometime when I'm on that side of the state again and see how it goes. He's close to Lake Michigan, where my future daughter in law is from. He lives in the town where she went to high school.

lol
You have two options here, Dee.

I think that’s wonderful that the two of you are close together in distance. How often do you talk to him? Do you talk to him as much as the other guy?

Okay, so we need codenames so we know who you’re talking about. Kind of like in Dee’s dates, lol.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

What’s wrong with being jealous? I think we all are to a degree. My girl is both clingy as hell and jealous, but I’ve gotten used to it. But jealousy is natural I think. Being clingy is one thing, but jealousy is normal, as long as it’s not being possessive.

Any of y’all the jealous type?

Well, that depends.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Right, you’re correct. But, you can be in the world, but not of it, which means that while we live on this earth, we are always going to be surrounded by the corrupt influences of this system of thought that opposes God. I can’t do anything about being surrounded by it. However, I can control whether I’m OF it or not.

Originally Posted by AGDee

So here’s the story of ATL Guy. He lives in Atlanta- the biggest barrier.
Back in days before, when the Internet was first easily accessible to civilians, we had Prodigy, CompuServe and America Online. One of the big features of those was live chat rooms. When I was on maternity leave after having my daughter, my (now ex) husband brought home a floppy disk from CompuServe and suggested I learn how to use our computer and figure out the Internet (which ultimately led to me working in cybersecurity!).

CompuServe had CB Chat and there were channels where “regulars” hung out and chatted. I met people from all over the country on that service and met a few and made some really good friends. Around the time my son was born, I met ATL Guy in one of the channels where we were both regulars. We chatted privately a lot. I was working full time, married, and had a 2 year old and a newborn. He was newly retired from the Army and newly divorced. He had a new high paying job in Atlanta. He was playing a lot then, with his new freedom and I was very tied down. We chatted privately a lot though, talking about all kinds of things.

A group of people from the channel used to get together regularly for some wild parties. I never went because I was married with two babies. I gave him relationship advice and we talked about all kinds of things- politics, interests, hobbies, music, movies, etc. He became one of my best friends and he considered me one of his best friends also.

Summer of 2000, I got divorced. After four years of typing to each other, we started talking on the phone. He was giving ME dating advice as I was venturing into that world. Then one day he told me that he was going to be travelling to Ohio for business and wondered how far it was and if I could meet him for dinner because he wanted to meet his friend. He was going to be near Columbus so I drove down. When we met in person he gave me a huge hug and we both realized that there was more than just friendship there. We had very intense chemistry too. But he had a very high paying job in Georgia and I had 50-50 custody with my ex in Michigan. I couldn’t go anywhere and neither could he. We agreed to prioritize our friendship always because it was really important to us.

We helped each other write our profiles for online dating sites and talked on the phone and emailed and chatted online. We each had more serious relationships during which time we would limit communication to occasional email. When we were both single, we would see each other. There were a few summers that we saw each other quite a bit, including 2009. I don’t know if I posted anything about him then. I haven’t gone back to look. I might have though. We also saw each other a few times in 2011. And before that- like 2000, 2001, 2005 maybe. We agreed that if we were both single when we retired and were free to move, we would be together then. We always respected the boundaries when one of us was in a relationship though.

We talked on the phone a couple times in 2015 but he met someone around then and got involved pretty quickly after his last breakup. He married her in 2016 and I wrote it off, assuming it was done for good and I’d just get occasional emails from then on. But, his marriage is ending now. And now I don’t have kids at home and he’s retired so it is possible. But he has to finish his business first. And he needs some time after everything is settled. So we’ll see. It might not happen. It might happen. He will always be my best friend either way.

As for jealousy? It's insecurity and it's not healthy. You should be confident in your partner and know that they are committed to you.

Omg, I ❤️ this story! I hope this works out for you, Dee. I mean, at least one or the other, lol.