Rush - What to NOT do or say

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Originally Posted by denimeans

We do do that too, but most girls don't just drop out of recruitment. You still have to kind of read them to find out if they can pay....most girls stay in recruitment even when they're not quite sure how they're going to pay for it.

We have that same problem on our campus. We talk about dues on Philanthropy night and we'll basically say something along the lines of "Is this a realistic amount for you?" We're allowed to ask pretty much flat out. But still we get girls dropping because they are broke. Or continuing through rush and then not accepting the bid cos their broke. I mean really, it's very obvious who's the cheapest on our campus, if you must join and you have limited funds, use this additional time to see if that chapter is somewhere you feel comfortable or get a job if you don't like them because those are pretty much your options! We also get women who say, "I don't have time for this". We explain all of our great activities during rush. That's what attracted you in the first place. If you don't have time, why don't you just join a club or something or sit at home and stare at the walls instead of wasting valuable time and taking a bid from someone who may have been a great member? If we told you we never did anything, then why would you have wanted to join?

[KpTridelta]

my advice for someone going through rush is dont try to impress, just do it. If you are ment to be in a chapter they will see that! Really try to get to know the women you talk to, dont wear to much makeup and NO tounge rings!!! i had a girl with a tounge ring talk to me and it was soooooo distracting!!!! if you are ment to be in a chapter you will be there...dont worry! Make sure you can see yoursef hanging out with these girls at the house or at a party or something, if you cant, its not the house for you. good luck!!!

DO NOT use profane language! Have a little respect.

[Scandia]

If I knew then what I know now.

But then, it was an extremely competitive SEC school with a huge Greek system.

I wonder if at my graduate school, or at this other state university where I took some courses, I would have had a higher chance. That, and by then I was more polished socially.

[tunatartare]

This was posted in one girl's recruitment thread already, but I feel that this should be posted on here to serve as a caution to all PNM's:
If you were affected by a tragedy such as Katrina, have a relative or friend serving in Iraq, etc. I would avoid talking about it unless someone asks you about it or brings it up first. You don't know what other peoples' experiences have been in the same situation, and you don't wanna bring up bad memories or look like you're playing the pity card.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by tunatartare

This was posted in one girl's recruitment thread already, but I feel that this should be posted on here to serve as a caution to all PNM's:
If you were affected by a tragedy such as Katrina, have a relative or friend serving in Iraq, etc. I would avoid talking about it unless someone asks you about it or brings it up first. You don't know what other peoples' experiences have been in the same situation, and you don't wanna bring up bad memories or look like you're playing the pity card.

I don't necessarily agree. In some cases, it's sort of natural to mention these things.

I talked with a girl this fall who was from Joplin. It was sort of hard to avoid the topic, once she told the actives where her hometown is.

Same sort of thing for a PNM with a parent in the military. They don't really have one home town.

[KillarneyRose]

This is from a conversation I had with CeCe Newbie yesterday:

KR: If you're at a rush party and one of the sisters says, "Oh CeCe, we love you so much and you'd fit in so well at ABC! When you fill out your bid card, only put down our sorority because we definitely want you!" What do you do?

CCN: Well, I wouldn't put just the one sorority because that would be suiciding, Right?

KR (proudly): Yes, that's right. And you don't want to do that.

CCN: What if I want to join the sorority that asked me to suicide but I still put another sorority second? Will the sisters at the first sorority be mad because I didn't suicide them?

KR (Thinking to herself) Those dirty rushing bitches messing with my baby!!!
KR (Says out loud): I think if you got a bid from the first sorority, they wouldn't know what other sorority you put on your card. But I'm going to ask on GC to see for sure.

So...can anyone help? Thanks!

[JMackGPD4Life]

What do...do your research. Learn the history, principle and founding mission of the organization.

ATTEND EVERY EVENT OR MEETING of your prospective organization & be early!

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER wear your prospective organizations colors! I get soooo heated when I see interests rocking my colors.

Never say, anything with soror of xyz org met with me. Always says, "I met with a member of XYZ organization".

Be cool, make friends with at least one ACTIVE member in your organization's chapter. Sororities are in the business of making future sisters and if you can't take the time to say hi, ask how your day is, learn what type person does, then it says something about what you will be like as a member.

Never disrespect the members (curse, yell, talk down, show up late). They ARE members, you are NOT.

If you are late, then let the ONE person you're cool with know before the meeting starts.

NO EXCUSES!

And never give up on becoming a member. Anyone can be interested in an organization, but following up and being persistent (not annoying) will set you apart from all the others.
~Member of Gamma Phi Delta Sorority, Inc. since FALL 2003
"Bringing GPD back to NYC."

[SigKapCoug]

Don't spill glue on the house's dining room table to ensure you won't get invited back after philanthrophy day. Everyone WILL hear about it, and everyone WILL talk about what a bitch you are.

[adpiucf]

* Don't be rude or negative.
* Don't let other people's ideas influence your decision (IE: PNM's, the sorority you believe your Recruitment Counselor to be a member of, your legacy status, recs, etc.).
* Don't be late.
* Don't be afraid to tell a sorority you're enjoying getting to know them.
* Don't bring up topics that deal with alternative behavior or controversial topics. Learn about the sororities and the chapter members as individuals. Stick to why you want to join a sorority and why you would be a good fit at that sorority.
* Don't deviate too far from the dress code.
* Don't refuse offers of food or refreshments. You can politely hold it if you don't want to eat it.
* Don't lose your smile or enthusiasm!
* Don't forget to be yourself!

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by SigKapCoug

Don't spill glue on the house's dining room table to ensure you won't get invited back after philanthrophy day. Everyone WILL hear about it, and everyone WILL talk about what a bitch you are.

Wow. I can't believe someone actually did this.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SigKapCoug

Don't spill glue on the house's dining room table to ensure you won't get invited back after philanthrophy day. Everyone WILL hear about it, and everyone WILL talk about what a bitch you are.

At first I thought you meant the girl did it on accident, and I wondered why everyone would think she was a bitch. Then I read it again and I was

[SigKapCoug]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

At first I thought you meant the girl did it on accident, and I wondered why everyone would think she was a bitch. Then I read it again and I was

yeah. Luckily, the table was glass, so it was an easier clean up that if it had been wood or something.

[kiteflyerzl]

1. If you go to a school where they haven't moved to "no frills" recruitment - ie they still do skits, event decorations are elaborate - do not let the event itself be the reason you choose the group. Just because a group has a talented cast of actors and can decorate a room like it's the Taj Mahal does not mean they will be the best sisters FOR YOU! Choose the group where you feel that the women will be the most accepting of you. These are the women you'll want to lean on when you've been up all night studying, you're homesick, your boyfriend dumps you for the cute blonde in his psych class, etc. If they can't help you then, who cares that they qualify for an academy award or could give MarthaStewart a Run for her money!

2. I know someone said this before but don't let a roommate pressure you into joining a group together. In many cases you've just arrived at school and your roommate is the only person you know. You probably don't even know her very well but it's easy to cling to the one familiar thing. Keep in mind that you'll soon have a whole new group of friends and the group your roommate would choose may not be the best fit for you in the long run.

3. Don't be afraid to report recruitment infractions. If you are the victim of a recruitment infraction that negatively impacts your experience, know that you are not alone and also realize that the group has probably been operating that way for a while and will continue to do so until someone steps up and says something. If the infraction positively impacts you (like bid promising) stop and think for a minute - yes you may have just been promised a bid to a group that you really thought you wanted to be a part of, but do you really want to join a group that doesn't play by the rules or believe in treating people fairly?

4. Be yourself! Any good rush hostess will be able to assess whether or not they can find common ground with you. They want to be able to make you feel at home. If you are honest in your conversation with them you'll either really hit it off with her or she'll realize she needs to introduce you to SuzySister because you and she would have xxx in common. If you eventually do not meet anyone you have anything in common with then the group is probably a bad fit for you but if you hadn't been yourself you would never know for sure!

[novaread]

Hi,
I don't know if I am on the wrong website or not but I wanted to ask a question about membership. How do you go about become a part of a graduate chapter? I am interested in becoming an AKA, I live in Georgia.

novaread