Too fat to recruit: or, DePauw, the Sequel

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by banditone

Perhaps their nationals should put forth a "rush weight limit" for members to adher to.

hijack-

That reminds me of a thread from years ago (I searched a little, but didn't find it) where someone was joking about there being a secret scale under the floor, and there was a total chapter weight that couldn't be exceeded, so membership selection was based on who could keep the chapter under the set limit. Anyone else remember that post?

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[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

You'd think that after several unsuccesful recruitments you'd get the hint and stop trying.

I wonder if she ended up AIing.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

GPA and being put on probation is WAY different than being told to hide in the corner during rush. I was once on academic probation and I think it was the best thing possible because the sorority motivated me to do better and study my ass off. Telling someone they can't be in view during rush hurts and is subjective rather than looking at someone's GPA which is objective.

Healthy weight is not subjective. There are guidelines published by many government and professional bodies. Motivating a sister to lose weight may be even better for her in the long run than motivating her to raise her GPA.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by banditone

Perhaps their nationals should put forth a "rush weight limit" for members to adher to.

For the love of all things precious, please tell me you are kidding. I am gathering that you are!

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I wonder if she ended up AIing.

No, she joined a colony her senior year. It's in honeychile's original post.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Motivating a sister to lose weight may be even better for her in the long run than motivating her to raise her GPA.

Or it may cause her to develop an eating disorder.

But hey, as long as rush goes well, that's what's important!

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Or it may cause her to develop an eating disorder.

But hey, as long as rush goes well, that's what's important!

True--motivating is different from telling someone to stay away from recruitment altogether. Motivation is like: Hey, I'm going to the gym, want to come with me? I love our conversations! Being callous is like: Stay away from recruitment, because we don't want any new girls to think we're the oinkers because of you.

[banditone]

How about if you get together and move the "house treadmill" so it is sitting right outside the offending sisters room?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by banditone

How about if you get together and move the "house treadmill" so it is sitting right outside the offending sisters room?

[Tom Earp]

OMG, what a neat non fat compared to fat people being wanted.

Would really want me want to be in a Female GLO!

Frumpy may not be for life. The point should be what can this girl do to help our Sorority!

Does she have more inside her than just the exterior trappings. Noooo, if no looks you suck attitude. To sad.

I am so sure that each poster fells drop dead gorgus of course!

Good luck in the future when your waist line is bigger than the IQ you think you have?

[banditone]

Earp. You outdid yourself sir.

[33girl]

You're completely missing the point.

Maybe they can "hide" women during rush, but then all of a sudden the sorority that had 50 skinny girls during the parties has 50 skinny girls and 20 fat girls at bid day.

If you were a new pledge, wouldn't you feel a little bit like someone was trying to pull the wool over your eyes?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by SECdomination

Here is why the overweight girl MUST be "hidden":

At a school with a competitive greek system, image is everything. All the sisters of all the sororities dress their best and look their best during rush. So you end up with most girls looking good and wearing designer clothing. Because they all do that, there is a level playing field.

The rushees don't care about what the girls are wearing because it's all expensive. One element of superficial rush is gone.
All the sisters spend so much time getting themselves all done up, so they are lookin' good! Another element of superficial rush is gone- all the sororities have attractive girls!

But, WAIT!

This one sorority has some fat girls. There must be something undesirable about them because this house is DIFFERENT from the rest.

It's unfortunate, but sometimes necessary.

This post actually really put the situation in perspective for me. I'm not from a highly competitve recruitment school, so it's hard for me to understand why there would be pressure to hide girls who are large. It seems as if in order to compete, the playing field must be completely level. If you are on a campus full of huge chapters, and you are already smaller, it seems to me like you can't afford to be "set apart" from the other sororities by the size of the women in your group.

Not saying that this practice is something that I agree with, but this did help me to understand the rationale behind it.

[BetteDavisEyes]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If you were a new pledge, wouldn't you feel a little bit like someone was trying to pull the wool over your eyes?

Yes. If I were a new member, and all of a sudden I saw a bunch of girls who were mysteriously missing throughout recruitment, I'd probably wonder why they weren't around and if all the missing girls happened to be bigger than a size 6, then I'd downright get pissed...but that's just me. Obviously, everyone else would react differently.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by BlueNYC2

smh @ today's youth...i'm not even 30 yet, but damn, i feel sad for you youngsters today

I'm over 30, and it isn't just today's youth. SEC rush is a completely different beast than non-SEC rush. SECdomination was just telling it like it is. And while it isn't as nice and pc as we'd like it to be, at least she's telling the truth.

I'm not trying to say it's right. I'm just saying it's nothing new.