DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF' - Page 15

AKA_Monet · #**211** 05-02-2007, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by JWithers

Thanks for your kind reply. I saw some posts where new people get kind of reamed. I guess no matter who you are , people feel like they have to divide into groups, and then groups within groups. It seems wrong, but I guess , like you said, it's been going on a long time.

I don't know why anyone would "ream" you for stating the obvious. Most of us know this happens, it has been happening for a long time and yes, it is wrong.

I don't like it when folks on GC compare complexions...

JWithers · #**212** 05-03-2007, 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I don't know why anyone would "ream" you for stating the obvious. Most of us know this happens, it has been happening for a long time and yes, it is wrong.

I don't like it when folks on GC compare complexions...

Oh, goodness, not about just that, but about any kind of post. I have enjoyed reading all of the posts and finally wanted to join in. But was a little afraid. That was silly, because you are very kind!

Also, I am sorry that people do that...I have NO idea about it and don't pretend to . But I do know it happens in other places, too.

Have a good night.

TotallyWicked · #**213** 10-19-2007, 09:26 PM

did everyone hear about the set of parties cancelled in Detroit. The first party was going to give free admission to light skinned Black women and Libras.

They were going to have "Sexy Chocolate" and "Sexy caramel" parties later on, but cancelled due to the controversy, dude says he didn't expect this kinda of feedback

I read on another message board that they were planning on doing a "Good Hair Party"

but dunno how valid that is.

AKA_Monet · #**214** 10-19-2007, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by TotallyWicked

did everyone hear about the set of parties cancelled in Detroit. The first party was going to give free admission to light skinned Black women and Libras.

They were going to have "Sexy Chocolate" and "Sexy caramel" parties later on, but cancelled due to the controversy, dude says he didn't expect this kinda of feedback

I read on another message board that they were planning on doing a "Good Hair Party"

but dunno how valid that is.

Can you give us some links? I think he was trying to show some social discrepancies and discriminations and make money off of it, but it somehow backfired.

I think these things are foul.

1908Revelations · #**215** 10-19-2007, 10:32 PM

Please give us some links.

ETA:
http://www.detnews.com/apps/pbcs.dll...ETRO/710120405
http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/wayof....ap/index.html
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21367799/

There are some others this is the link to the AOL search I did:
http://aolsearch.aol.com/aol/search?query=detroit%20light%20skinned%20Black%20w omen%20and%20Libras%20party

Wonderful1908 · #**216** 10-20-2007, 04:51 PM

Interesting to be honest it was stupid, but I wonder if this would have been the opposite say if all "Sexy Chocalate Sistas" in free first would it be as controversial.

Still BLUTANG · #**217** 10-20-2007, 09:43 PM

if it was "sexy chocolate" night then i think EVERY shade of cocoa would have found a way to get in free. People claiming "white chocolate" or "milk chocolate" or "dark chocolate"....ya know?

the whole light/dark thing gives me headaches sometimes. SOMETIMES its like the dark sisters are complaining from a sense of inferiority that no one has placed upon them but themselves - i am dark so i guess i'm allowed to say that. i dont know any light sistas who think they're better than ___, but i know plenty of dark sistas who THINK that light sistas think they are.

AKA_Monet · #**218** 10-20-2007, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG

if it was "sexy chocolate" night then i think EVERY shade of cocoa would have found a way to get in free. People claiming "white chocolate" or "milk chocolate" or "dark chocolate"....ya know?

the whole light/dark thing gives me headaches sometimes. SOMETIMES its like the dark sisters are complaining from a sense of inferiority that no one has placed upon them but themselves - i am dark so i guess i'm allowed to say that. i dont know any light sistas who think they're better than ___, but i know plenty of dark sistas who THINK that light sistas think they are.

I know a few light skinned sistahs who have said that about me and I have a medium brown complexion.

I actually prefer having a darker complexion because I think I look healthier.

What is funny, when I was in Hawaii 2 weeks ago, some kids were playing in the ocean lagoon and I walked by to see a beached sea turtle. One of the kids were may have been Hawaiian exclaimed, "look at how BLACK she is"... There was no reason to be angry, because I dunno if they knew what they were saying, but I found it rather silly and ironic.

Munchkin03 · #**219** 10-21-2007, 04:42 PM

I'm always amazed, even now, at how much stock some of us still put in skin tones.

Over the summer, I was at a family wedding when a cousin I hadn't seen in about 15 years was discussing various family members--and their skin tones! Maybe I'm naive, but I had never thought about my uncles and aunts in terms of who was the darkest and lightest. But, apparently she had! She also told me and my sister how "lucky" we were to have been born with green and hazel eyes.

PrettyInPink777 · #**220** 10-22-2007, 10:11 PM

This is stirring up family memories.

I have always heard about girls with 'pretty hair'. Apparently, my elders were evolved enough not to say "good hair", but the plain truth is 'pretty' was the subsitute for 'good'. The subtle (or not-so-subtle!) implication was that the compliment was intended only for those with LONG, straight hair. One's hair couldn't be pretty and short / nappy -- those identifiers were mutually-exclusive.

Another interesting identifier was the concept of the "cute black girl'.... kind of like the skewed concepts of the 'woman doctor', 'male hos', and 'white trash'.

Finally -- As a young girl, I used to hear this in Mississippi if a woman was unattractive but fair-complected..... "That's just some yellow throwed away!" Has anyone else ever heard that?

Jill1228 · #**221** 10-23-2007, 12:21 AM

I heard this from my grandmother (who is color struck as all get out)--she was talking about my cousin's new wife.
"She is ugly because she is too black." WTF? I have also heard her say about someone: "She is so black but she is pretty."

That is like hearing someone say: "she has a pretty face but she is so fat"

I came this close to calling my grandmother out and telling her that she should be ashamed of herself

Wonderful1908 · #**222** 10-23-2007, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Jill1228

I heard this from my grandmother (who is color struck as all get out)--she was talking about my cousin's new wife.
"She is ugly because she is too black." WTF? I have also heard her say about someone: "She is so black but she is pretty."

That is like hearing someone say: "she has a pretty face but she is so fat"

I came this close to calling my grandmother out and telling her that she should be ashamed of herself

Do we have the same grandmother?

She would only let me play in the shade as a child so I would stay light...

I think she really likes my daughter so much becuase she is light with "good" hair

Jill1228 · #**223** 10-23-2007, 05:41 PM

Wonderful, I think we have the same grandmother, sisterfriend! If not, they gotta be related (my grandma is 1 of 12 kids).

I am rather dark and I kept hearing the stay out of the sun. I love the sun and the ocean...not gonna happen

WTH is "good hair"?. If it is on your head and you like it, it is GOOD HAIR

Blacksocialite · #**224** 10-27-2007, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by TotallyWicked

did everyone hear about the set of parties cancelled in Detroit. The first party was going to give free admission to light skinned Black women and Libras.

They were going to have "Sexy Chocolate" and "Sexy caramel" parties later on, but cancelled due to the controversy, dude says he didn't expect this kinda of feedback

I read on another message board that they were planning on doing a "Good Hair Party"

but dunno how valid that is.

I swear...we can be our own worst enemy at times.

I'm curious about something however - do you think issues of class and color seem to 'rise' to the surface of our consciousness more in tough economic times?

It's almost as if we're all "doing OK" economically, we're not really focused on class and color as much.

But, when dollars get tight, if appears as if we revert back to the 'ole ye' time and start finding ways to self segregate.

Conskeeted7 · #**225** 10-27-2007, 08:35 PM

I just had a funny experience today. An older white lady was in Sephora with her (assuming) grandkids who were black. The kids were playing in the makeup while grandmother was at the counter. They put foundation on that was about 4 shades lighter than their skin. When grandmother turned around and saw them, she said 'you 2 getting ready for Halloween?' The older girl (about 6 yrs. old) said 'we're pretty little white girls now.' The grandmother just took them and left. The sad thing is that I'm sure they've heard that from the adults they're around and they'll grow up feeling inferior because of it.