The ramblings of a single woman... (TFKA ...crying pink and green tears... - Page 14

AKA_Monet · #1 05-28-2004, 03:37 PM

To get a little "me time"...

If anotha, otha than a brutha asks you out for a dinner and a movie date, you all had bedda take it!!! Cuz you'd be crazy not to!!! Then be stayin' home alone, wallowin' in your own misery left wonderin' why a brutha ain't called a sistah!!!

BELIEVE ME!!! Bruthas sho ain't waitin' on you all... They'll date AND be skeerioussss QUICK with anotha, otha than a sistah by the time I finish this post...

And I am not saying marriage... I am saying have fun! Think of it like "dating practice"--how to act during a date and conversationally. It's like "Continuing Datable Education" to keep you up to snuff on the "scene"--so that your playaz cards don't go defunct...

And to all my single sorors and sorority sistahfriends, you know you got to sell those tickets to y'all chapter events!!! Sell 'em to the folks you know will buy tickets!!! Some of these menfolks LOVE to support these kinds of dinners and luncheons...

HAYLE--you never know, sometimes these men purchase tables...

allsmiles_22 · #2 08-23-2004, 11:50 AM

I love my friends to death, but if I hear one more time, "why didn't he call" I think I'm going to scream. This article came right on time and thought I'd share.

Zero Calls, And One Cruel Answer
Why Men Don't Phone: It's Not Him, It's You

By Roxanne Roberts
Washington Post Staff Writer
Monday, August 23, 2004; Page C01

It was a great date. He promised to call. He never called.

The average single woman will stare at the phone, willing it to ring. A long list of possibilities noisily circle through her brain, like a hamster on an exercise wheel: He lost my number. He's really busy. He's intimidated. I talked too much. I drank too much. I slept with him. I didn't sleep with him. Ei-yi-yi . . .

No, no, no. None of the above. The answer, according to author Greg Behrendt, is that he's not really interested. Doesn't matter why. No ego-soothing platitudes. No pop psychology. No cute relationship tricks. He's just not that into you. The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn...r=emailarticle

Professor · #3 08-23-2004, 07:20 PM

When will women understand that they are really the ones that rule the earth - that have all the power - that control the minds - - -

abaici · #4 08-23-2004, 09:03 PM

I no longer agonize over the phone call. If he calls, great...if he doesn't that's cool. I am not about to worry myself to death waiting for some man to call me.

1savvydiva · #5 08-23-2004, 09:52 PM

I wish I could read the entire article without having to register.

I loved that SITC episode where Berger told Miranda...he's just not that into you. I have had to remind myself of that to kept cool in certain situations numerous times. I can say that I don't care, or it doesn't matter, but even if I'm not actively staring at the phone willing 'him' to call, it might cross my mind a few times. I also remind myself of one of the rules on that list "75 things..." that "If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away" (paraphrased). It's true, I really believe that once I put myself out there and my intentions are clear, everything else is on you padna.

nikki1920 · #6 08-27-2004, 09:30 PM

hijack
1sd: they only ask for email, no spam or anything else will be sent to you..I vouch for that.
end hijack..

1savvydiva · #7 08-28-2004, 02:02 AM

Thanks Nik-diddy!

Good article.

Ideal08 · #8 08-30-2004, 10:02 AM

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Originally posted by abaici
I no longer agonize over the phone call. If he calls, great...if he doesn't that's cool. I am not about to worry myself to death waiting for some man to call me.

Lawd, it took me a LONG TIME to get to this point, but Soror, we are >here<.

abaici · #9 08-30-2004, 10:15 AM

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Originally posted by Ideal08
Lawd, it took me a LONG TIME to get to this point, but Soror, we are >here<.

Oh, it took me a long time too. But, I mean, really I have things to do. I don't have time to sit and look at a phone.

NuQueen04 · #10 08-30-2004, 10:40 AM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
So my question to my single sistahs....would you consider "stepping outside the box"?

I have no problem "stepping outside the box." I am not going to limit God. If the man that God has selected for me is "outside the box." Who am I to say No to God? LOL, I am not stupid. Black women have been loyal to black men but it has not been reciporcated. Meaning that, brothas are quick to sample the various flavors while most sistas limit themselves to chocolate.

Some women tend to believe the "man shortage myth." Hence the reason why they buy into the "a piece of a man is better than no man at all" mindset. Therefore, men are lead to believe that they have all the power. If more women would respect themselves and hold men accountable, men would be forced to grow up. There are a lot of boys pretending to be men, shrinking from the responsibilities that comes with manhood. Age does not equate to being grown men and women.

CasanovaAPQ · #11 08-30-2004, 11:15 AM

wow it seems like there are so many educated beautiful women out there, i just cant seem to find one. I know god will lead the way and for all you beautiful women on here your need to know that god is always on time, may not be you ideal of "on time" but he works in his own time.

emeralds4kh · #12 11-22-2004, 12:10 PM

Hi:
I am in dire straits -- I have been put thru the ringer lately and just want to know where are all the decent, humane, caring men. I know they exist so I will not subscribe to the thought that they are not out there but dang, sometimes a sista has to wonder "Did I miss the boat"? Tell me what you think ---plz!

UpPinkies · #13 11-22-2004, 02:43 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by emeralds4kh
Hi:
I am in dire straits -- I have been put thru the ringer lately and just want to know where are all the decent, humane, caring men. I know they exist so I will not subscribe to the thought that they are not out there but dang, sometimes a sista has to wonder "Did I miss the boat"? Tell me what you think ---plz!

No you did not miss the boat, it just takes time...a lot of time. I have come to the fact that men are just very very very very very very very very slow to relationships. They are out there, but some feel that if they get into a relationship that they are missing out on so much. You just have to kiss alot of frogs before you get your prince. Just like a male church member told me that men are different in todays world.

desirethegreat1 · #14 11-23-2004, 01:31 AM

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Originally posted by emeralds4kh
Hi:
I am in dire straits -- I have been put thru the ringer lately and just want to know where are all the decent, humane, caring men. I know they exist so I will not subscribe to the thought that they are not out there but dang, sometimes a sista has to wonder "Did I miss the boat"? Tell me what you think ---plz!

Hi GC, I have been reading lately, but I had to log on, because I had to agree I feel the same way that emeralds4kh does. But UpPinkies does make a good point that guys tend to jump on wanting a relationship later than we would like them to. There is an epidemic with people not having labels and they are "JUST TALKING," maybe it is not an epidemic and I maybe overexaggerating.

emeralds4kh · #15 11-23-2004, 02:21 PM

The men just aren't real anymore.
I would think with the whole HIV scare in the Af Am community that men would want to slow down/settle down too.
I just don't get it for real.

It takes so much more than just saying " I'll put a condom on"... you have to factor in so many things now.

I have somewhat lost hope. I do know one thing ---after what I've just been thru and shared the story with some of my line sisters and can now vent on her about it ---- I am so glad I am an AKA, my circle is so much broader now --- so thanks Sorors who are reading this....