Greek interacial relationships

[Taualumna]

Originally Posted by shinerbock

I doubt he's that limited, if he's like most of us, he's merely limited to southern pearl-wearing sorority girls from wealthy families. There a lot of them.

Who says pearl-wearing sorority girls from wealthy families have to be white. You need to get out more. Maybe visit Hong Kong. Lots of pearl wearing (though mostly GDI) types there.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

Gotta love the Earp Man.

Do you know what 'mulatto' is?

Umm, I AM part white!

Sarcasm - do you know it when you see it?

I'm attempting to speak Earpish for you. Therefore you might understand.

LOL.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

What I understand him to be saying is that because of how he was raised, it wouldn't even OCCUR to him in normal life (as in not just talking on the internet) to date a woman who isn't white. I think this is different from someone (referred to in an earlier post as "pussy") who would change his behavior based on the disapproval of friends and family. That person would WANT to date someone of a different race and wouldn't, based on the judgment of others (inherently lame, IMHO). Macallan would never even have the idea to date a non-white woman. It's just his preference, based on how he was raised. His phrasing here is somewhat inelegant, but I really don't see the problem.

I have a very hard time getting upset about the dating preferences of others. It's not hurting anyone, and everyone should be free to date whomever he or she wishes, right? I personally wouldn't discount someone because of race, but I'd discount lots of people because of religion, and I don't care if anyone thinks that's offensive.

I agree with the religion thing. Faith is very important for me too.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by PKPILZ003

My kick into reality tells me that my white wife's (of 9 years) family didn't want her dating or marrying me, to the point where they threatened to cut her off if she did - she called their bluff, because we love each other and we thought that we could make it work. My kick into reality tells me that my family thought I was crazy for dating a white girl, until they met her and fell in love with her like I did. My kick into reality came when my mother sat me down and told me that she'd rather had me dating a black girl, but, "If I loved her, she would too."

That's reality

I mock him because he started this thread and then came back and said that he would be ashamed - ashamed of what? falling in love with someone? if he, or anyone else is that insecure about who he is and how he feels about someone, then they shouldn't be bringing them home, much less dating them. I have no problem with you, mac, or anyone else's personal preference about who you date - when you bring shame into it, however, it says to ME that you don't feel that they are worthy of equality in YOUR eyes.

Lastly, mac, if you fell in love with a woman of another race (I know that's not your preference, but hear me out) and you had to quash that becuase of what your family thought, then you weren't in love to begin with and you have no idea what it really means.

I agree with you, up to the part about me being insecure. I'm not insecure, I would feel uncomfortable because the way I was raised, and I'm more attracted to black women anyway. To each his own buddy.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by Taualumna

Who says pearl-wearing sorority girls from wealthy families have to be white. You need to get out more. Maybe visit Hong Kong. Lots of pearl wearing (though mostly GDI) types there.

From what I have seen and experienced (my campus, as well as many others in the South)......most pearl and Polo wearing wealthy sorority girls are white.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by JocelynC

I've dated alot of different races. I dunno, it just never really mattered that much to me. If a guy is cute, nice, and interesting, then hey, why not?

Honestly, it's just a matter of preference. I certainly don't think it's WRONG to want to be with someone of your own race.

I wish we all thought like that.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

It's the same attitude I grew up around...the scary corner of the universe where people do things like use the Bible to discredit interracial marriages by saying something to the effect of "God told the Jews not to breed horses and donkeys to get mules, so he disapproves of interracial unions." I too am coming from inside that bubble so I know exactly where he's coming from.

I hope you're just playing devil's advocate because I know you're not that naïve.

We both clicked on the thread knowing it could get controversial. That's ok with me.


ETA: Here's how it works.

FOR MEN: White men can "date" anyone they choose as long as they don't bring the girls home. And, they can marry anyone but a Black woman without much trouble. A non-Caucasian woman will raise eyebrows but the *indiscretion* will be overlooked in time. Of course, the non-Caucasian woman will always be referred to as "that cute little [fill in "race"] (as in, "Where is Evan and the cute little Indian girl he married?")

FOR WOMEN: White women can "date" anyone they choose as long as they don't bring the boys home. And, they can marry only Caucasian men...period. If not, there will be trouble. And, if they marry a Black man, they'll likely be disowned.

You hit that on the nose.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by dst2004

I wasn't even talking to you asshole! If you don't like THAT, too bad!

LOL.

[Taualumna]

Originally Posted by macallan25

From what I have seen and experienced (my campus, as well as many others in the South)......most pearl and Polo wearing wealthy sorority girls are white.

Why be limited to the south?

-Taualumna, an Asian pearl/polo/Lilly wearing, private girls' school Old Girl (an old-fashioned Commonwealth prep school term for alumna) Junior Leaguer from Toronto, Ontario...just to give an example of what a pearl wearing girl might be like

[shinerbock]

Yeah, from the South is very important. Basically, its a shorter way to say Christian, well mannered, classy...

[Taualumna]

Originally Posted by shinerbock

Yeah, from the South is very important. Basically, its a shorter way to say Christian, well mannered, classy...

And northerners aren't Christian? Or do you mean that they have to be a specific TYPE of Christian? From my experience, Old Line Protestants (e.g. Episcopalians) usually say what type of Christian they are, while those who say that they're "Christian" are more than likely part of an evangelical (though not evangelical Anglican/Episcopalian (aka "low church")) church.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by Taualumna

Why be limited to the south?

-Taualumna, an Asian pearl/polo/Lilly wearing, private girls' school Old Girl (an old-fashioned Commonwealth prep school term for alumna) Junior Leaguer from Toronto, Ontario...just to give an example of what a pearl wearing girl might be like

...Because I go to school in the South and travel often to different parts of the South and Southeast. I'm not saying it has to be exclusively limited to the South......i'm just talking about my personal observation.

[shinerbock]

I have no idea what you're talking about. "low church" means nothing to me. However, what I meant was that when dating sorority girls in the south, you generally don't have to consider things like religion. For me, I couldn't seriously date a girl who wasnt a Christian, but I really don't have to worry about things like that. I'm sure there are lots and lots of northern Christian girls, but thankfully down here, they're the rule, not the exception.

[Taualumna]

Originally Posted by shinerbock

I have no idea what you're talking about. "low church" means nothing to me. However, what I meant was that when dating sorority girls in the south, you generally don't have to consider things like religion. For me, I couldn't seriously date a girl who wasnt a Christian, but I really don't have to worry about things like that. I'm sure there are lots and lots of northern Christian girls, but thankfully down here, they're the rule, not the exception.

It's about how a service is conducted in the Anglican/Episcopalian church.

The "high church" service resembles the rituals of a Roman Catholic mass, including Eucharist.

The "low church" is less interested in above traditions, and services often taken from the Morning or Evening Prayer services from the Book of Common Prayer. According to Wikipedia, the Diocese of Sydney (Australia) has rejected the BOC completely.

There is also a "broad church" movement, which encompasses both high and low church ideals.

Oh and a question about religion: Aren't there different denominations of Christianity in the South too? I can't imagine that everyone is part of one denomination and I know that not all denominations agree with each other.

[mulattogyrl]

In all seriousness, I do understand what people are saying about preference. Although I wouldn't exclude someone because of race/ethnicity/whatever, I wouldn't necessarily prefer it either. If macallan or shinerbock were standing next to, let's say, Morris Chestnut, my eyes would go to Morris Chestnut first. That's just my preference. Now if I got to know someone that looked like macallan or shinerbock (notice I didn't say them; I KNOW they would never date a mulatto northerner ) and we liked each other, then I might date them. It's not a big deal. However, the first person I would look at or be attracted to would be someone like Morris Chestnut.

However, if macallan or shinerbock look anything like Brad Pitt or Triple H, my whole argument is null and void. LOL

Originally Posted by KSig RC

It seems specious to declare this a social issue, when it happens within and across all races. This would tend to make me believe it's generally an attraction thing, and not, for instance, a "white people yay, black people boo!" thing.

CTFU!