Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[kfraz811]

Yes I did start recruitment. I haven't officially dropped out but I am considering it a lot this week. I might get dropped before this friday or saturday because I haven't had the maximum of houses to visit each day. So i might drop and work on bettering my chances for next year. I haven't quite decided what to do yet. It's a little more complicated than that but I don't want everything public but i can pm if anyone cares to know my other reasons

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by kfraz811

Yes I did start recruitment. I haven't officially dropped out but I am considering it a lot this week. I might get dropped before this friday or saturday because I haven't had the maximum of houses to visit each day. So i might drop and work on bettering my chances for next year. I haven't quite decided what to do yet. It's a little more complicated than that but I don't want everything public but i can pm if anyone cares to know my other reasons

Based on what you've shared, I will repeat what we tell PNMs: "it only takes one". Many PNMs do not have the maximum number of invites and are pleased to accept invitations and find their home. Your stated attitude contains lots of "mights" that are negative; you don't know for a fact that you'll be dropped, do you? You are still being invited so clearly there are some chapters who are still interested in you.

Frankly, it seems to be the exception to have the maximum number of invites,rather than the rule, because of the sheer volume of PNMs competing for a limited number of available openings in each chapter. Recruitment is very competitive.

Point of reference: it doesn't come across well when you post information that's not consistent. The impression that I got is that you didn't like your invites. That's my take, based on what you've posted.

[kfraz811]

I didn't intend for it to sound that way. Actually I would be happy in any of the 4 houses that asked me back. They were all at the top of my list. I'm just worried I won't be invited back after philanthropy since my list will be so short and there are so many other pnms rushing this year. I don't know how high my chances are.

[FSUZeta]

hope it works out for you!!

[nolesgirl]

hey, i'm new to gc and hoping to rush this year. are we allowed to ask gc members for recs and is that considered okay, or is it more of an annoyance? what do they generally say in the recs?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by nolesgirl

hey, i'm new to gc and hoping to rush this year. are we allowed to ask gc members for recs and is that considered okay, or is it more of an annoyance? what do they generally say in the recs?

Just think about this logically, would it make sense for us to write you a recommendation when we don't know you? Read other threads about how to get in touch with people to do recs AFTER checking with every possible person you know in real life.

[transfergirrl]

I'm very confused concerning recommendations. I plan on rushing as a sophomore as I am transferring. I know many girls in sororities at m current school who said they would be happy to write me recommendation. I am unsure if the recommendation must be from an alumnae of the chapter that attended the actual university I plan on rushing at. If I do not know any alumnae, will I be able to contact one in some way? Please help!

[ForeverRoses]

Some orgs require recommendations to come for alumnae, others will allow a collegate member to write one for someone going through recruitment at another school.

Recomendations do not need to come from someone that attended the same school where you are going through recruitment.

Does your hometown have an alumnae panhellenic? If they do, they may be able to put you in contact with women from different groups.

[DubaiSis]

ForeverRoses is right, but I would only use the local Alumnae Panhellenic after you have exhausted EVERY man woman and child you know first. Once you've decided where you're going to school, get the list of participating sororities and start asking everyone you know. The sorority women you know are a great start and some will be able to help you directly or through an introduction to an alumna, but (I think) most sororities don't allow collegiate members to write recs. A few do and that's great, but I wouldn't plan on that helping you get out of this the easy way.

[Always AlphaGam]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

, but (I think) most sororities don't allow collegiate members to write recs. A few do and that's great, but I wouldn't plan on that helping you get out of this the easy way.

Off-topic, but I thought it was the other way around? I always thought that the sororities who don't allow collegians to write recs were far less than those who do.

Or maybe I'm just making this up, I don't know.

[FSUZeta]

i think there is a list somewhere on the sororities that do allow collegians to write recs. and those that don't allow them to.

[HCM]

Just a quick question regarding recommendations as I have no ties or connections to the Greek system. It seems that everyone suggests getting in touch with the local Alumnae Club to meet with women and obtain recommendations, but I cannot seem to find one in the greater Boston area. I was wondering if anyone could help me to find some resources for recommendations in Boston or point me towards any alumnae who would be willing to help me. Thank you so much!

[lauralaylin]

HCM, are you going to school in the Boston area as well? The last I knew (and this info is a few years old, things can change), the Boston Alum Panhellenic was not functioning.

[HCM]

I think you're right that it is no longer functioning. I will actually be going to school in California.

[carnation]

more opinions on recs