Auburn Recruitment Fall '08

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by AuburnUmom

She's a bit happier now, but probably would have been better off to COB after formal rush when she could take her time and make a more rational decision.

Do many Auburn sororities COB/COR in the fall after formal recruitment? On many competitive campuses, there is little to no informal recruitment because there is no room at the inn, so there is little to be gained by waiting for informal.

Colonization, on the other hand, is a different matter.

[Lil_ChiO_Lady]

It's really annoying to me how some Recruitment Counselors are so pushy when a PNM is in a situation involving dropping out and told to "hang in there"...If you truely don't feel at home somewhere, then you should seek out other alternatives.The RC's are there to give advice and support to the PNM, and also give them options. It's not the end of the world if you don't recieve a Bid.

[WarEagle07]

Originally Posted by AuburnMom08

Oh by the way, we heard "hair salon mom's" daughter dropped out yesterday after she only received 5 invites back to skit day.

Who is 'Hair Spray Mom'??? I completely missed this! your daughter sounds very emotionally mature and maybe while disappointed in getting cut, she isn't having Diva fits. Kudos Auburnmom08!

[AuburnMom08]

Only" 5 out of a possible 6? Cry me a river.

I know, right? My daughter said she would've loved to have that many options. If the daughter was half as ridiculous as the mom was then I can understand why she was disappointed.

And about COB, that's fine, she will be fine either way. Oh and another reason she said she got a class unexpectedly added to her schedule because she was on a wait list with the psychology dept so she has 5 pretty tough classes and she was questioning her time she will have to spend with a GLO anyway. I know they have mandatory study nights and I reminded her of that and of the fact that both her roommates would likely be in a sorority leaving her the odd man out but in the end it is her decision and whatever makes her happy is fine by me.

[AuburnMom08]

Thank you for the info, Blondie93.

[AuburnMom08]

She's a transfer sophomore so no, she really doesn't know anything about them other than who she felt a connection with and who she didn't. She really likes her Pi Chi though and can't wait to find out who she's affiliated with.

[awkward1]

"Ditto!! My daughter pledged at Auburn last fall after an emotionally traumatic rush week. (Don't get me started on that story!) She was pushed into pledging by an overly zealous Pi Chi, and it was probably a mistake. She's a bit happier now, but probably would have been better off to COB after formal rush when she could take her time and make a more rational decision."

If my pushy recruitment counselor hadn't talked me into continuing with my rush then I never would have found my home that I loved! Also, no one dragged this girl through rush in shackles. She could have listened to the counselor and stood her ground and quit when she felt it was the right thing to do. I have a feeling there is more to the story....
1.Only wanted certain sororities..thus the emotional rush week.
2. Didn't want to be a part of lower tier sorority...reading through the lines, could be wrong here.
3. Thinks she could have done better through COR.....risky move and not likely at Auburn.
The counselors have a tough job. They have been disaffiliated since May, their days are really, really long and boring (longer than PNM's), they are dealing with super emotional teenage girls, they don't get to sleep in their own beds at night (unlike the PNM's), and some of them have to deal with Prima Donna's. I salute these young women for making such a sacrifice in order that your daughter may have guidance and a shoulder to lean on while they navigate this crazy thing called rush.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by awkward1

"Ditto!! My daughter pledged at Auburn last fall after an emotionally traumatic rush week. (Don't get me started on that story!) She was pushed into pledging by an overly zealous Pi Chi, and it was probably a mistake. She's a bit happier now, but probably would have been better off to COB after formal rush when she could take her time and make a more rational decision."

If my pushy recruitment counselor hadn't talked me into continuing with my rush then I never would have found my home that I loved! Also, no one dragged this girl through rush in shackles. She could have listened to the counselor and stood her ground and quit when she felt it was the right thing to do. I have a feeling there is more to the story....
1.Only wanted certain sororities..thus the emotional rush week.
2. Didn't want to be a part of lower tier sorority...reading through the lines, could be wrong here.
3. Thinks she could have done better through COR.....risky move and not likely at Auburn.
The counselors have a tough job. They have been disaffiliated since May, their days are really, really long and boring (longer than PNM's), they are dealing with super emotional teenage girls, they don't get to sleep in their own beds at night (unlike the PNM's), and some of them have to deal with Prima Donna's. I salute these young women for making such a sacrifice in order that your daughter may have guidance and a shoulder to lean on while they navigate this crazy thing called rush.

Well said, awkward1.

Rho Chis, Pi Chis, Gamma Chis, etc., do act in the best interest of all of the PNMs. They know that many chapters at SEC schools do not COB, particularly the "more popular" (hate those words) houses.

Moms, don't beat up on them and feel they are out to ruin your D's lives. They have a very hard job.

[AuburnUmom]

Originally Posted by awkward1

"Ditto!! My daughter pledged at Auburn last fall after an emotionally traumatic rush week. (Don't get me started on that story!) She was pushed into pledging by an overly zealous Pi Chi, and it was probably a mistake. She's a bit happier now, but probably would have been better off to COB after formal rush when she could take her time and make a more rational decision."

If my pushy recruitment counselor hadn't talked me into continuing with my rush then I never would have found my home that I loved! Also, no one dragged this girl through rush in shackles. She could have listened to the counselor and stood her ground and quit when she felt it was the right thing to do. I have a feeling there is more to the story....
1.Only wanted certain sororities..thus the emotional rush week.
2. Didn't want to be a part of lower tier sorority...reading through the lines, could be wrong here.
3. Thinks she could have done better through COR.....risky move and not likely at Auburn.
The counselors have a tough job. They have been disaffiliated since May, their days are really, really long and boring (longer than PNM's), they are dealing with super emotional teenage girls, they don't get to sleep in their own beds at night (unlike the PNM's), and some of them have to deal with Prima Donna's. I salute these young women for making such a sacrifice in order that your daughter may have guidance and a shoulder to lean on while they navigate this crazy thing called rush.

I totally agree that Pi Chi's have a tough job, and one of the hardest things they might have to do is talk a PNM through a tough situation in order to find her own solution....especially if the PNM reaches a decision different from the one the Pi Chi thinks she should make. "Pushy" shouldn't be a part of the job description! BTW.....this particular former PNM is about the LEAST prima donna-ish young woman you'd ever meet!

[AuburnMom08]

My daughter did drop this afternoon after pref parties but before they did the final rankings. She said her Pi Chi was great and very supportive and understanding. She told me she was ready to be around some boys for a while - lol- so she is hanging out with some friends tonight and seems to be fine. In fact, she said it felt like 500 lbs was lifted off her. She knows that her chances at a COB are slim to none and she's fine with that but right now she is still interested in the new chapter, Theta? Who knows, by then she may be so strapped for time with her crazy class schedule that she will change her mind.

She's already talking about some club on campus she wants to join and maybe try out for Tigerettes or the basketball hostess (forgot what cute name they had) or a bunch of other stuff. She will be okay. I know she will and I know that greek or not, rush week was a good experience for her and a great way for her to meet people and learn her way around campus a little bit, and maybe learn a little something about herself. She has talked about doing this rush since she was a junior in high school. She was really excited about it but in the end it just didn't fit her like she thought it should.

Thank you all for the kind messages this week, it has been a long, strange week for sure. Her roommates are still in it so I will update on them next week. One is suiciding tri delt (legacy) and I don't know about the other. Another good friend who just transferred to AU got dropped from her last group today before prefs. Another local girl who was a freshman rush at Bama was dropped by all houses either today or yesterday, another mom I spoke with told me today - her husband is a colleague of the girl's dad. I was surprised by that one, she is a cookie cutter sorority girl for sure. But like we've seen this week, you just never know and the competition is mad tough!

Who is 'Hair Spray Mom'??? I completely missed this!

LMAO! Its a lady I saw at the hair salon on Tuesday who was going into fits because her baby didn't get invited back to her top 2 after the 1st cuts. She didn't shut up about it the entire time I was there - which was a long time because I got highlights! I mentioned her somewhere in this post or the Bama post or the SEC post, somewhere.

[AuburnUmom]

Originally Posted by AuburnMom08

My daughter did drop this afternoon after pref parties but before they did the final rankings. She said her Pi Chi was great and very supportive and understanding. She told me she was ready to be around some boys for a while - lol- so she is hanging out with some friends tonight and seems to be fine. In fact, she said it felt like 500 lbs was lifted off her. She knows that her chances at a COB are slim to none and she's fine with that but right now she is still interested in the new chapter, Theta? Who knows, by then she may be so strapped for time with her crazy class schedule that she will change her mind.

She's already talking about some club on campus she wants to join and maybe try out for Tigerettes or the basketball hostess (forgot what cute name they had) or a bunch of other stuff. She will be okay. I know she will and I know that greek or not, rush week was a good experience for her and a great way for her to meet people and learn her way around campus a little bit, and maybe learn a little something about herself. She has talked about doing this rush since she was a junior in high school. She was really excited about it but in the end it just didn't fit her like she thought it should.

Thank you all for the kind messages this week, it has been a long, strange week for sure. Her roommates are still in it so I will update on them next week. One is suiciding tri delt (legacy) and I don't know about the other. Another good friend who just transferred to AU got dropped from her last group today before prefs. Another local girl who was a freshman rush at Bama was dropped by all houses either today or yesterday, another mom I spoke with told me today - her husband is a colleague of the girl's dad. I was surprised by that one, she is a cookie cutter sorority girl for sure. But like we've seen this week, you just never know and the competition is mad tough!


LMAO! Its a lady I saw at the hair salon on Tuesday who was going into fits because her baby didn't get invited back to her top 2 after the 1st cuts. She didn't shut up about it the entire time I was there - which was a long time because I got highlights! I mentioned her somewhere in this post or the Bama post or the SEC post, somewhere.

AuburnMom08, Kudos to your daughter for being true to herself if she wasn't able to find the right fit during rush. Sounds like both of you have a great perspective on the situation. If she decides that she wants to try COB, please encourage her to look into it. Contrary to what some have said, there were at least three very strong groups at Auburn who were under chapter total despite making quota, and they pledged girls after formal rush ended last fall & spring. Of course this year could be different, but who knows?

[SWTXBelle]

And don't forget - Kappa Alpha Theta will be coming on later, and it may be that she is meant to be a Theta! Best of luck to her.

[WarEagle07]

Originally Posted by AuburnUmom

AuburnMom08, Kudos to your daughter for being true to herself if she wasn't able to find the right fit during rush. Sounds like both of you have a great perspective on the situation. If she decides that she wants to try COB, please encourage her to look into it. Contrary to what some have said, there were at least three very strong groups at Auburn who were under chapter total despite making quota, and they pledged girls after formal rush ended last fall & spring. Of course this year could be different, but who knows?

Last year was an anomaly at Auburn. Due to high mid-year graduation rates and girls not returning to Auburn for whatever reasons, several strong chapters were left under total and did participate in Spring Rush. I had also heard that there was a raise in chapter total at some point last year and some chapters chose to go ahead and do spring rush to fill up. This could be totally wrong, I'm in no position of authority. My understanding is that this had never happened before and it is highly unlikely that it will happen again so I wouldn't use it as a barometer for COR.

[AuburnMom08]

Oh I meant to add that for those of you looking for gift shops for tomorrow, my daughter got some flyers in with her registration packet, one of the flyers had a 20% off coupon so I sent it down to Auburn with her and I certainly don't remember the name of the place but I kept a couple of the others because they had phone numbers on them in case I needed to get something.

Check It Out has letters, balloons, flowers, gifts, etc and they deliver. This flyer doesn't say anything about having to have it pre-ordered like Hearstrings does and they have a website - www.check-it-outballoons.com and their phone is 334-826-0308.

Heartstrings phone is 334-887-7447 if you call them early tomorrow you might could still get something. They are delivering on campus Monday.

And if you have that registration packet, my d's just came a few weeks ago, go find that one flyer with the 20% off coupon!

[FSUZeta]

auburnmom08, with a mom like you, i have no doubt that your daughter will thrive at auburn, whether she participates in greeklife or not. i hope that she does look into cob and the colonization of kappa alpha theta if that still peeks her interest when the time comes.

i was the general advisor to a nearby zta colony and i got to witness firsthand what a unique experience being a colonist is. i am glad that your daughter is looking into campus organizations and clubs. it will enhance her college experience and look great on her resume.