Pregnant Prospective Members? - Page 10

PhoenixAzul · #**136** 02-01-2005, 04:37 PM

Keep in mind also that many women come back from serving in the military and are 22, 23, or older and are starting on the GI bill. So they very well may be 27 or 28 before graduating on a completely normal academic schedule. A friend of mine (my roommates ex BF) pledged a fraternity at age 27 after working in the military, getting an associates, then coming here to work on his bachelors. It worked out well for him, he was a great asset to his chapter. Mature when it was needed, immature when it wasn't.

By the way, someone made a comment on the maturity of a mother wanting to pledge in the beginning of the thread...think back to how you were when you were rushing? Bet you were pretty immature. I know I was, and being an active and learning to juggle was a great part of growing up.

texas*princess · #**137** 02-01-2005, 05:17 PM

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Originally posted by HelloKitty22
I'm not saying I'm perfect or that it wouldn't probably take me a minute to overcome my natural prejudices ("she won't have the time or money for a sorority") but I hope that I would have the intelligence to look past that and judge her on her personality and ability to be a good sister.

I think maybe previous posters didn't mean "she won't have the timr or money for a sorority" in that literal sense. Sure, she will have lots of time and will probably have money, but with a newborn, that just sounds like a lot of work and a lot of commitment. GLOs are a pretty big commitment too.

This isn't an exact parallel, but some larger schools have chapters that mainly look for freshmen or sophomore new members. They might prefer these pnms because they have more time to commit to the collegiate chapter (4+ years as opposed to only 2, 1 or even one semester). Or maybe they are looking for members that will be able to attend all their required events... or whatever. That's just one of the things they might look for in a new member. Individual membership selection is up to each GLO and each chapter. One chapter may look for an attribute that another chapter does not emphasize as much. (like there might not be 547 events with AB chapter, so time commitment to events outside of meetings is minimal, but what if CD chapter was a bigger school with a more-involved Greek system and had many other outside-meeting time requirements?)

I guess in short it is not up to the chapters to decide that Mary Sue should spend her time and money on a baby that will be born in 7 months... that's not their call...that's up to Mary Sue to decide how she will juggle things. However, the chapter can decide that maybe they want members that can be more available and able to attend all events, help them meet or exceed the GPA requirement or win Greek Week or whatever. Joining a GLO is a big thing.. you're joining something bigger than an individual... there is a lot of time and commitment involved in it, and it is up to the chapters to select members they think will be able to help them achieve the chapter's goals.