going on dates to just go on a date - Page 2

ZTAMich · #16 03-04-2005, 07:53 PM

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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
do you agree to go on dates with people you don't have an interest in just to go out on a date?

I think a first date truly makes you KNOW if you have interest in the person, so it's ok to go on a date to find out.

AchtungBaby80 · #17 03-05-2005, 07:45 PM

I do it. You never know. Unless, of course, I really can't stand the person...even then, a free meal just isn't worth it.

blueangel · #18 03-11-2005, 08:33 AM

I'd rather stay home and do my laundry!

AGDee · #19 03-11-2005, 10:47 AM

I took the question to mean that you already know that the person doesn't interest you. First dates are definitely a "get to know you" to see if there is interest situation. But, if, after the first date, you know you aren't interested (ie. they revealed a deal breaker), and you continue to go out with them, then I just don't get it.

laidbackfella · #20 03-11-2005, 11:51 AM

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Originally posted by AGDee
I took the question to mean that you already know that the person doesn't interest you.

Me too.

Which is why some of these responses baffle me.

Cuz when men say they take a female out in hopes of sex.

SOME women take up arms and wanna gather up the 'posse'.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #21 03-14-2005, 12:18 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
I took the question to mean that you already know that the person doesn't interest you. First dates are definitely a "get to know you" to see if there is interest situation. But, if, after the first date, you know you aren't interested (ie. they revealed a deal breaker), and you continue to go out with them, then I just don't get it.

Eesh. I hadn't read it like that. In that case, you're right.

There's a difference between deal-breakers and just not knowing for sure what's going on, though. For instance, for me, having kids is a deal-breaker. So is being very quiet and shy.

If you have kids, I won't go on a 2nd date with you. (Though I will reccomend you for other positions in the field, if you're a sweet guy.) But I'll sometimes go on a 2nd date with a quiet guy -- figuring he might have had an off night, been cowed by my obvious beauty and charms, etc.

Rudey · #22 03-14-2005, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by laidbackfella
Me too.

Which is why some of these responses baffle me.

Cuz when men say they take a female out in hopes of sex.

SOME women take up arms and wanna gather up the 'posse'.

They can talk all they want about how you're going in with intentions, but once you booze them up and play the Seabisquit soundtrack they'll put out.

-Rudey

laidbackfella · #23 03-14-2005, 06:02 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
They can talk all they want about how you're going in with intentions, but once you booze them up and play the Seabisquit soundtrack they'll put out.

-Rudey

I gotta get up on that soundtrack.

Titanic has always worked for me in the past.

pinkyphimu · #24 03-14-2005, 11:49 PM

a little update....

well, i didn't end up going out with the guy who i had no interest in. basically he didn't call when he said he would so i made other plans. i did end up seeing him on sat night...and he asked me to sleep with him. stupid boy! if you don't call when you say you will...you don't get to ask the girl to sleep with you.

just thought inquiring minds would want to know.

Rudey · #25 03-15-2005, 01:19 PM

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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
a little update....

well, i didn't end up going out with the guy who i had no interest in. basically he didn't call when he said he would so i made other plans. i did end up seeing him on sat night...and he asked me to sleep with him. stupid boy! if you don't call when you say you will...you don't get to ask the girl to sleep with you.

just thought inquiring minds would want to know.

Did he provide you with booze, low lighting, and perhaps the Gladiator soundtrack before he asked for sex?

-Rudey

Optimist Prime · #26 03-15-2005, 08:23 PM

every one of you has gone out with some one for free food

James · #27 06-08-2005, 11:27 PM

I think AKA_Monet has the right of this one.

A good movie to think about is "50 First Dates" with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. The lesson is that on any given day you might succeed or strike out with someone.

You might meet a person on Tuesday and hit it off but if you had met that person on Monday you would have struck out. The timing could be off. One of you could feel bad. Or you just might be out of synch.

Dating someone you don't already have a lot of interest in is a way to see if you hit it off over a few dates. This is assuming you find them basically attractive. Or at least nice to look at.

I also think that AKA_monet is right on with her "Continuable Dateable Education" idea.

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Are you trying to court for marriage? Or are you just trying to "hang out"?

Dating is really "hanging out" if you do it "serially"... It hardly ever leads more than a few "sporty events" then it's whatever...

If you DO NOT want to get married to that person, and you WANT marriage (eventually), DO NOT go out with that person you have no interest in...

But, I don't see anything wrong with "Continuable Dateable Education" even if you have little interest in that person... You have got to learn how "folks" think, somehow... And practice makes perfect... If you do not "DATE" at all, then how will you have appropriate social interactive behaviors???

DAYUM... Where's James... He's better at this than me...

And don't date Cashmoney unless you want your world rocked...

And you can date Rudey, and he MIGHT show you good time, but he's gonna have EXPECTATIONS in the end...

That's pretty much the broad ranges you get with most guys...

Rio_Kohitsuji · #28 06-09-2005, 11:42 AM

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Originally posted by Optimist Prime
every one of you has gone out with some one for free food

*raises hand* I'm one of them!