It's a damn shame....

[AKA_Monet]

First off Phrat,

As a lady of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I have YET to care what your sexual preferences are. As long as you are open and honest about who you love and do it safely with as much spirituality as heterosexual couples do it...

Secondly, I love your Fraternity because most of the men in my family, from my Grandfather, my father, and my brother are all Alpha men... AND I also know of SOME Alpha men that took care of me when I was child that were gay Black men--back in the day, that one would NEVER speak of such actions...

So for you to point out how you choose to live your life out in the open, I applaud you...

And, as my sorors and I agree, that we had to shut some stuff down on AKA Ave recently, I do think it is rather inappropriate to point out what your homophobic Alpha brothers say to you on a public forum such as GC... For me, it is not so much what you said, it is how you said it with profane language...

I agree with you, Alpha and many OTHER historically BGLO's really need not be all hateful and display their homophobia by condemning your choice to live publically... To me it calls into question what are THEIR real skeletons are in their closet...

And I do think you could have said it differently... I know this makes you angry and anger will be ineffective to reaching out to those who have repressed idealogies of gender roles... It goes the same for when we have to argue against racists... Bigots come in any form...

As far as what your fraternity brother said to you, let him be honest and post what he is soooooooooo afraid of from "allowing" a gay man to sing the Alpha Hymn next to him when that gay man is the President of his chapter and is helping African American young males go to college then to Alpha University... I would like to see that...

That to me is very unbrotherly when there is so much work that needs to be done for the impoverished and disenfranchised...