I wonder how many PNM's we have messed up on GC. - Page 2

shadokat · #16 02-10-2005, 03:03 PM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
Seriously. I think people are misunderstanding the purpose of the PNMs here. If a girl comes onto GC, she knows we're not going to be able to say, "You didn't get in because of that bad conversation you had with the second rusher during skit round."

I don't necessarily think that's true at all! how many PNMs came here looking for information? A whole lot. They may know the sorority recruitment system but then again, most don't.

She wants us to blow sunshine up her ass. She wants to us to say that there is a chance she can still be greek. If she was relying on logic, she would just decide not to go through again on her own, because she knows the chances are slim of being accepted the second time. She wants us to say, from the sorority girl point of view, "OMG we take people who we've cut before ALL the time!!!"

Is that really the kind of place we want this board to be? I don't agree with this comment, but seriously, I'd prefer to believe that some PNMs rely on their own logic, and not that of some random person on an internet board who may or may not be a member of said sorority.

Glitter650 · #17 02-10-2005, 03:22 PM

I think both S&S and I were speaking of the people who DO come here directly after having a bad recruitment, are sad, and asking questions about what to do now, why didn't I get a bid, how do I COB etc. Not just random girls who post BEFORE rush looking for info. I know we get that type of girl as well.

_Opi_ · #18 02-10-2005, 04:49 PM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
If she was relying on logic, she would just decide not to go through again on her own, because she knows the chances are slim of being accepted the second time.

I agree with this statement.

shadokat · #19 02-10-2005, 05:47 PM

OK, this I understand

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Originally posted by Glitter650
I think both S&S and I were speaking of the people who DO come here directly after having a bad recruitment, are sad, and asking questions about what to do now, why didn't I get a bid, how do I COB etc. Not just random girls who post BEFORE rush looking for info. I know we get that type of girl as well.

pinkyphimu · #20 02-10-2005, 08:15 PM

i am not sure that there really is a solution. i am sure there are several members who would say it took two rounds of recruitment before they were given a bid (think about blazercheer). maybe we should start encouraging pnms to ask their friends honestly if they have a chance to get a bid. when i was in school, a girl went through rush, got cut; cobed twice, got cut; rushed again, got cut...then asked if she should try cob again. she was only focused on one house and finally some people who were her friends and also in the house told her that it wasn't a good idea because she wouldn't get a bid. they didn't say, oh well at our last selection session we didn't think that your gpa was high enough, etc., just that as her friends, they didn't think she should try again. she moved on and got involved in other activities.

roqueemae · #21 02-15-2005, 12:42 AM

I have been thinking about this thread. Then I go into my counseling classes and we talk about the messed up things parents do to their children because they think it is in the child's best interest. Runs sort of parallel don't you think?

AchtungBaby80 · #22 02-19-2005, 11:49 PM

I can see James' point, which was pretty well-made, I have to say. (I'm still giggling.) But I can also see the other side...if I hadn't gotten a bid, I would have been crushed, and I would have wanted people telling me, "Oh, you seem so nice, it's their loss" and yada yada, even though I probably would know that it was all fluff.

However, yeah, we really shouldn't encourage people that we know deep down in our hearts--and come on, people, be honest, we've run across them--don't stand a good chance. If you don't feel comfortable telling them that maybe they should look at other activities besides Greek life, just don't say anything.

roqueemae · #23 02-19-2005, 11:55 PM

What is hard is that we have no way of knowing if they have a really good chance or not.

Some girls have an awful reputation and are not going to admit that.(Hi I have awsome grades, am very cute, and slept with the entire baseball team)

Or we all know how appearances matter sometimes. You have read Dear Abby when a girl writes and says she has a great personality is really cute and you are thinking "sure honey"

What if the girl is a psychotic stalker type? We could never know this. But we might get the idea after they keep posting and posting here...

alphaalpha · #24 02-20-2005, 02:14 AM

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Originally posted by Darlinglilred
I think I should clarify my comment, the "you can still be friends with these girls even if you aren't their sister" was said when a girl protested that she couldn't still be friends with her roomate because her roomate got a bid and she did not.

point made. Situations are always different than what i was thinking. of course if you are talking about a situation like this then yes i can see how you would want to say something like this. I just took what you said out of the context that you ment. And i think that i would too say that in the context. I was thinking saying something in general.

Point made, good idea in the context.