So one of my friend just found out his GF is an escort

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Originally posted by James
A quick reality check for the ladies. When giving Cashmoney advice on how to counsel his friend . . keep in mind that he is a boy not a girl

I am with AKA_Monet on this one. I am not sure why the guy is so devestated. Nothing has changed except his perception of the girl.

She is still the same girl that treated him well. She is the same girl that treated him with love. She is the same girl that rocked his world in bed.

Its only his prejudices that are now changing the way he views her.

Kind of like being absolutely in love with someone and then finding out they were mixed racial and feeling betrayed and not able to handle it.

Same person, changed perception.

He has the problem. She doesn't. Even though we may dissaprove of her lifestyle, its still her lifestyle.

Doesn't anyone find his martyred feelings of betrayal to be at least a little silly?

Uhhh . . . she lied to him.

I don't think this has to do with the lifestyle (I mean, of course it does, but that's not the main issue). If she'd told him up front that she was an escort and he'd decided that he couldn't deal with that lifestyle, that's one thing. But he didn't get to make that choice.

I think betrayal is a perfectly rational emotion in this case. She's sleeping with other men. She's not telling him that she's sleeping with other men. Whether she's doing it for pleasure or financial gain, it still counts as a betrayal.

And she knows that what she's doing is wrong, or else she wouldn't try to hide it from him.