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I don't think that the major problem with this board is misogyny. That doesn't mean I don't think men and women are treated equally -- but I think that just as much fault lies with the women as with the men. Think about the following situation: a poster on the board calls somebody by a nasty name, says something bad about another GLO, etc. If the original poster is a guy, what will happen to him? Probably not much. If the original poster is a girl, she will be bombarded by PMs and posts from her sisters and women in other sororities saying, "Oh, that's not nice, that's not ladylike, you're representing ABC, you're a bitch, you make us look like trash, etc. etc. etc." Women on this board are not nearly as likely to confront a guy who is acting badly as they are to confront a girl that behaves in the same way. I think that is what many of us were referring to when discussing the way different genders are treated on GC. There are only a small handful of men on GC that I would consider to be straight-up sexist or misogynist.
The rape issue is another thing entirely, really, and I think that it will be an issue that men and women will ALWAYS understand differently. Suffice it to say that no matter the intentions, many of the statements are taken the wrong way (on both sides). I.e., a guy says "There's a discrepancy in her story" -- many times, a girl will hear that as "Oh, she must be lying about the whole thing" when that may very well not be what he meant at all. The problem here lies, I think, in the fact that rape and sexual assault are immensely personal crimes, and almost all women are affected by them. It wouldn't be a jump to say that I don't know a single woman who hasn't been affected by rape (someone she knows well has been raped, etc.), and I don't know a single woman who hasn't been sexually assaulted at some point or another. (Obviously I haven't discussed this issue with every single woman I know, but every woman I HAVE discussed it with has had stories.) I think that most men don't understand -- or won't understand until later in life -- how deeply and widely the issue of rape affects women. And likewise, we can't fully understand how a false accusation would affect a man. Thus, any discussion on this topic is pretty much bound to be more emotional and personal than, say, a discussion about murder -- since most of us can't say that we know somebody who's been murdered or somebody who's been falsely accused of murder, etc.
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