Virginity

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

Originally posted by James
Isn't that technically sexually assault? Feminists would be appalled.

Well, they can be appalled all they want, heh. I may have been drunk, but I still knew what I was doing *nods*. Oh, for an add-on, he was drunk too, so there

[Xylochick216]

Originally posted by LauGh A Lot
hmm.. this is an interesting thread to read since i am still a virgin (i'm 17). i was wondering if you guys thought it was weird to start college as a virgin? are a lot of girls still virgins starting freshman year of college? like.. i don't want to wait until marriage or anything, i kind of want to get it over with.. but then i think.. if i waited this long.. i kind of want it to be special.

I'd definitely wait until it was the right time. Don't just get it over with. If the guy is worth it, he won't mind that you're a virgin. If he minds, he's probably not worth it.

[James]

Thats so self-defeating.

I am not criticising you xylochick . . but its a bit like saying "if it was meant to be it will work out." Despite how much someone screws it up.

I don't think his value his affected by his not wanting to wait for her to have sex with him. Sex is an important and huge part of a romantic relationship. In fact without sex they usually call it friendship.

Originally posted by Xylochick216
I'd definitely wait until it was the right time. Don't just get it over with. If the guy is worth it, he won't mind that you're a virgin. If he minds, he's probably not worth it.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by James
Thats so self-defeating.

I am not criticising you xylochick . . but its a bit like saying "if it was meant to be it will work out." Despite how much someone screws it up.

I don't think his value his affected by his not wanting to wait for her to have sex with him. Sex is an important and huge part of a romantic relationship. In fact without sex they usually call it friendship.

No, actually, without romantic LOVE they usually call it friendship. Sex doesn't define a relationship.

The two relationships I had in high school without sex were MUCH more indicative of a "relationship" to me than the one in college with sex.

I also think you're twisting the meaning of the "if it's meant to be" phrase. People don't use that to allow people to get away with isht . . . they use it to convince themselves that if people treat them like isht IT WAS NOT MEANT TO BE so they can move on.

You may not think someone's value is affected by not waiting to have sex, but most women do. It is a MAJOR sign of respect for them and if you're not willing to wait at least a cursory amount of time, you are simply not going to have many meaningful relationships. As I've stated here on GC before, guys don't realize the number of emotional issues that many girls (although by no means all) have with sex. If you push that, with many girls you'll be gone.

[RUgreek]

Originally posted by valkyrie
Relieved? Personally I was glad to have it over with since I never considered virginity to be valuable.

I think my first time matches this description the best. I don't hold sex on a very sacred pedestal, but who knows, if I keep things up I may become a born again virgin

Originally posted by LauGh A Lot
hmm.. this is an interesting thread to read since i am still a virgin (i'm 17). i was wondering if you guys thought it was weird to start college as a virgin? are a lot of girls still virgins starting freshman year of college? like.. i don't want to wait until marriage or anything, i kind of want to get it over with.. but then i think.. if i waited this long.. i kind of want it to be special.

I started college as a virgin, and last time I checked I was a guy... Don't get overworked about it, when the time comes you'll have a special moment with a guy. Just don't tell him till afterwards that your a virgin, you might give him performance anxiety, lol!


RUgreek

[LightBulb]

I'm waiting for marriage...

and our two-year anniversary is in six days!

[LexiKD]

Since I have met Mr. Right I see why you should wait!

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by LexiKD
Since I have met Mr. Right I see why you should wait!

Damn girl, I havent seen you on GC in FOREVER! WTF have you been up to?

[XOMichelle]

Originally posted by James
Sex is an important and huge part of a romantic relationship.

Amen James. Try before you buy!

[LexiKD]

Cashmoney: Glad to be back! Work has kept me away from the computer. I don't have time like I used to back in the good ol' days!

Hope everyone is doing well, seems like everyone is still chating up a storm!

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by LexiKD
Cashmoney: Glad to be back! Work has kept me away from the computer. I don't have time like I used to back in the good ol' days!

Hope everyone is doing well, seems like everyone is still chating up a storm!

Its the same ol' same ol'. There's still crazy people on here. I'm no longer UFPike, as you can see, and ZTAngel's been a moderator for a good minute. Hootie and Justamom were ran off GC by members of the H & A (do a search to find out who they are) and I'm still getting denied access to the moderator forum. You should stop in more often and give a shout out.

[LightBulb]

Originally posted by cashmoney
Hootie and Justamom were ran off GC by members of the H & A (do a search to find out who they are)

Hey, dork, you can't search for H&A. Searches have to be at least 4 characters.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by LightBulb
Hey, dork, you can't search for H&A. Searches have to be at least 4 characters.

If you add the * as a character, you can -- H&A*.

Originally posted by DolphinChicaDDD
I didn't lose it. I know exaculty where it went. Its not like it feel behind the couch with the remote control or something.

Hey! Thats where I found mine!! Behind the coutch!

[jharb]

Originally posted by valkyrie
If you add the * as a character, you can -- H&A*.

My god...we're even in the virginity thread!