I don't understand how these things happen. Don't people follow the no-contact rule when they break up? Or do they immediately try to "be friends" whatever that means.
If you block everyway he can get in touch with you, its easy to have no-contact.
ITs almost like . .. to use the addiction the analogy . . when you quit the crack-pipe you keep thinking a little puff now and again will be ok . .. untill you finally realize that its awfully hard to end an addiction while you keep smoking.
Just say no to crack.
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Originally posted by ForeverDiamond
Twice, actually.
The guy I dated from 2nd-3rd year of university (for about 10 months) got emotionally abusive, so I broke up with him. For the next few weeks, he'd call me all the time (more than he did when we were really together) and was acting like the best boyfriend ever... too bad he wasn't my boyfriend anymore! Then he started calling and just reading all these stupid little poems, then hanging up. It got to the point where I'd just stop answering my phone, and anybody who needed to talk to me knew to leave me a voice mail.
The guy I dated last year (for about 8 months)... it took over a month for me to break up with him. He just wouldn't get it. At one point, he came over and told me about how he had gone to talk to a jeweler that day to design an engagement ring for me -- then proceeded to describe it (and it didn't sound like anything I would like at all... shows how much he really knew me). He called my cell phone all the time (which my fellow band directors, who are all male, had waaaaaaay too much fun with... they were evil. It was great!) for months after that even, talking about how he missed me and hoped we could work something out. I think he might have finally given up now though...
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