What Defines a "Rebound"?

BrownEyedGirl · #1 10-18-2004, 11:13 PM

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AGDee · #2 10-18-2004, 11:21 PM

When you are totally happy being on your own and not missing having somebody, you are no longer rebounding.

When you no longer feel anger or sadness about your ex, you are no longer rebounding.

When you know that, no matter what he would say, you wouldn't be tempted to go back to your ex, you are no longer rebounding.

When you run into him around town and you feel absolutely nothing, you are no longer rebounding.

My $19.04.

Dee

adpialumcsuc · #3 10-19-2004, 12:48 PM

I agree!!!

DGqueen17 · #4 10-19-2004, 02:45 PM

I tend to rebound to the absolute worse guys EVER. I've dated some pretty amazing assholes in my days but I always seem to find ones that are even worse on the rebound.

Whenever I get dumped (cuz it always happens like that) I go through an intense 2 day crying-psychotic period and then I'm over it. Luckily none of my ex's have tried to be friendly with me until waaaay after the break up so I had no choice but to get over it.

I didnt get over my last boyfriend FOREVER. And as a result I dated tons of jackasses. See my posts on Navy boy and Sigma Chi to support my statement.

Just dont rebound date its a horrible, horrible thing.

AlphaGamDiva · #5 10-19-2004, 04:36 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
When you know that, no matter what he would say, you wouldn't be tempted to go back to your ex, you are no longer rebounding.

My $19.04.

Dee

ah geez.......

LOL

AchtungBaby80 · #6 10-19-2004, 07:13 PM

My friend swears that it takes two years for every one year you are with someone to "get over" that person after the breakup. So if that's true, I will finally be over my 2.5-year relationship that ended last year in about, oh, 2007. Does that mean all the guys I date until then can be considered "rebound?"

AWJDZ · #7 10-19-2004, 07:29 PM

Didn't Charlotte on SATC say that you take the lenght of the relationship and divide it into 2? That is suppose to tell you how long it will take you get over the relationship.

XOMichelle · #8 10-26-2004, 12:09 PM

I think you can tell yourself how long you are rebounding. I got out of a 1.5 year realtionship about 5-6 months ago and although I'm ready to get out and date (see Single and Proud), I'm certianly not ready to have a realtionship with anyone. I would know the healing process is totally over when I want a realtionship, and can talk to my ex without wondering what things would be like if we were back together. That day isn't here yet. I imagine the ex thing will happen first, and the wanting a relationship thing will take some time.

sugar and spice · #9 10-26-2004, 12:24 PM

If you don't know whether or not it's a rebound, it's a rebound. When you're ready for a new (real) relationship, you'll know.

wrigley · #10 10-27-2004, 08:01 PM

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
My friend swears that it takes two years for every one year you are with someone to "get over" that person after the breakup. So if that's true, I will finally be over my 2.5-year relationship that ended last year in about, oh, 2007. Does that mean all the guys I date until then can be considered "rebound?"

That's interesting. I like Dr. Drew's Loveline rule. For every year you've been in the relationship it takes 6 months for you to get him or her out of your system.

honeychile · #11 10-27-2004, 08:05 PM

I agree with Sugar & Spice - if you have to ask, you're rebounding.

AchtungBaby80 · #12 10-28-2004, 09:23 AM

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Originally posted by wrigley
That's interesting. I like Dr. Drew's Loveline rule. For every year you've been in the relationship it takes 6 months for you to get him or her out of your system.

I think that's more accurate. The 2 years for every year thing seems a bit long...

James · #13 10-31-2004, 03:37 PM

ITs like getting over a drug addiction. You feel awful for a long time. Withdrawal.

A lot of people will take a new drug to get over the old ones, to ease the process. Some people will only stop using the old drug when they have the new one to replace it.

Now if they do that for a few weeks and stop, they were just using the drug to ease their withdrawal.

IF they just keep taking the new drug indfinitely, they are just continuing the old experience with a new substance.

Ok the James Corrolary on Rebound:

You are NOT rebounding if you can say that the new relationship didn't make it easier to leave your last one, in no way makes it easier to avoid or stay apart from the last person, and does not in anyway ease the feelings you have or would have from that seperation.

If you can say all that with complete and utter intellectual and emotional honesty, you are not rebounding.