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Originally posted by RedRoseSAI
So then, if they DID have an inkling, you wouldn't tell your husband? If you feel so strongly about this, why not tell him your fraternity secrets in front of other Alpha Phis? How do you think your sisters would react?
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Actually, I don't feel strongly that he needs to know....just that I would likely tell him if he wanted to know. He is not the type to ask, but if he did, I would problably tell him. And no, I don't think it makes a marriage stronger for him to know my fraternity ritual....but I also think that telling my husband is NOT the same as telling other people.
Also, I would not discuss it in front of them out of respect for their comfort. Whether or not I choose to share this with my spouse, I do recognize, (as I pointed out that HE should,) that it is still not something that he is sharing with my sisters...but rather sharing with me.
If I were asked by my sisters if my husband knew any of our rituals, I would tell them the truth...that as of now he does not....but that I would not have any hesitation in telling him. But honestly, they are not likely to ask and I just don't think it is necessary to make a production out of it.
I recognize that others may not share this belief and I am sensitive to that, which is why I would not assume that everyone is comfortable with it...and is also why....in my previous post, I pointed to what I felt the real issue was...and that is exercising discretion on the part of the husband who was insensitive in his voicing this knowledge to the sister.
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