You have to laugh . . . but that is true about dating girls in a sorority. Maybe girsl have more loyalty to each other? Or maybe they just give each other more grief (more social consequences)?
Although . . . it depends on how big the house is and WHICH girls you try dating/hooking up with.
With guys, we may not "like" another of our Brothers dating an ex, but it is considered in poor form, weak, or "girlish" to make a big deal about it.
As far as friendships go . . . it was one of the hardest lessons for me to realize that people have different rules than I do towards friendship and behaviors in it. Also some people have different rules at different levels of friendship.
The one mistake we should never make is to assume that someone else will follow our rules when dealing with us. Not only is that shortsighted, but unfair to the other person.
I guarentee that we hurt, baffle, piss off others because we don't follow THEIR rules.
Now if the rule infractions is serious and leaves you emotionally dmaaged or uneasy about the friendship there are a few things to think about.
1. Maybe they don't consider you at the same level of friendship you do them.
2. Maybe they have different rules entirely.
3. Maybe they are just some gradient of evil, or out for themselves.
Which means we have to either:
1. Accept them for who they are.
2. Try and explain our rules to them (which is fair).
3. Distance ourselves.
There are so many levels of misunderstandings in relationships. Or even expressions of regard . . . a spouse that beats you probably "loves" you, but is not necessarily loving you on a level you want to deal with or can relate to . . . unless you are equally damaged.
Just my 10 cents.
[This message has been edited by James (edited May 09, 2001).]
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