Should I tell him about the "baby" - Page 2

Rudey · #16 08-30-2004, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by CASIGKAP
Oh can it Rudey.

Oh I get it now. You're a fornicator who will be smelling brimstone for eternity as well?

-Rudey

AKA_Monet · #17 08-30-2004, 08:37 PM

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Originally posted by CUGreekgirl
My ex and I split back in May. We were less than careful when we were together and at the time we split I didn't know I was pregnant, although I had my suspicions.

Well, I ended up moving back home. I several boxes in my jeep for a couple weeks. I was a few weeks (about 2.5) late for my period and I am never late. If you are pregnant, especially during the early months, you are not supposed to lift anything heavy or else you risk losing the baby. I knew this, but went ahead and risked moving the heavy boxes and some furniture in my room b/c I wasn't exactly happy about potentially having a child. A few days after moving the stuff I bleed really bad, and from what I described to my doctor he said i had most likely been pregnant but moving the stuff had caused me to miscarry.

My ex and I are now talking again and are most likely getting back together, but I'm unsure whether or not to bring up the "baby" and my miscarriage. What are your thoughts on this?

All I can is, you are playing a very dangerous game with your own life and the life that may have been inside you...

Good luck in your endeavors...

Peaches-n-Cream · #18 08-30-2004, 08:45 PM

CUGreekgirl, I am so sorry that this happened.

Women have miscarriages for a variety of reasons. I have never heard of it happening due to moving furniture. You probably will never know the reason it happened. Again, I am so sorry.

DolphinChicaDDD · #19 09-06-2004, 07:46 PM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
CUGreekgirl, I am so sorry that this happened. Women have miscarriages for a variety of reasons. I have never heard of it happening due to moving furniture. You probably will never know the reason it happened. Again, I am so sorry.

I'm gonna co-sign this one.

Most early miscarragies are due to the fact that there was someone genetically wrong with the fetus, so during one of the checkpoints in development, development stops all together and spontaneously aborts. I remember reading in my genetics book that something like 95% of all mischarages in the 1st trimester are due to genetic abnormalities and its simply the body's way of rejecting something that would be fatal later on.

I would tell him. Be honest, just the way you were here. I wouldn't mention about the moving stuff because in reality, it probably wasn't a factor.

James · #20 09-06-2004, 07:58 PM

Does the fact that she doesn't know if she was pregnant at all matter?

LeslieAGD · #21 09-07-2004, 11:11 AM

You said you and your ex are "talking again." I would say "tell him" only if you know you are for sure getting back together. You don't need to put yourself through what might we a very emotional/painful conversation if it turns out it's not going to work out with your ex anyway.

Rudey · #22 09-07-2004, 01:01 PM

"You need to pray just to make it today".

-Rudey

cashmoney · #23 09-07-2004, 08:55 PM

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Originally posted by CUGreekgirl
My ex and I split back in May. We were less than careful when we were together and at the time we split I didn't know I was pregnant, although I had my suspicions.

Well, I ended up moving back home. I several boxes in my jeep for a couple weeks. I was a few weeks (about 2.5) late for my period and I am never late. If you are pregnant, especially during the early months, you are not supposed to lift anything heavy or else you risk losing the baby. I knew this, but went ahead and risked moving the heavy boxes and some furniture in my room b/c I wasn't exactly happy about potentially having a child. A few days after moving the stuff I bleed really bad, and from what I described to my doctor he said i had most likely been pregnant but moving the stuff had caused me to miscarry.

My ex and I are now talking again and are most likely getting back together, but I'm unsure whether or not to bring up the "baby" and my miscarriage. What are your thoughts on this?

Don't bring it up....he'll feel really bad for you and sorry. Maybe even to the point where he'll feel like he has to be near you and help you but then it'll make him not want to get back together.

sororitygirl2 · #24 09-25-2004, 03:12 PM

Don't know if it's too late, but I say DO NOT TELL HIM or anyone for that matter. You don't actually know that you were pregnant. You don't actually know you miscarried just because your doctor said it "sounds" like you may have... I know girls who are "never" late and then one day they are, even if they aren't sexually active. Sometimes it happens. And usually if you're extremely late (a couple weeks), it's common for your period to be heavier.

Even if you were, fact is, women miscarry A LOT for all sorts of reasons.

I know it's hard, but don't stress, just try to forget about it.

winnieb · #25 09-26-2004, 01:50 AM

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Originally posted by James
Does the fact that she doesn't know if she was pregnant at all matter?

I say it does matter.
I would not tell him, unless you were confident that you were indeed pregnant. There are many things that can cause a woman to be late, spot, have abnormal cycle, etc. Your doctor should have tested you. If you went to the doctor around the time you started you could have taken a preg. test. When miscarrying the hormones levels do not immediatley return to normal, thus HcG shows up in the blood work.
Good luck,
wendi