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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
And Lemme say another thing to those Black folks that wonder why other Black folks don't like them... Personally, for me, I understand where you all are coming from... Been there, done that--I say. Because I am older, I have yet to care what other African Americans are saying about me. DAYUM, as my Grandmother said, "They talked about Jesus Christ, they sho are gonna talk about you..." Whether you are "comfortable in your skin that you are in" or not, it still hurts to be called a "sell out" to your face when you are probably being misunderstood for the most part...
But having been ostracized by my own while growing up, I have learned what makes us Black folks tick. It is a matter of watching the conversation and the level of what is coming out of their mouths for you to frame it to get them to where your thinking level is... But that takes several levels of skill and practice... I still have to work on it at my age...
But, why you all get so bashed for your statements in the fact that when you all say them, no matter how correct the statements actually are, you are still SEEN and PERCEIVED just as CRITICAL as those "demeaning" white folks or other races are to us, which make your "allegiances" be called into question... I.e., you are so quick to JUDGE us like Judge Judy when a negro says something, but NEVER when a white boy says something... There you go again, Uncle Thoming on us again--yada, yada, yada...
Nevertheless, the minute another Black persons says that to you, you all shutdown, become hurt and lash out defensively... But does that help your learning and proving your point?
One suggestion is, from my spiritual quest, is to respond in kindness... That is why Rudey doesn't piss me off for some of the things he says--like he can to so many others--'cuz I respond to him with humanity and kindness... The minute he slips up and says something in my opinion questionable--I ask what does he mean and usually, he clarifies it... That is why I respect him...
But, the flaming on here... Is it working? I dunno... Don't much care--especially when you have a mortgage to deal with... However, for kids, it is important... And when you've got young people, you really have to think about the broad implication of your statements... It is liken to not cursing in front of a two year old...
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I will respond to this since it makes reference to a comment your Soror Bamboozled said to me. First I wish you could really feel me and understand me and believe me that it does not hurt me or bother me what she said (asking me was I comfortable in my own skin) or when Ladygreek asked me was my role model Clarence Thomas LOL! You can't hold the views I have and get offended easily. I don't look for acceptance from anyone, all I do is speak what I see to be the truth. I make reference to their comments because they are funny to me and because when people can't dispute what you are saying factually, they resort to personal attacks. The fact that people are all over GC PMing other folks, quoting my signature in various threads, and making snide comments about me lets me know that 1. what I say gets them to think outside the box and 2. The fan club was a necessity
Anytime you espouse views against the norm, you are going to get attacked. Anytime you mention that you love Jesus Christ and evoke him into discussions, you immediately come under a microscope and folks judge you as if they are sitting in the throne room...but hey...its all part of it. The foolishness folks post on here about me rolls right off my back..and I'm laughing as its rolling off.
My post is off topic, but I responded because although you say you have a mortgage to deal with and you don't really care..your post did seemed well reasoned and thought out...
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