Why in the world should a lady be expected to join a house she didn't want to?

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As far as telling women not to suicide, sometimes that's the way the computer program is written - if they put only one group down, it kicks them out of the system. I have no experience with these, but I would think that if they really only want one group, they could put down 2 others that they don't have a snowball's chance of getting bid to (i.e. that cut them after the first round).

I would never, ever, EVER want a woman to put a house on her bid card that she didn't like after a week of rush. "Giving it a chance" applies to going to a party, not signing a bid. But sometimes rho chis get too overzealous - it's a human flaw and they are human, not perfect.

If a woman was closed-minded enough that she'd drop out of rush when her options didn't turn out to be what her ego thought they would - i.e. the "popular" houses - that doesn't make her "desirable" in my eyes. Those are the women the system needs to weed out.