Why in the world should a lady be expected to join a house she didn't want to?

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Originally posted by James
A large part of the sorority system seems predicated on the idea that even if mutually selected, the numbers issue might make a PNM not get a bid for the house she wants.

Ok fair enough. But why do we expect and pressure them to join the house she doesn't want?

That seems to be an enormous flaw in the system.

Does anyone else agree? Or disagree?

I think part of the problem is that some girls refuse to join chatpers based on the idea that they aren't cool if they don't join a top house, and not for any other concrete reasons. I come from a local chapter that has a lot of girls come in saying they don't want to join, and I had a great experience. It's a big slap in my face for a PNM to say "I'm too good to join your house".