Recommendation Caution to PNM's - Page 7

#1 02-11-2009, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by beachhxbabiii

I have been trying to get recs but I'm having a hard time trying to find alumni. Both of my parents have asked their co-workers and no one had been in a sorority. Any other ideas of how i can find alumni?
thank youuu

Seek the help of the nearest Alumnae Panhellenic Chapter. Since you're in VA, I imagine you shouldn't have trouble finding one. Visit www.npcwomen.org for more information.

violetpretty · #2 02-11-2009, 10:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by beachhxbabiii

I have been trying to get recs but I'm having a hard time trying to find alumni. Both of my parents have asked their co-workers and no one had been in a sorority. Any other ideas of how i can find alumni?
thank youuu

Ask:

teachers/school staff/activity sponsors
family friends
older sisters of friends
friends of older siblings
friends of friends
girls that went to high school with you that are older than you
women from your place of worship
your co-workers or your boss
families you babysit for/past babysitters
males in any of these categories---they may know of sorority alumnae!

Keep trying and you'll be surprised at who pops out of the woodwork. Also, remember that when you find one alumna, she may know of others, even if she is an alumna of a sorority not at your school. I am from a small town of 6,000 NOT in the South, and if a graduating senior came to me asking to find alumnae for recs, I could probably hook her up with members from 20 of the 26 NPCs that I know personally.

KSUViolet06 · #3 02-11-2009, 10:53 PM

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Originally Posted by beachhxbabiii

I have been trying to get recs but I'm having a hard time trying to find alumni. Both of my parents have asked their co-workers and no one had been in a sorority. Any other ideas of how i can find alumni?
thank youuu

See this post:

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showpo...8&postcount=91

beachhxbabiii · #4 02-11-2009, 11:20 PM

thank you all so much! i will def try that

libramunoz · #5 02-12-2009, 02:56 AM

beachball
Don't forget to ask your pastor or his wife
Choir members
Church members
even ask the Dean of Women at your school.
Like has been said, you never KNOW WHO will pop out of the woodwork.

Rach008 · #6 02-27-2009, 10:07 PM

Hey
I'm a freshman and I participated in formal recruitment at my school this past fall but I didn't get invited back to the house I really wanted. I was really upset and dropped out of recruitment, which I now realize was a really bad decision on my part.

Anyway, joining a sorority is something I've wanted for a long time...but I am transferring to a different college next fall and I don't know if I should go through formal recruitment again. As much as I want to be a part of a chapter I am really scared that I am just going to be depressed again. Any suggestions?
Also, at the school I am transferring to I am a legacy at one of the chapters. Does this mean I will have a better chance of being invited into that sorority??
Oh, also I am wondering is it important to have reccomendations??
Any other information would be really helpful!!!

ThAnKs!!!
Rach<3

#7 02-27-2009, 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Rach008

Hey
I'm a freshman and I participated in formal recruitment at my school this past fall but I didn't get invited back to the house I really wanted. I was really upset and dropped out of recruitment, which I now realize was a really bad decision on my part.

Anyway, joining a sorority is something I've wanted for a long time...but I am transferring to a different college next fall and I don't know if I should go through formal recruitment again. As much as I want to be a part of a chapter I am really scared that I am just going to be depressed again. Any suggestions?
Also, at the school I am transferring to I am a legacy at one of the chapters. Does this mean I will have a better chance of being invited into that sorority??
Oh, also I am wondering is it important to have reccomendations??
Any other information would be really helpful!!!

ThAnKs!!!
Rach<3

At some schools, having recommendations is very important. At other schools, they're not that important. Some schools have members who don't even know what to do with them. Without knowing your campus (and I don't suggest revealing that at all), it's hard to tell. Try and do a search on GreekChat to see if there are any rush threads from your new school.

Being a legacy does not guarantee you a bid. They are extended certain courtesies, however. If you decide to rush, you may want to ask your relative member to fill out a legacy introduction form (if they have one).

If you think you can handle the possibility of rejection once again, go ahead and rush. If you can't, then don't.

FSUZeta · #8 02-27-2009, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Being a legacy does not guarantee you a bid. They are extended certain courtesies, however. If you decide to rush, you may want to ask your relative member to fill out a legacy introduction form (if they have one).

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ditto was otw said.

you will be at a different school, making a fresh start. as long as you think you can deal with the worse case scenario, why not give formal recruitment a chance?

i always say that it won't hurt to get recs. do you know some girls in sororities at your new school? you could ask them if recs. are common there.

do ask your relative who is a member of a chapter at your new school to write you a rec. there may or may not be a legacy introduction form-she will know.

most of the time, at the least, a legacy will be extended an invitation to the first invitational party. legacies are not guaranteed a bid.

pnm2be · #9 02-28-2009, 09:16 AM

I'm just a junior in high school so I have awhile till I need recs, but I was wondering if I cannot find someone to write all my recs and I need the local Alumnae Panhellenic Chapter to help me out they won't mind writing one if they don't know me? Also when should I start collecting recs? Thanks for the help!

SWTXBelle · #10 02-28-2009, 09:51 AM

It is not a bad idea to find out now if your friends, family, teachers, etc., are in a sorority. Do not ask for a recommendation now - wait until you have your college acceptance in hand and have signed up with your school Panhellenic. Next year, register with your local Alumnae Panhellenic. They will facilitate getting your information to different alumnae, and odds are you will have recs written for you. Do not, however, count on that. Try to secure at least one rec for each house through networking. Good luck.

tigers01 · #11 05-17-2009, 02:58 PM

im really sorry if this has already been asked, but i know i just read this in a thread on this site somewhere but now i cant find it. i am planning on contacting some women in my local panhellenic alumnae group and would like to attach a resume with my email, what do you guys recommend to include in my resume?

txpacer · #12 05-24-2009, 09:09 AM

Just from what I have sent in to the women who are writing recs for me, I would make sure that you put the names of your mother (+ maiden name) and father...I had no clue that that should have been on there, and many are calling me back to ask for that now.

SWTXBelle · #13 05-24-2009, 09:48 AM

One of the nicest things I saw this year was a pnm who, as per our AP instructions, filled out a packet of information for each sorority at her campus, to be turned into the AP. She also went to the trouble of including a thank you note addressed to the contact person for each group. GREAT way to stand out from the crowd - I'm just sorry she isn't going to a campus with Gamma Phi!

foreverinpink · #14 05-30-2009, 07:55 PM

Hey all! I will be a freshmen at a school with competitive greek life. I have a few questions about recs:

1. Is there such thing as too many recs? If so, how many?

2. If you are a legacy to a chapter at your school is it necessary to have a rec for them?

I have been searching some reccomendation threads and have not been able to find any of this info. Thanks in advance!!

SWTXBelle · #15 05-30-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by foreverinpink

Hey all! I will be a freshmen at a school with competitive greek life. I have a few questions about recs:

1. Is there such thing as too many recs? If so, how many?

2. If you are a legacy to a chapter at your school is it necessary to have a rec for them?

I have been searching some reccomendation threads and have not been able to find any of this info. Thanks in advance!!

1. Depends - if several alumnae know you well, having more than a couple of recs could be good. If they are "information only" recs., there is no sense in having more than one.

2. YES - many NPC groups have a "legacy introduction" form that does not replace a rec., but which does serve to notify the group that you are a legacy and specifically how you are a legacy. If you are a legacy of a living member and she does not send in a rec that could be a red flag.