MIDWESTDIVA, SOLORHO and ECLIPSE: maybe I did not make myself clear. It is not bad to be financially and emotionally independent. One should always be that. Nor should marriage or a man validate a woman. My point is that this attitude is not conducive to a good marriage on the whole(my name, my money, I can go anywhere, do what I want attitude). I am sincerely glad that it works for you Eclipse (truly) Whether a woman can stand on her own two feet should the marriage dissolve is secondary. As it is for a man. A woman keeping her name is an ego thing. I'm a traditionalist, don't go much for "new wave". I would never take a womans' name, but I wouldn't knock a man that would. I have no problem with a woman keeping her professional name either (just good business sense). However, in our home, all correspondence, introductions, invitations, will say Mr. and Mrs Same Last Name. If you still want to be Ms.Jones, you don't need me, so there is no need to bear "our" children, share "our" home, or "our" income. The Latin argument is specious, because that is another culture. American born Latinos have one last name, if married, it is the husbands.
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