Ohhhh, it looks like the gentlemen are seekng the insight of the ladies of Sigma Gamma Rho. LOL
Well, DoggyStyle, I don't consider it an invasion. I like when other Greeks come visit and share.
But anyway, I'm 'bout to pick your post apart!
You may be right about satiating the womans ego. (But, Im still VERY young, and may not be the best person to give an opinion on marriage and such.)
But you said a woman's name signifies that she is "A single, financially and emotionally stable, whole person, who does not need a man nor his name to validate her." THIS IS TRUE, and SHOULD NOT change after a woman is married (except for the single part). A woman, be she single or married, SHOULD be financially independent, emotionaly stable and a whole person. No woman should be completely dependant on her husband for these things. As a matter of fact, I'll even go to say that no marriage can work unles both parties are stable in these and other aspects of life. But I digress...
This union that you speak of, what is that union when it comes to money and emotion? 50/50---> with each person bringing the best there is?
Or more like 20/80---> with the woman depending on her husband for financial and emotional support. In essence, like you implied, the husband validating her.
THIS (second scenario) is sympotomatic (to steal your word for a minute
) of the state of some women after divorce. Take a look at the flip side:
Now, I could easily argue the flip side of your argument. What if a woman and man get TOO comfortable with the idea of that union? God forbid, things don't work out, or it becomes abusive, the man dies, etc... If a woman DOESN'T or HADN'T held on to her INDIVIDUALITY, when she is left alone she FEELS alone, out of control, useless, and hopeless, when divorce or the reaper come a knocking. AND she now feels as if she can't make it. Her husband validated her for so long, she's forgotten what it is to be an independent woman.
Now I know that everything I've said doesnt always happen that way. But doggystyle's argument that keeping a name is problematic isn't true all the time either.
Like I said, Im still young so I'm eager to hear all sides of this debate. I can walk into future relationships and marriage with a better undersanding of this scenario. Sorors, what do you think?
SoloRHO
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PS: DoggyStlye, you never know how things may "come accross" in these posts. I didn't mean this post to be an attack on you or your beliefs. Be out!
[This message has been edited by SoloRHO (edited October 27, 2000).]
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