Down Low Brothas

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by kiml122
Ok, I just got off email with my mom, and we were talking about the show on Friday. It started because she sent me that article that I can't seem to figure out how to post the link...but anywho...

I was saying to her that I always thought that Steadman was on the DL, well she just told me that she knows Steadman's cousin, and the cousin said that Steadman has been on the DL for years. He sees both Steadman and Oprah at the family reunion each year, and his momma is not having Steadman marry Oprah because she isn't part Indian. Something with her having a problem with her not having any Indian blood in her. I was like she needs to be worried that her son married one woman and had a child, and has been living this secret life instead of have a tude about her son marrying another woman.

oooooooooooooooooooooooo chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiile SHUT YO MOUF!!!

[Professor]

LOL - are you suggesting women give anal exams. If it does not bother a man, then one may be gay - lol. From what I hear if you are on DL then you are a giver and not a receiver - not that it makes any difference.

***The next line is not for the faint at heart***
Ladies, I am also told that when you ask, look him in the eye and get the TRUE reaction (not what his mouth says - what his bodily reaction says) AND there may be tell-tale signs through investigation of body parts that may give you some clue as to whether a man is "the receiver" OR who label themselves as "bottoms." This may be a helpful tip to the wives who may be more at liberty to "check your man out." OF COURSE IT IS NOT A FAILPROOF METHOD AND IT MAY NOT BE A VERY ACCURATE TEST AT ALL. And of course it doesn't do anything for those men who consider themselves "tops." However, at the end of the day, it just seems that the safest best is to take an HIV test and STILL just make him wrap it up.

SC

[1savvydiva]

Originally posted by Professor
LOL - are you suggesting women give anal exams. If it does not bother a man, then one may be gay - lol.

LOL...yep! I don't know any man that will knowingly let you play around in that ummmm vicinity.

[AKA2D '91]

Question:

If a man asks you if you've heard of the "DL", would that raise an eyebrow? Would you call him "suspect"?

How did Oprah's "mainstream" audience react to this DL concept?

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Question:

If a man asks you if you've heard of the "DL", would that raise an eyebrow? Would you call him "suspect"?

How did Oprah's "mainstream" audience react to this DL concept?

it sho would; i'd be like umm yeah my number is 704-NGA-PLZZ

They were tripping off of it and sitting there like oh my God I dated a Black man once.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
it sho would; i'd be like umm yeah my number is 704-NGA-PLZZ

They were tripping off of it and sitting there like oh my God I dated a Black man once.

Oh. Lawd. Jaysis.
CTFU at that NGA-PLZZ. In my case, it would be 949.NGA.PLZZ.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
They were tripping off of it and sitting there like oh my God I dated a Black man once.

Yeah...

I have mixed feelings about this being broadcasted on the Oprah show, since it is mainstream. There's already enough things that makes black men look bad in the media. I know its important to get the word out, but I wonder if it would be better to spread the word on college campuses or in black magazines...whatever. Our black student union always have guest speakers coming on campus, I'm sure it is the same way on other campuses.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by Dionysus
Yeah...

I have mixed feelings about this being broadcasted on the Oprah show, since it is mainstream. There's already enough things that makes black men look bad in the media. I know its important to get the word out, but I wonder if it would be better to spread the word on college campuses or in black magazines...whatever. Our black student union always have guest speakers coming on campus, I'm sure it is the same way on other campuses.

I see your point but for me it was "BOUT TIME OPRAH did a show on this." You know some folks think that OPRAH is the ISHT!!! Her comments and her ignorance on this subject scared me and saddened me at the same time. She cannot afford to be ignorant on this subject.

I really wish she would do a week long in depth expose on AIDS in the BLACK community in all of its facets -- teens, adults, senior citizens; hetero; homo; DL; etc etc etc

Oh and to those who thought that the 68 year old woman caught it from a man on the DL; i did not perceive it as such; I thought it was Oprah giving voice to those who get it at an older age when they assume that BC is not even a factor. I was not lead to believe that her partner was on the DL, just unprotected and promiscuous or even possibly given the year she got AIDS, her partner might have had a surgery and acquired it through tainted blood.

[AKA2D '91]

Do you think Oprah REALLY is ignorant to this? Remember when she had that hazing show many years ago (Missouri-Kappa incident)? She CLAIMED she didn't know anything about pledging, etc. I was like chile puhleeze, you were at TSU when pledging was an artform...legit...legal! You seent it all!

[Professor]

How is the enforcer - - - tell me this, what man is going to come up and say anything about being on the DL. It just does not sound right.

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Do you think Oprah REALLY is ignorant to this? Remember when she had that hazing show many years ago (Missouri-Kappa incident)? She CLAIMED she didn't know anything about pledging, etc. I was like chile puhleeze, you were at TSU when pledging was an artform...legit...legal! You seent it all!

[StrangeFruit]

I agree that having the DL topic on Oprah's show makes black men look even more suspect (in various ways), but EVERYBODY needs to know about this.

Just like that King said black women aren't the only people in trouble white women are too. They marry, date, sleep-with black men as well.


And we all know that every black woman isn't on a college campus and there's a lot of us-black women that don't pick-up a magazine, so the next best medium is a talk show like Oprah's.

AIDS is a HUMAN problem and we all need to know about it. Just my humble opinion.

What I don't get though is how can DL brothah's explain their non-gay/bisexual status. I don't care if you're the sticker or the stickee if either is going on, YOU ARE GAY.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Professor
How is the enforcer - - - tell me this, what man is going to come up and say anything about being on the DL. It just does not sound right.

I dunno. Why would someone (A MAN) ask YOU (a female) if you've ever HEARD of it (DL)?

Did you quote the correct quote?

(not shouting! I'm cool)

[Professor]

i was too tired to find the other post - -

[Professor]

here you go

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Question:

If a man asks you if you've heard of the "DL", would that raise an eyebrow? Would you call him "suspect"?

How did Oprah's "mainstream" audience react to this DL concept?

[itsmesteph08]

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Originally posted by kiml122

Ok, I just got off email with my mom, and we were talking about the show on Friday. It started because she sent me that article that I can't seem to figure out how to post the link...but anywho...

I was saying to her that I always thought that Steadman was on the DL, well she just told me that she knows Steadman's cousin, and the cousin said that Steadman has been on the DL for years. He sees both Steadman and Oprah at the family reunion each year, and his momma is not having Steadman marry Oprah because she isn't part Indian. Something with her having a problem with her not having any Indian blood in her. I was like she needs to be worried that her son married one woman and had a child, and has been living this secret life instead of have a tude about her son marrying another woman.
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