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You know this is one of the many relationship questions I have been thinking about lately.. trying to figure out things.
Well, I think that Ginger made some good points. I see people who are getting married to the second guy they have ever dated. Their first real love. They seem fine. I mean I dont know how they are going to be down the road, but who knows.
In reference to this, I think some people just dont know any different. Because of this they could be fine and happy the rest of their lives while others wake up one day (which I have seen to many family members) and realize I missed that time I needed to figure out who I am and what I want.
Then me on the other hand, I am one of those types you refer to who have been in a number of serious relationships.. three to be exact.. (14-16, 16-18, 18-22) granted before, inbetween, and now after I have dated many different types of guys.. I think from each relationship I have figured out more of what I want from a guy.. out of the second two I could have married them and ended up happy.. though it wasnt broken off bc I knew I still needed to figure out myself before I could spend the rest of my life with someone else..
Personally I think its all a matter of comparison. I look at each guy and say.. ya know from this relationship I figured out that I really dont like this certain quality.. or that I miss this certain quality.
I tell my younger brother all the time,, not to settle.. that he needs to figure out what he wants first.. now thats family.. friends well the ones who are engaged I try not to inflict too much on them, but when they start in on why I am not with a guy..well thats another story..
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