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AlethiaSi · #1 02-26-2004, 09:08 AM

ok..so i met this really great guy through a friend of mine from home... (one of those- oh yea- i have a friend in london- you should call him kind of things) and so i imd him one day online- and we started tlaking- we hit it off immediately and before we met- we were on the phone for like 2 hours everynight... and throughout our conversations he would talk about all these trips he's been on- he's going to med school over here- he has a bmw.... (daddy's a doctor) and he blows money like its water... its crazy... but i didn't know that before i started talking to him... so we met last night...and this isn't a big deal- but for one he's the darkest indian man i've ever met in my life lol but he's cute though- so whatever- and he's shorter then me... again.. ok whatever- i'm open to new things- so then he and his friend take me and my friend out for drinks- the first thing he orders is champagne- and its all downhill for that- by the time we stumble to the restaurant- he orders a huge pitcher of strong margharitas- and i'm plastered... we eat dinner and then meet up with two of my other friends... we're all really drunk... which isn't cool b/c i obviously wasnt' intending to get like this... and he starts being really obnoxious- and is like your mean to me- blah blha- like trying to flirt with me- but i ended up just feeling like i was babysitting him- and part of me- was like- wow he's rich- just humor the guy- but most of me was just pissed off that i had to take care of him.... i don't know really what to do- i don't want to take advantage of him... but then again its not hurting right? we get along fantastic- but i don't think i'm attracted to him... ugh i'm so confused! help i need advice! i hope you guys don't think i'm a mooch- or completely superficial- b/c i'm not- but my morals are conflicted and i feel terrible.. i odn't want to lead him on... but i want to keep talking to him sooo i don't know- please help!

decadence · #2 02-26-2004, 09:15 AM

Well I'm glad you made sense in that post

Hmmm, well let's see Daddy's little rich boy is being ostentatious. Well y'see people often argue that folks can't help being born into the family they're born into and if that family has ££$$ then so be it. But people can always help being assholes.
He sees to like getting you drunk. "Hmm."
Bit unclear on why you wanna keep seeing him? Because he buys stuff and picks up tabs? Or because you wanna have someone to hang with in London and he's 'there'?
If he wants to be pillow friends and you don't, then don't be?

AlethiaSi · #3 02-26-2004, 09:24 AM

lol you always put things into perspective- thanks richard! lol

i know you are right....... i'll let you know how it goes... hopefully he doesn't pull the same stuff tonight and i can get a better sense of his personality....

KillarneyRose · #4 02-26-2004, 10:28 AM

IMO, there are two kinds of people in this world: Happy Drunks and Obnoxious Drunks. Sounds like this boy is an Obnoxious Drunk and THAT, my dear, never changes.

As for the money angle, there are lots of guys out there with money so don't let that influence you

Hope this helps some

James · #5 03-29-2004, 10:03 PM

If you use someone for entertainment value because they have assets you don't have it does make you mercenary and manipulative . . . I am not syaing don't do it, just don't make excuses for being mercenary and manipulative . . .

However. . . if you do your part and have sex with him, its a really strong mitigating factor and clears all the bad karma from your soul because both parties get what they want. You get toys and entertainment and he gets sex.

AchtungBaby80 · #6 03-29-2004, 10:49 PM

It sounds like this guy falls into the category of "Fun To Go Out With But Not Boyfriend Material."

AlphaGamDiva · #7 03-30-2004, 02:55 AM

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Originally posted by AlethiaSi
ok..so i met this really great guy through a friend of mine from home... (one of those- oh yea- i have a friend in london- you should call him kind of things) and so i imd him one day online- and we started tlaking- we hit it off immediately and before we met- we were on the phone for like 2 hours everynight... and throughout our conversations he would talk about all these trips he's been on- he's going to med school over here- he has a bmw.... (daddy's a doctor) and he blows money like its water... its crazy... but i didn't know that before i started talking to him... so we met last night...and this isn't a big deal- but for one he's the darkest indian man i've ever met in my life lol but he's cute though- so whatever- and he's shorter then me... again.. ok whatever- i'm open to new things- so then he and his friend take me and my friend out for drinks- the first thing he orders is champagne- and its all downhill for that- by the time we stumble to the restaurant- he orders a huge pitcher of strong margharitas- and i'm plastered... we eat dinner and then meet up with two of my other friends... we're all really drunk... which isn't cool b/c i obviously wasnt' intending to get like this... and he starts being really obnoxious- and is like your mean to me- blah blha- like trying to flirt with me- but i ended up just feeling like i was babysitting him- and part of me- was like- wow he's rich- just humor the guy- but most of me was just pissed off that i had to take care of him.... i don't know really what to do- i don't want to take advantage of him... but then again its not hurting right? we get along fantastic- but i don't think i'm attracted to him... ugh i'm so confused! help i need advice! i hope you guys don't think i'm a mooch- or completely superficial- b/c i'm not- but my morals are conflicted and i feel terrible.. i odn't want to lead him on... but i want to keep talking to him sooo i don't know- please help!

LOL!!!!! sorry, girl, but this whole scenario just made me seriously laugh.

like, i could envision the whole evening and i know how that would all make me feel.....so i had to laugh being so thankful that it wasn't me.....

i don't think i would go out again....seems like the "obnoxious drunk" thing, as KR put it, would negate whatever chemistry you initially felt with him. i dunno....but money does buy shiney things......oooh, toughie. lol!

AlethiaSi · #8 03-30-2004, 06:57 AM

lol i know right! dude- i've been pretty much avoiding him- he lives a good 30 minutes outside london... i wouldn't be avoiding him this much- but everytime i talk to him- he's bragging about this trip or this thing he bought or he's complaining about his schoolwork.... i'm like dude- get over it- the world doesn't revolve around you! oh well- thanks for the advice! lol

Rio_Kohitsuji · #9 03-30-2004, 05:11 PM

AlethiaSi---- Girl, you just need to take a break from dating!! Too much drama!

Anyway, on this guy, hell let him take you out a few more times. It doesn't hurt to at least test drive him a bit, he'll either be a Pinto or a Rolls Royce

AlethiaSi · #10 03-31-2004, 08:20 AM

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Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
AlethiaSi---- Girl, you just need to take a break from dating!! Too much drama!

Anyway, on this guy, hell let him take you out a few more times. It doesn't hurt to at least test drive him a bit, he'll either be a Pinto or a Rolls Royce

hahahahahaha you are sooo right about the drama!

i think he's a rolls royce on the surface and a pinto underdeath the hood lol

hahaha