A question for the Pretty Boys from a Pretty Girl.....

[AKA2D '91]

If you are going to be a REGULAR on THIS or ANY internet chat forum, you need to know this...

ROTFL=rolling on the floor laughing
ROTFLMAO= rolling on the floor laughing my AZZ OFF
LOL=laughing out loud
IMHO= in my honest opinion
JMO= just my opinion

HEY, IT'S 91! NOT 'O1

OH, I GUESS YOU WILL WANT TO KNOW HOW TO ADD THE "SMILIES" NEXT!

um, NUPES, help educate your brother, if I have left any out!

[This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited January 08, 2001).]

[KAPital PHINUst]

For me, it's being able to talk about a variety of topics intelligently and without expecting everyone to have the same viewpoint as her.

Someone who can disagree constructively, without having to resort to personal attacks.

Someone who's knowledge of news and current events go beyond celebrity gossip/scandals and reality show goings-on. Those who listen to NPR and BBC is a major plus (REAL NEWS sources), along with those who keep up with economic news and/or read The Economist and Mother Jones. Again, they don't have to do all these things, but they must be aware of current news from a variety of sources, not just CNN and Fox News. But I digress....

Another major turn-on is those who have conservative family values with no feminist attitudes or traits (ex. women with hyphenated names is a red flag). Of course, those who dress conservatively is a major turn on for me; I like to be greeted at the door by a woman in a June Cleaver dress with pearls (yeah, I like AKAs ) over a woman coming to the door with Saran Wrap and stiletto heels. But that's just me, though. YMMV.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Another major turn-on is those who have conservative family values with no feminist attitudes or traits (ex. women with hyphenated names is a red flag). Of course, those who dress conservatively is a major turn on for me; I like to be greeted at the door by a woman in a June Cleaver dress with pearls (yeah, I like AKAs ) over a woman coming to the door with Saran Wrap and stiletto heels. But that's just me, though. YMMV.

WOW!

[Live_Wire17]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

For me, it's being able to talk about a variety of topics intelligently and without expecting everyone to have the same viewpoint as her.

Someone who can disagree constructively, without having to resort to personal attacks.

Someone who's knowledge of news and current events go beyond celebrity gossip/scandals and reality show goings-on. Those who listen to NPR and BBC is a major plus (REAL NEWS sources), along with those who keep up with economic news and/or read The Economist and Mother Jones. Again, they don't have to do all these things, but they must be aware of current news from a variety of sources, not just CNN and Fox News. But I digress....

Sounds fine...it is the rest that scares me.

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Another major turn-on is those who have conservative family values with no feminist attitudes or traits (ex. women with hyphenated names is a red flag).

This would be me I am a daddy's girl and found it hard to let go of the name but it doesn't mean I love my Nupe any less only that he is not my DEFINITION BUT RATHER MY COMPLIMENT.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

For me, it's being able to talk about a variety of topics intelligently and without expecting everyone to have the same viewpoint as her.

Someone who can disagree constructively, without having to resort to personal attacks.

Someone who's knowledge of news and current events go beyond celebrity gossip/scandals and reality show goings-on. Those who listen to NPR and BBC is a major plus (REAL NEWS sources), along with those who keep up with economic news and/or read The Economist and Mother Jones. Again, they don't have to do all these things, but they must be aware of current news from a variety of sources, not just CNN and Fox News. But I digress....

Another major turn-on is those who have conservative family values with no feminist attitudes or traits (ex. women with hyphenated names is a red flag). Of course, those who dress conservatively is a major turn on for me; I like to be greeted at the door by a woman in a June Cleaver dress with pearls (yeah, I like AKAs ) over a woman coming to the door with Saran Wrap and stiletto heels. But that's just me, though. YMMV.

Damn, Nupe. Maybe it's just a fraternity thing, because I like the conservative look too. I love the June Cleaver look. I can't stand stilettos or clothes that look like they've been painted on. TRASH.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Damn, Nupe. Maybe it's just a fraternity thing, because I like the conservative look too. I love the June Cleaver look. I can't stand stilettos or clothes that look like they've been painted on. TRASH.

Naw, dude. I know plenty of Kappas that like women in stilettos and wouldn't mind be greeted at the door by his woman in saran wrap. Maybe it's just a PB and RM thing.

[KAPPAtivating]

I was just having this conversation with my brother earlier today. I don't equate SEXY with being naked, or in tight clothes. My woman can be sexy in pajamas or anything. Sexy is the way you walk, the way you talk, and the confidence a woman has. I did used to have a thing for a woman in boots though If a woman has on a high heel with a pair of business slacks or something...then that is cool. But I don't wanna see your azz if you bend over(I might look, but you won't be my woman)!

[Bobby Earl]

I believe I said '91 not '01. I know some AKAs who crossed in '91 that you may or may not know.

Thanks for the legend to this map. I will use it in the future. Why do I need my frat to educate me, when I have you to do that, huh?

Thanks Again...

[Bobby Earl]

Guess what AKA2D '91?

I want to know how to do the smiles...

Thanks in advance...

[AKA2D '91]

STEP ONE: WHEN YOU POST A REPLY, YOU SHOULD SEE THE "SMILIES" LEGEND TO YOUR LEFT

STEP TWO: CLICK THERE

STEP THREE: FIND WHAT "SMILIE" YOU WANT, COPY THE "CODE" EXACTLY AS IT IS!

STEP FOUR: CLICK SUBMIT REPLY

STEP FIVE: PRESTO! THAT'S IT!

[Bobby Earl]

Gracious...

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by Bobby Earl:
I have a question pertaining to this topic?

Do you think that the videos and other stereotypes of black women have an impact on how brothers see and interact with black women?

A lot of the videos and stereotypes emphasize on the physical attributes which might indirectly cause men to only see women for sex. This is what I meant about people getting hurt because one party is focused on longevity, understanding, and getting to know someone while the other is focused on sex. I know it takes more than a video to think this way, but the videos don't help.

I also don't like how the beautiful black women has always been visualized with "light skin", long hair, coke bottle shape, and brown or hazel eyes. By no means am I prejudice against light skinned ladies, but I just feel that there are many darker and less physically inclined sisters who have a lot to offer.

Now that I think ahout it, maybe this behavior is learned at a young age or influenced by the environment in which some men grow up under. I am from Louisiana and I know that a lot of brothers from Southern Louisiana (Lafayette, New Orleans, Baton Rouge, Hammond, etc..) have this mentality whether they choose to admit it or not.

Does anyone have some more input?

B.E. , in response to your question, I'm not sure how this will affect Black men's interaction with Black women. I do agree, though, that the videos don't help. I think that it's a matter of maturity. At least I would hope that by a certain age, men know what they want in a woman and in a relationship. I think the videos, like the Gentleman Clubs, simply create a fantasy. At a young age, men might chase around these type of women, but as they mature, they realize they want more than just T&A.

I do get a little tired of Black women's beauty being showcased as only light skinned, long hair, and perfect figure. I'm glad that women like Kelly Price, Queen Latifah, and Jill Scott are representing for us big girls! Unfortunately, as far as skin complexion, a lot of people still think that the darker you are the more unnattractive you are. I guess it's all about preferences. I love my chocolate skin, and wouldn't trade it for all the attention in the world.

Now, as far as men looking to women solely for sex, I think that's a given, anyway, regardless of the videos. But then again, I am cynical, biased, and bitter (I can admit that now ).

[Bobby Earl]

Originally posted by Ideal08:
B.E. But then again, I am cynical, biased, and bitter (I can admit that now ).

I think you need a hug Ideal08. (just kidding)

I also share your opinion...
Thanks for the input.

[1908Revelations]

TTT

just incase any new GC guys have anything to say. We wanna know what you think

[tld221]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

TTT

just incase any new GC guys have anything to say. We wanna know what you think

yessssssssss i love revival threads!