If you have no desire for commitment, check in here

[Dionysus]

I just got home from a fun dinner w/ friends until this came up, TALKS ABOUT CHILDREN AND MARRIAGE! I left shortly after that. Damn, we're only 22 and 23. One even said she wants to be married and have children by this time next year. Everyone agreed w/ her, except for me. I don't want to have any serious commitment until my late 20's or early 30's. I feel lonely that I think this way. So, if you feel the same way that I do, please post.

[damasa]

I feel ya, I just want to smash.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by damasa
I feel ya, I just want to smash.

The cosign.

[OtterXO]

Oh my god, cosign!!!!!

[alikat2]

Yep, me too

[Lady Pi Phi]

While I am still single, so marriage isn't an option for me right now. I am in NO WAY ready for that kind of commitment. Even when I ponder the thought it freaks me out. I'm having way too much fun and I don't want that kind of responsibility right now.

[_Opi_]

Count me in!

[chideltjen]

cosign. i am too damn busy for the drama relationship can bring.

[thetalady]

GOOD FOR YOU GUYS!!!!

God, how refreshing to read. Marrying in your late 20's has proven to be FAR FAR more successful than those in your early 20's. Of course, I never believed this when I was younger, but you grow and change SO much in your 20's. If you marry in your early 20's you may end up with a total mismatch by the time you hit 30, 35 years old.

If I had married the guy I was in love with at 22, I would definitely be divorced now. Instead, I came to see the total and complete asshole that he turned into. Instead, I married a far different man at 28. We just celebrated our 16th anniversary

You are making a smart decision that will positively affect the rest of your lives.

[Kevin]

I think it's the entire Great Plains region that's like this. In my state, it's considered abnormal for me to be 24, have been in a relationship for 3 years and not proposed or something.

It's just that Bible Belt thinkin'. Hate to be prejudiced, but the trend seems especially prevelant among people from rural towns.

[dzsaigirl]

Originally posted by ktsnake
I think it's the entire Great Plains region that's like this. In my state, it's considered abnormal for me to be 24, have been in a relationship for 3 years and not proposed or something.

It's just that Bible Belt thinkin'. Hate to be prejudiced, but the trend seems especially prevelant among people from rural towns.

That was strange...I typed and nothing happened...

Anyway, I know quite a few people that will dump a guy after 3 years if there is no ring. However, I know more than a few people who found out their man was a total freak after 4 or 5 years, so not getting married saved them all that grief!

I think it just depends on where you are in your life and how mature you are. I mean, there are people who are 23 going on 30 and there are people who are 30 going on 21 Nobody should ever say "Okay, I am 25 now so I have to marry the guy I am with now because it is just TIME to get married." Big mistake!

[angelic1]

Originally posted by ktsnake
I think it's the entire Great Plains region that's like this. In my state, it's considered abnormal for me to be 24, have been in a relationship for 3 years and not proposed or something.

It's just that Bible Belt thinkin'. Hate to be prejudiced, but the trend seems especially prevelant among people from rural towns.

welcome to where I am from as well.. people find it crazy that my exboyfriend and i arent together right now planning our wedding (after dating all through college).. we both knew that we had a lot to figure out before we are ready for something like that.. i just find it all so crazy.. getting married young.. i am only 22 and so many of my friends are already married or getting married this summer.. and then i have friends with kids!!!

[PiEp299]

Originally posted by ktsnake
It's just that Bible Belt thinkin'. Hate to be prejudiced, but the trend seems especially prevelant among people from rural towns.

True. Here you're abnormal if you aren't divorced with a kid by the time you're 25.

So, count me as abnormal. I plan on being that way for awhile. I've also loved seeing the domino effect of engagements of my friends. The girls get jealous and it's "put a ring on my finger or we're done" type crap.

As my dad always says...Marriage is a great institution, but so is the state hospital.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by PiEp299
The girls get jealous and it's "put a ring on my finger or we're done" type crap.

That's awful. No wonder guys think women are freaks -- but we're not all like that, I promise!

[damasa]

Originally posted by valkyrie
That's awful. No wonder guys think women are freaks -- but we're not all like that, I promise!

Yea, it's really only you