Wedding gifts

[Army Wife'79]

First of all, Miss Manners says that ABSOLUTELY NO reference to gifts should ever, ever, ever be on or in an invitation. She says the price of admission to a wedding is NOT a gift and they are two different things. I stronly suggest a copy of her book for this wealthy young couple. They may have the money but don't have the manners.
And "no boxed gifts". What the hay???? I would play dumb with the unboxed blender.

[APhi Sailorgirl]

I have no idea what "no boxed gifts" means, but I findy it very TACKY.

I would either send them a nice Miss Manners book (it's not boxed) if you're feeling esp nice or just a pretty card.

And no your husband shouldn't go, b/c it appears it is a money grab.

[ZTAMich]

I hate when my husband says "Don't get them a gift, I know they just want cash". It takes all the fun out of gift buying! Plus I happen to think this is just some weird guy code and the soon to be wife will think I'm not creative or thoughtful enough to choose a gift!

[pinkyphimu]

That is the weirdest thing I have ever heard! I hoped it ment that they didn't want people to wrap the gifts to save a tree.

I would ask the bride or groom what they most want a gift from the registry or cash. I had never thought to do that, but plenty of people had asked me. I have been very general and directed people I didn't know very well to our registry. Our closest friends know that for us, we need the money more than we need "stuff."

I usually look through the person's wedding and if I find something that I really want to get for them because I know they will use or will enjoy, then I get that. If I know they are currently saving money to buy a house, I just give money. If I don't like the choices on their registry (i.e. I waited until the last minute and only the most expensive things are left), then I give cash. I come from cash giving people!