Hey, korkscru!
I gotta say that I am a fan of Dr. Phil. As a woman who has also counseled in the past, I understand what he does b/c he lets people know up front that he is very direct and to the point with his style of counseling. If they don't want that type of advice, they shouldn't ask him! Gentle and soothing he's not! That's why Oprah always calls him tell it like it is Phil
I know he can be harsh, but as a person who is a recovered late addict, I think that he was probably right on point. The woman was saying that she is
ALWAYS late. She also said that she does not do it on purpose, which made Dr. Phil respond:
"It must be on purpose, because you would stumble up on a meeting, or something on time by accident without trying." (something like that 
)
For me, I know that the source of my habitual lateness was my internal desire to be the center of attention, because I was so self conscious and insecure about myself. After a while, arrogance probably played a part because subconsciously I felt that people should have to wait on, or acknowledge my presence since I had done it for others for so long with what I felt was no reciprocity. When you are late ALL OF THE TIME, somewhere you are doing it for a reason, even if it is subconscious. For example, I would typically get up timing myself to the minute thinking if I leave by this time I'll be fine....although I have left at that time 100 times before and been right on time, or late, but I did'nt stop doing it. There was a reason.
I think you said in your post that you have been late a few times, but that is not the type of person or behavior he was probably referring to. That seems to be normal. IMHO, he is referring to the person that really thinks they are trying to be on time, and the universe is working against them b/c they are a victim to outside extenuating circumstances, not to their behavior-NOT! Been there, done that.
I personally think that everyone does things because there is a payoff that they receive from the behavior, whether they realize it or not. If not, they wouldn't do it. That's another story!
I do think that he can be blunt, but sometimes people are so engrained in their behavior that his "guerilla tactics" are the best way to force them into acknowledging the issue. Just my $19.13
Thanks for reading my ramble!
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