Soror,
I think you already know the answer to this one. This "friend" may not be someone that you want to hold so closely. And after over 10 years I ould have to wonder if she's ever done this before? There is an unspoken code amongst friends...that when one of you is seeing,talking to or with a man that he is off limits. If your friend is even flirting with the idea that it is okay to be intimate with this man when you are interested (let alone sleeping with him) I think you need to watch her.
I hope this helps. Soror just remember that you have 200,000 SISTERS to lean on

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The Negoitoator
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