For those who believe that having children is a privilege...

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I think that parents need to have the ability to love, feel compassion, and be generous. Parents should be able to financially support themselves and their children. I think parents need to have a support system and an outlet to keep them sane. They also need to have a desire to be a parent. I'm sure that there are a dozen of things I am missing from my list.

Definately feeling you on the "love and generosity". Mosty parents love their kids b/c they are their kids, but are not always compassionate, or even generous to them. A good parent will place their children's well-being at the top of their priorities list (i.e. the parent will NOT go out and buy themselves $150 boots while their child is running out with a hole in the bottom of their shoe I this this type of thing hpaane all too often and it pisses me off to no end)...

[Kimmie1913]

Originally posted by SmartBlondeGPhB
So you would propose that a woman should remain in a marriage even if she's being abused? Or should marry a man who is abusing her simply because she got pregnant and wants to keep her child?

While being married is a great dream, no woman (or her children) should be subjected to that. And yes, I am a domestic violence organization volunteer, I know a bit about what I'm talking about.
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Parenting clases should be required and financial stability.

I don't think that is what she was getting at that at all. Just because she thinks people should not have kids unless they are married, it is not the same thing as saying they have to get married at all costs. I think to say she was saying that women should stay or accept abusive relationships in the name of getting married or having kids is a big leap.

I personally agree that the ideal stable relationship for having kids is a good marriage. An abusive marriage is not a good marriage and clearly is not a good environment for anyone, especially a child.

I do agree that having serious open communication about beliefs and values and expectations is mandatory. It is amazing how many people do get married and never discussed financial goals, toughs about children, etc.

Financial stability and a financial plan. You do not need to have a lot of money, just enough money and good money management skills (which I am still working on)

Coping skills and parenting classes.