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Originally posted by ladygreek
Psychologically, I can see it happening. The husbands feel survivor's guilt and part of the way to deal with it is to make sure the widow does not suffer as much. The widow, in turn, sees a replacement for her husband. I am not a psychologist, but I would bet that after more time they will both come to realize it was not love but emotional comfort.
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I understand the theory as presented, but when does the rationality kick in? I'd defer to someone w/ a psychology background, but don't rational people reach a point where they realize they're "in too deep?"
I see the guilt and possible desire to do the mentor thing; we do that here, spending time with the sons of deceased Alpha brothers, but to pack and move and start taking up with the widow strains credulity. Not that they planned for this to happen, but I wonder how many of these men were in strained marital/family situations before 9/11?
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