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Originally posted by kappaloo
Adoption is not an option for everyone. Just like abortion is not an option for everyone.
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Ditto.
What about those whose parents would disown them if they found out they were pregnant? Those who live in extremely religious or conservative towns that would shun them if they showed up pregnant? My parents wouldn't disown me, but they have made it clear that they wouldn't help me out financially or emotionally. My extended family would probably be very uncomfortable with it. This all goes back to the point I made earlier that Catholics are more likely to have abortions -- they know that their Catholic parents, families and other people in their church would be at the very least disappointed, since the church has such a strict stand on sexuality.
For a lot of people, abortion IS the easy way out. It's a lot easier than being disowned, having their parents angry with them or disappointed in them for years, or being treated like a "sinner" in their community. I don't blame them for that.
I think we can all agree that nobody sets out to have abortions. I have yet to EVER hear of anybody who's like, "Well, it's okay that I'm not using birth control, because it seems like an abortion would be a lot easier and a lot more fun than taking a bill everyday or buying condoms." But accidents happen. We shouldn't insist that an accident ruin someone's life -- in some cases THREE lives or even more. I know, for example, that if I got pregnant I would be both financially and emotionally unable to care for a child. If I had it anyway, both the baby and I would have a pretty miserable time. Chances are that my boyfriend would insist on helping out, which would mean him dropping out of school too.
I know that a lot of people think that having an abortion means that you failed to take responsibility for yourself. But having an abortion IS responsible. It means that you realize that you can't give your baby a good life. You can't love it like it will need. You can afford to give it a good life. I know someone who had THREE abortions before she was 21. Yes, she used birth control. No, it obviously didn't work. She worked part time at a clothing store at the mall. She didn't have her driver's license. Her boyfriend was not someone she would want to be the father of her kids, due to his sometimes abusive and often unfaithful habits. Do I think she was irresponsible to have the abortions? Hell no. I think she was being extremely responsible.
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