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Originally posted by honeychile
I've never had a man cheat on me, but I'd like to give you a different perspective.
I volunteer at a Divorce Recovery Seminar. There are lectures, then small (4-10 people) groups where people discuss in depth what caused the break up of their marriage. At least 2/3 of the people there are divorced because of infidelity. Interestingly, at least half of those whose divorce is final later wish that they had talked about the infidelity prior to running off to a lawyer.
I would have never said this before, but if someone cheats, it's more important to find out the why before immediately breaking it off completely. Since you're not married, it may be just as well to call it quits. But, if this is/was a more serious relationship, I would highly recommend that you both speak to a counselor to try to understand why he felt the need to cheat.
Take care of yourself, Sweetie, and make sure he has every available test prior to any intimacy.
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Thanks for the advice. This happened last Winter break when I had gone home. I didn't find out about it until recently. We broke up (not because of this) over the Summer, and then got back together this month. I don't care what he did over the Summer. The break up was my idea. Finding out what he did while I was away really bothers me. I don't know. I didn't sleep last night thinking about this. I hate my indecisiveness.
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