Will She or Won't She? - Page 3

Munchkin03 · #31 08-21-2003, 02:56 PM

Yep! I steered and yelled out instructions to my 8. It was a blast...but too much pressure to drop weight, which was hard when I was working out 3 hours a day after class with rowers!

The NCAA minimum is 115 lbs, and they want you as close to that as possible. When I started, I was 110...when I quit, I was 125. I'm back to 110 now, though.

Tom Earp · #32 08-21-2003, 04:08 PM

Ah kappakittyCat,

I just couldnt bring my self to resonde to your post as I was laffing so damn hard it hurt!

OOOh, BAD ME!

momoftwo · #33 09-06-2003, 12:19 AM

My daughter decided not to rush. None of the friends she's made so far wanted to, and she's acting too timid to go on her own. She did audition and will know what band she's in next week. While whether or not to rush was a decision she definitely needed to make on her own, I'm disappointed that she didn't look into sorority life to discover first hand whether it would be a good fit or not. Honestly I think she was scared off by the stupid hazing that occurred at our neighboring high school.

The adjustment being away from home is hard. We hear from her at least once a day (today we talked three times). I keep telling her to look for opportunities to get involved and to be proactive in making evening and weekend plans with her friends. I know things will get easier for her in time. We're just looking forward to the first day we don't hear from her

, then we'll know she's alright!

justamom · #34 09-06-2003, 09:53 AM

I hope she settles in and the auditions work out for her!

You may have mentioned this, I can't remember. Do GLOs on her campus recruit in the Spring? Do a lot of Sophomores rush?

Music is so time consuming and the students seem so close.
She may find complete happiness very soon...(and the phone will stop ringing!

)

Best of everything to her!

momoftwo · #35 09-06-2003, 10:04 AM

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Originally posted by justamom
I hope she settles in and the auditions work out for her!

You may have mentioned this, I can't remember. Do GLOs on her campus recruit in the Spring? Do a lot of Sophomores rush?

Music is so time consuming and the students seem so close.
She may find complete happiness very soon...(and the phone will stop ringing! )

Best of everything to her!

As far as formal recruitment, I think it only occurs in the fall. I think a number of the houses do COB. And I don't think rushing as a sophomore would be as problematic as it appears to be in the South.

My husband and I never thought we'd be in this position where we wish she wouldn't call (so much). It's so hard to hear her being miserable--I'm having a hard time sleeping after we talk!

The high school sweetheart is being kind of a putz and that doesn't help things at all.

Thanks for your good wishes! I'm sure by Thanksgiving this will all be a distant memory!

Munchkin03 · #36 09-06-2003, 10:46 AM

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Originally posted by momoftwo

The high school sweetheart is being kind of a putz and that doesn't help things at all.

It's always been my belief that those "hometown honey" situations tend to negatively cloud the first semester of college, especially for girls. When I was a counselor with the first-years, 75% of the first semester drama was about boyfriends at home (the boys tended to break up with their girls during the summer). It really stilted their social lives and interactions during those crucial first weeks when groups and interests started to gel, and when those couples break up (which they usually do by Thanksgiving), the person is usually scurrying to find a group, when most of the big social interactions were made in September.

We have Deferred Rush, and some of the PNMs have told us that they didn't consider Rushing until they broke up with their HS sweetheart and realized that they didn't have many friends at school, or even if they did remain dating, the girl usually realizes that another group of friends would be a good thing to have. This all sounds terribly pessimistic, but I know that boy problems can really cloud one's happiness at college. When that resolves itself, I suspect (from personal experience) that things will get better.

33girl · #37 09-06-2003, 11:47 AM

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Originally posted by momoftwo
The high school sweetheart is being kind of a putz and that doesn't help things at all.

And I know you and dadoftwo are being smart parents and not saying a word about it, right?

As nothing drives people closer together...I used to thank my parents on a regular basis for not voicing their objections about my first ex, as I would have probably ended up married to the wabol just to tick them off.

momoftwo · #38 09-06-2003, 01:49 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl
And I know you and dadoftwo are being smart parents and not saying a word about it, right? As nothing drives people closer together...I used to thank my parents on a regular basis for not voicing their objections about my first ex, as I would have probably ended up married to the wabol just to tick them off.

Nope, not saying anything. I figure if it doesn't reach its natural conclusion, they'll be ghosts in each others' lives forever; they were very close for quite a while. (He's a good kid but seems to be pretty conflicted right now.)

LouisaMay · #39 09-06-2003, 02:11 PM

I called home almost every day the whole way through college. I'm married now and in graduate school (far from home), and I still talk to my mom almost every single day! Yes, my mom has had to hear a lot of tearful calls and I know my troubles often kept her up at night, but we are so close now! I ended up loving college, but even when I was really happy, I couldn't wait to share everything with my parents.

College is such an exciting time.

LM

KappaKittyCat · #40 09-06-2003, 02:22 PM

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
It's always been my belief that those "hometown honey" situations tend to negatively cloud the first semester of college, especially for girls. When I was a counselor with the first-years, 75% of the first semester drama was about boyfriends at home (the boys tended to break up with their girls during the summer). It really stilted their social lives and interactions during those crucial first weeks when groups and interests started to gel, and when those couples break up (which they usually do by Thanksgiving), the person is usually scurrying to find a group, when most of the big social interactions were made in September.

We have Deferred Rush, and some of the PNMs have told us that they didn't consider Rushing until they broke up with their HS sweetheart and realized that they didn't have many friends at school, or even if they did remain dating, the girl usually realizes that another group of friends would be a good thing to have. This all sounds terribly pessimistic, but I know that boy problems can really cloud one's happiness at college. When that resolves itself, I suspect (from personal experience) that things will get better.

My hometown honey dumped me at the end of my freshman year. I joined Kappa the following fall.

beachgal118 · #41 09-06-2003, 04:35 PM

You should have seen the phone bill my freshman year!!! I called home at least twice a day, usually in tears about one thing or another. I was homesick most of the year. I still call home frequently, but since I have a limited number of daytime minutes, I try to save my calls for nights and weekends

SuperSister · #42 09-07-2003, 12:35 AM

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Originally posted by KappaKittyCat
My hometown honey dumped me at the end of my freshman year. I joined Kappa the following fall.

I won't get into my whole *loooooooong* story but my ex forced me to drop out of a membership program. Something I *highly* regret now and messed up other things for me later in college. That's life . . . at least I'm rid of him now!